Created by Updated on May 09, 2017
hi,,,,my baby is 4. 6 yrs old..... he is very active in school,,,naughty bhi h,,,,,he always want to play,,,,he play at home also with me when come back from school... he is having a friend group in park too but my problem is that,,,sometimes he play with park friends sometimes not.... most of the time when he goes to park,,he sits alone and observe all wht his friends doing but not participate... he got confused wht to do... he don't enjoy... am very worried ...plz give me some solutions....
| May 09, 2017
hi Vandana Kamboj! I understand your concerns! does he go to the park everyday? are the children in the park of his age? have u ever asked him the reason for his sitting alone ? if yes what was his reply? please try and observe them from a distance and observe the group's behavior towards him. look for - are they welcoming ? even if he approaches them do they involve him in play or activity ? what are the points on which they have arguments ? do they reach a consensus ? if no, who wins the argument mostly? Vandana this kind of observation would give u an idea , if he is too submissive or too dominating or he is being bullied and group behavior towards him. once u r able to understand the reason , try and help him deal with that situation through role play or a mock drill. I am sure with your intervention he would be able to adjust in the group. hope this will be of help to u!
| May 22, 2017
we can take following steps to boost their confidence.. 1. ask their opinion and praise them for sharing their thoughts 2) give them freedom to take decisions regarding themselves such as what to wear, what to eat, which game they want to play etc. 3) motivate them to participate in activities of their interest. 4) praise them for even participating and tell them participation is more important than winning. 5) when they do special things for us, don't forget to praise them and appreciate their efforts . 6) make them feel special by making favorite dish of their choice, make cards, giving them their favorite items as gifts. 7) let them know u will be there as their constant support no matter what. 8) most importantly hug them often and keep telling them ' I love u baby',' u r special to me', ' we r proud of u'.