studying issue

Hi Sejal, my child is 11. Computer, tv, psp , internet. all's there. And at this age, scolding, shouting leave me drained but dont do the job. So, i tried these few things, they worked in combination. 1. Just begin to keep mum, and they will notice the sudden silence, and when he noticed, i simply conveyed that I do not want to create unpleasantness, one day he will realize that he is whiling away his time and there is more wonderful experiences to be had (although inside I cannot let him waste even one more day). 2. On a talk I posted on parentune itself, the experts conveyed to me that this is the most challenging age for these kids, - they are neither kiddos, nor adoloscents, interests tend to decline, that thought helped me get a grip on my haplessness and lack of patience. 3. His father and I conveyed to him on some occasions that we are doing everything for him, providing everything, he has a goal to become a pilot , but now we see him drifting away from it and we want to have a wonderful next 6 or so years with him, before he moves on to the outside world, but his lack of discipline and focus is robbing the family of good experiences somewhere - all conveyed in a very subtle way so that it triggers some thoughts but does not come as threat. These have worked for me, And last but never the least, I do practice the old parenting style at times - lay down rules that must be followed. tc

thanks a lot neetu !!!

hi sejal.. well i wud say engage ur daughter in some outdoor activities or some classes.... or u can even invite her friends over all these will automatically cut down the usage of comp. , tv, net.... Well guess what i do with my 13 year old son... no sooner i feel he is spending too much time on any of it... i play some educational games with him.. like word building, sentence building.. extempo and so on... u can also try setting time for each like i have set a rule at home that he get just 1 hr of tv on weekdays and 3 hour on week ends. 1 hr of computer only on weekends except for project works.... every time he breaks the rule or watches extra reduce their timing.... rule of the thumb is they dont listen to u just cut down or dont give or do something that they love the most..