Created by Updated on Jul 05, 2017
my nine ur daughter has people foebia,can't face people and oversensitive and emotional. what to do
| Jul 05, 2017
hi Sunita Raina Bhat! I do understand your concern. how does she behave when sees strangers around, in the sense what's her immediate reaction? does that happen when just strangers are around or even with people she is familiar with? has her teacher ever complained to u regarding any such behavior? how do u deal with it? please answer these questions so that we could help u better.
| Jul 05, 2017
hi Shikha, thanks for ur concern. Ok, will tell u in detail. Actually earlier she wasn't like that. she used to go to school happily with her bfast done, at DAT time we were in Jaipur. Since we shifted here in gurgaon,obviously her school got changed. Dat time she was in Lkg. Their C. T was very strict and she used to treat with kids very badly. Touch wood my daughter is gud in studies and other curricular activities. During her first week in new school, the teacher punished a student for disturbing the class,she even beated him. From dat very day I saw an abrupt change in my daughter. The next day she told me mma I don't want to go school bcz and every day she began to vomit before leaving to school and this happened for two yrs. Now we hv changed her school. Things hv been changed a bit but dart(foebia) is still inside her. As far as her family is concerned she feels shy whenever we tell her to sing song for us. Doctor had told dat u don't hv to pamper her too much. plz help mam.
| Jul 05, 2017
thanks for replying. . Sunita u should have immediately dealt with that situation when she was in that school by talking to the school management regarding that teacher . the poor child and rest of the children had to carry on with that fear for one long year with the same teacher. probably that's the reason fear is ingrained in her mind and she has generalized it for all strangers. u could try and make her join an activity club as per her choice wherein she could learn dance, music, drama, any instrument or any sport. this would help her come out of her shell.. focus on strengths and praise her. don't force her to perform in front of strangers if she is not comfortable. let her take her time. also if u r going to have visitors at home, tell her in advance about them, share how do u know them, their names ,their children's names, and many other details,show their pics,this would take away her fear and she would no longer feel that she's going to meet strangers. praise her in front of them which would make her feel good and be more comfortable in front of them. click pics with them, so that next time they come she is more comfortable with them as she has memories to share. I am sure with time she will come overcome her inhibitions. hope that helps!