Created by Updated on Feb 16, 2018
hi everyone.. I just want your suggestions... actually I am writing in Hindi this time sayd main apni bat samjha saki aplogo ko. mera 4sal ka beta hain wo ajkl 4 -5 din se school nhi Jana Chahta hain.. Jane k time hamesa kahta hain mujhe nhi Jana Maine use samjhaya bhut bt uski ek hi bat hai mujhe nhi Jana?isse pahle wo achhe se jata tha smile krk.. aj mujhe Usk class teacher ka call aya ki actually agr class me kisi dusre bache ko wo ma'am loud voice me bolti hain to Mera beta rone lagta hain... sayd use ye lagta hain ki usse data ha raha hain.. aur puchhe pr kuch batata bhi nhi sirf rota hain. waise mere bete be mujhe kaha hai ki maama school me Sare log loud awaj me batein krte hain.. ma'am bhi loud bolti hai Kabhi Kabhi to mujhe achha nhi lgta. ab aap batey ki main use kaise samjhau kyuki I m worried for him.. abhi to LKG me hain age formal school me ya next class me use insab chizo ko face krna hoga. akhir what is the problem.. ye sensitivity hain ya koi aur prblm hai. give me some gd effective suggestions... I need your help
| Feb 16, 2018
Hi Marium, I think its Sensitivity issue. Even my daughter complains noise in her school van, certain kids screaming, jumping and teasing younger kids at school etc. she does not like watching tv, songs etc in loud voice, she always prefers a calm and peaceful atmosphere. She too complains that her classmates are loud, teacher is loud, etc. Of-late i think she has accepted that certain places n people are different from her. Everytime when she complained or complains abt someone being loud(expressing their anger or happiness) etc i ask why do u think they behaved so? She would come out with some reasoning she could derive from the situation. I always tell her that everyone is different both physically and emotionally and hence they look and show emotions differently. The point i am trying to make here is, talk to your kid and i see you are. Tell him that there is nothing to fear or feel offended. Exhibiting emotions is natural. tell him that different people exhibit it in different ways. All you need to focus is how to train him to accept things out of his comfort zone. He is in LKG now right, just started going out of your cocoon and exploring the world outside and i feel its natural. Appreciate him for being sensitive, dont force him to be strong and bold. its not true that sensitive kids are not bold or strong they have theirs well in control. Sudha.
| Feb 16, 2018
hi Shikha thank you but aisa hamesa nhi hota use JB bhi Maine usse puchha hai ki ma'am apko dantti hain to ussne kaha nhi ...mujhe nhi dantti dusre baby ko bolti hai. and ghr me bhi agr Usk Papa usse loud awaj me bat kr le to use lgta hai ki usse data ja raha hain and he started crying.... to kya hain akhir ye is he very sensitive or any thing else... how to tackle him
| Feb 16, 2018
hi Marium! aap dheere dheere Bacche ko desensitize karey, teacher ke Saath class ke baad ya, early morning time spend karne ko kahe. jaise jaise bacchey ki rapport Aachi hogi teacher ke Saath, aur woh connect Kar payega, waise waise uska darr bhi Kam hota jayega. agar aapko kisi expert ki sahayta leni pade, bacceey ke darr ko Kam karne ke liye to aap woh bhi le skatey hai. bacchey ko na darne par , aap reward aur praise karey.