responsible behaviour

hi Michelle Sanzgiri! I understand your concerns. let him earn for whatever new things u have to buy for him, till then let him work with old leftover things. for Instance , if he loses his pencil box, let him search the house for small pencil and erasers and an old pouch. if he wants a new one then till next week he needs to behave responsibly, and keep his belongings at his place, help u with keeping used dishes in kitchen and cleaning his room. decide 10 points for each of his good behavior and 5 points for satisfactory and 0 point for not listening . by the end of one week u can total it and convert the points into money and reward him with a new pencil box. he will for sure value his efforts and be careful not to loose it next time . hope this helps!!

thanks Shikha for the Valuable advise, I have tried this with him in the past but it becomes difficult for a working parent to track everybit, specially when there r over pampering grandparents who keep hiding their small mistakes which then lead to bigger ones, initially it was only pencils and books but since 2 years he looses his blazers, sweaters, new bats, football. sometimes I feel he has stopped valuing things, and in the little time I get it becomes difficult to imbibe cultures and ensure they follow it.

hi again! Michelle since people at home are supportive of him , he is taking advantage of their backing. I believe it's important to share your concerns with them politely in his absence. Let them understand if it continues , tomorrow he can cause irreparable loss. so as his well-wisher it is their duty to let him know where he is going wrong. also u could involve him in community service on weekends say for instance he could donate food and clothes to needy and poor. u could show him the condition in which they survive. on his way back home discuss, how people have been struggling to have square meals a day. what value money carries for them , and what they could have done with the same amount that he has lost in loosing out his belongings. I am sure looking at their plight, and seeing people's sufferings he would understand the value of money. hope this helps!!!

hi again! Michelle since people at home are supportive of him , he is taking advantage of their backing. I believe it's important to share your concerns with them politely in his absence. Let them understand if it continues , tomorrow he can cause irreparable loss. so as his well-wisher it is their duty to let him know where he is going wrong. also u could involve him in community service on weekends say for instance he could donate food and clothes to needy and poor. u could show him the condition in which they survive. on his way back home discuss, how people have been struggling to have square meals a day. what value money carries for them , and what they could have done with the same amount that he has lost in loosing out his belongings. I am sure looking at their plight, and seeing people's sufferings he would understand the value of money. hope this helps!!!

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Michael.. usually at his pre-adolescent age children seems to explore and have their own opinions.. at this stage the ownership and obligation need to be explained to the children through the act.. rather than through speech parents should act in accordance to the message they wish to provide to the child. They should start saying.. these are my things I should keep it this way. The other thing is children are getting the lost things easily so they have no value for the lost things.. so also work on that. Talk to the grand parents regarding this type of nurturing for the future of child.. avoid talking this in front of the children...

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Hi. my son is 9 years old .. since last few months I have been observing that his behaviour has changed so much.. he does not behave n speak properly n looses his temper over petty things.. I m very worried.. pls help

hi Geetanjali Suri! it could be related to some peer pressure that he could be facing at school, or may be adjustment problem in school. Geetanjali don the hat of a friend and speak to him. try and find out whats bothering him.. or u could ask his father to do a man to man talk to him and help him open up. let him know u r by his side no matter what.. spend time with him and do his counseling everyday by motivating him.. hope this helps.

Thanks a load ma'm for ur advice