Stubburn n aggressive

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Updated on May 12, 2015
Hi frens My daughter is just 5 1/2yrs old... she is eldest.. my younger daughter is of 4yrs n I hv just delivered my little one .their brother.... I'm busy aid him now... BT d main problem is my eldest daughter is very stubborn... she hardly listens to me n least bothered abt anything... just do what she wants to do... though I try to spend quality time with her but still she hardly cares.. what do do .plz tell..

| May 12, 2015
Hi Divya jain Pls refer to this blog- https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/handling-aggression-in-children/198

| May 13, 2015
Hi Divya jain,I understand how you feel about your daughter. I am sure you are doing everything to help her. The reason behind this kind of behaviour is that as children get older their level of energy increases dramatically. They are interested in doing a lot of things that their adults do but are unable to do so because they cannot express themselves. What you should try and do is channelize her energies into games and other stimulating activities that will keep her gainfully occupied. In addition, children are always seeking attention from their parents. They will try to do so either with positive behaviour or with negative behaviour. If she thinks she is getting your attention with her negative behaviour, she will continue it. What you should do in this case is to spend more time with her so that she feels she is getting enough attention, and simultaneously start giving greater attention and praise to her positive behaviour. Hope this helps you.

| May 13, 2015
Hi Divya jain, I understand your concern, patience is crucial when dealing with aggressive behavior. Warn her every time when your daughter tries to throw tantrums by explaining her the consequences and talk to her firmly. When your child does not follow in spite of warning the consequences, be consistent and follow the consequences. Else, the child will fail to understand the cause and effect relationship.