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Hi Subha! It is indeed frustrating to indulge in everyday struggle to make ur child follow instructions and conform to those. You could try following options: 1. Don't let yr tempers rise. 2. Be calm while talking to yr child. 3. Make him sit and listen to u while giving instructions. Since children are busy doing their own things, most of the times they don't even know what the instructions given were. 4. While giving instructions be firm in yr tone and tell him politely if not followed he might have to face consequences such as time out, being deprived from favorite activity such as watching TV, or going out to play or play games indoors. 5. ask him to repeat what u said to ensure he has understood and is aware of what follows in case of non conformity. 6. Appreciate him for abiding. 7. Reward him by giving 15 minutes extra of his favorite activity or cooking his fav food. 8. Set out a routine for him in which there is time for all the activities including play ,rest, sleep ,mealtime,studies etc. With 15 to 20 minutes relaxation. 9. Involve him in day to day chores and taking care of his own things such as setting his bag, uniform, keeping things at place. 10. Try to build the bond between u two by respecting each other wishes and needs. Hug him often, take him in yr lap listen to what he has to share, praise him. Share with him why it is important to follow the routine. Hope this helps!

Thank u so much shikha. Will follow thiss

Hi shikaa,it helped me wat u hav suggested. bbut I hav another one to discuss with u how can I practice him for competitions would like to engage him in stage activities at home he is doing better but wen comes to stage I think he s afraid f crowd hw can i overcome h7s stage fear bough m7ke too for practicing. Hw can I convince for participating n competition. Pls .....competition would lie to engage him is show and tell competition c also also give me some ideas.. He s kg 2 class.. I. e ukg

Hi Subha! I'm happy to learn those suggestions were useful to u. Stage fear is something which even most adults are not able to overcome. U will be able to do away with it only with practice. Try out the following : 1. Make him practice his lines everyday on the mike kept on a raised platform to give the feeling of stage. Please ensure he is thorough with his lines.. u could also demonstrate how u want him to speak. While demonstrating be confident and clear, the way u want him to perform. 2. Appreciate him by a loud clap,hug when he is done by saying 'he was really brilliant. ' 3. Once he is prepared he could speak lines in front of family members who could give a huge round of applause for him. 4. Then he could also if he wishes to, perform in front of distant relatives/cousins etc. 5. U could ask his opinion while buying a toy for him/his dress / dish etc at the shop/restaurant . Ask him to order food for himself at the restaurant or say to shopkeeper what he wants to buy. This would make him feel important and give a boost to his self confidence. This method is a step by step process of helping him overcome his stage fear. 5. If the choice of topics has been left on u, choose a topic he feels about, or knows about alraedy for ex . In a show and tell activity he could speak lines on his favorite toy, game, object ex. Play doh game or any stuff toy or even his fav toy car. This would help him describe better as lines would come from his heart. And one would feel the joy and happiness on his face while he is describing it. While making lines please ensure u write in points, as this would help him in learning. Take his help and make use of words suggested by him, then it would seem to be natural rather than mugged up. It is important to note ,the louder the sound of yr applause,praise ,the better the performance. Also this would help him overcome his fear. hope this helps!

Thank u so Ooooooo much for ur guidance.