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5 Best-kept secrets of an all-rounder!

Rachna Swarup
3 to 7 years

Created by Rachna Swarup
Updated on Jan 17, 2017

5 Best kept secrets of an all rounder

Do you remember that child in your class who was good at everything? She got good grades, did well in sports, was interested in music and had a bunch of cool friends. She even got selected for the school play. And what’s worse, she always appeared to be having a whole lot of fun. And you wondered (and quite frankly I continued to wonder till very recently) how on-earth did she get time for everything.

The mystery confused me when I was younger. And then it faded off in some dark corner for many many years. Only to reappear and haunt me, as my son headed on from one grade to next, I probed further to solve this puzzle. And finally I discovered the five best-kept secrets that are the making of confidence, performance, passion and personality. Here they are:

Play: There is some wisdom in the saying “All work and no play makes Jack a dull Boy.” So allow some play time and hobbies. Play nourishes the mind. And hobbies teach child to think about problems and formulate possible solutions. Skills that are valuable not only for school work but also for life. It will empower a child and improve her self esteem. Just like you need to eat breakfast to lose weight – your child needs to play to focus on studies. So, don’t compromise and don’t negotiate on play time even during exams.

Taste success: Can you bake a cake that you’ve never tasted? Or wear a dress that you’ve never seen. I guess not. Then how can children strive for success without tasting success. Victory is a unique experience- the elation and happiness; the pride and euphoria; the moment of being a hero. And a child deserves to experience it- over and over again- before he can strive for it.

I know this sounds like a paradox. How can you experience success before being successful? But fear not. Help her achieve her first few successes. Gift them to her. Help her win a small friendly race. Prepare her for the poem recitation, write the best homework essay with her, or the best project work- and let her feel the elation of being a hero! And she will take the next leap all by herself. Soon- it will become a habit. She would work harder, longer and smarter- just for that feeling of victory.

Concepts not chapters: Spend time and teach your little one. If she is not in senior school, you can still teach her. Focus on discussing concepts. Go beyond the school text. Share a few interesting trivia. Stay involved and learn together. School work will become a cake-walk. And your child will understand the underlying logic of the lesson. It will stay with her much longer than the final exams!

Let go: Inspite of all the efforts, there would be times when reports are bad and morale is down. These are times of introspection and correction. Don’t take the convenient route and blame the child or the teacher. Be ruthless in pointing areas where she needs more work. And then forgive old mistakes. Just like that- turn a new leaf and go back to the grind.

Work hard: Yes. Have a work regimen. Fix a time of day for work. And work hard. The best are those who have worked the hardest and worked the longest. So in the hour or two that she studies everyday- make sure she is focused. 

But most importantly, remember that she is your special one. She is unique and beautiful.  Don't compare her with anyone. because no one can be as perfect as she already is!

These are five secrets I have discovered. If you think there are some more please do share with us in the comments section below. Looking forward to read fellow moms’ views on this!

Happy parenting!

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| Oct 03, 2017

very beautifully conceptualized n explained.

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| Oct 03, 2017

its a good ideas about child growth... but in my case my daughter is 4yrs old... she wants to win all d time.. she wants others to lose for her victory.. specially with us.. for so many times i hv made her understand that its nt possibke that u only win always... others also win sometimes.. if u want to win then u hv to work hard... hw to make her understand this sportsmanship???

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| Feb 21, 2017

i agree wid d article above . ..bt wid dese... always gve ur child rewards for der achievements... it attracts dem in initial stage... n later dey bcum habitual of victory... evn if he or she does nt win... gve dem rewards for der participation... coz participation is more imp. den winning....

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| Feb 13, 2017

very beautifully conceptualized

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| Feb 11, 2017

thanks, very deeply explained. well said

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| Feb 09, 2017

very beautifully said

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| Feb 08, 2017

Very nice & helpful article

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| Feb 05, 2017

well said....

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| Feb 02, 2017

well compiled and useful blog.

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| Jan 28, 2017

thanx for these tips. needed them the most at this time.

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| Jan 26, 2017

I will try for my daughter also

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| Jan 19, 2017

raidhuh

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| Jan 19, 2017

i m already following all these... but the area i need to work more is making my son more concentrated... he is very gud in sports and academic but his mind doesn't Stay or choose one thing at a tym..

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| Jan 18, 2017

superb

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| Jan 18, 2017

nice

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| Jan 18, 2017

very nice

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| Jan 18, 2017

definetly worth to follow article... very nice

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| Jan 18, 2017

really interesting and seems true.... worth to follow

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| Jan 18, 2017

superb tips.

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| Jan 18, 2017

very useful article .

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| Jan 18, 2017

very useful article

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| Jan 17, 2017

very good thoughts. I agree to all of them. I have many takeaways from this article. thanks

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