Created by Updated on Feb 25, 2013
My daughter is 3+ yrs old. I am a working mother and she stays with her grandparents and her uncle, aunt (housewife) and their kids while I am out for work. She has recently started hiding things from me. As her grandparents hardly scold her or point her that this is wrong she thinks if I will tell mumma she will scold me or tell me not to do that. I have although tried to convince her that I will never scold you if you tell me the truth but she rather has developed this habit. I dont know what to do.
| Feb 25, 2013
hey Ritu, You could perhaps give her a star for telling the truth every time, and when she collects a number of stars, reward her - take her out or do something she looks forward to.. or perhaps you could tell her stories about kids who lie and indirectly make your point and wait to see if there's any change. usually with me, indirectly driving home the point has worked when direct approach didn't.. all the best..
| Feb 25, 2013
Hey Ritu, take a look at the following link. It is a discussion on a similar topic. In addition to what Neena has said, you may find a few other tips there too. Here it is https://www.parentune.com/parent-talk/naughty-child/295 Hope this helps.
| Feb 26, 2013
Ritu, in addition to the above suggestions, I would also like to suggest you try to spend some quality time with your child when you are free. I know you would love to rest on weekends, but this is the time when you can actually get your child to know you more and give 100% attention to each other. take her out for picnics, go to the park. Dont get guilt tripped into buying toys, but do go together to the bookshop and browse together, asking her what she would like to hear that night. Same for toy shop. On Mondays, continue the trend by waking up 15 mins early, and snuggling in bed for some time. Once she wakes up, why dont you play a small game in bed, or tell her a small story about your own life. Then tell her that you will have to go to work but you will be back to her as soon as you can because you miss her so much. Then softly tell her how it hurts you if she lies or hides things. Tell her that you are best friends and she is your little soldier and she should not hide. Tell her you will always understand even if she does something wrong but comes and tells you about it. Dont make it a big deal. Just slip it in your conversations once in a while. Children have wondrous brains. Your child actually will start thinking of right and wring more if she knows you will be hurt.