Are You Over-Parenting, Impact on Child, Signs of Over Parenting

Are you Over-Parenting? - Impact on Child, Signs of Over Parenting

3 to 7 years

Created by Nidhi Sharma
Updated on Oct 16, 2017

Are you Over Parenting Impact on Child Signs of Over Parenting

Parenting is an art that requires our hands on dedication, as you are responsible for your child. As a parent, you are responsible for raising your child, and supporting her physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development.

Parenting skills vary from parent to parent. Some of you may adapt to your child's needs immediately when she is born, and some of you may take time. As a mother you do everything to keep your child happy, healthy and safe. But then, at the same time a question pops up in your mind – how much Is too much? Where do we draw the line between parenting and overparenting? Read on to find out!

What Is Overparenting?

As a parent, your child's physical and emotional wellbeing is always at the top of your mind. But have you noticed yourself hovering around your child too much? Do you find yourself rushing to tie his laces for him when he takes a minute longer, or do you run to pacify him in the middle of a cricket game where he scrapes his knee? You might need to take a step back, because these are signs of overparenting.

Taking charge of (and not just guiding) every decision of his, and rushing in to protect him from every little mistake (that he can potentially learn from) is overparenting
If you don't allow for deviations from normal, and scope to learn from errors, your child's development is hindered

How Do I Know I am Overparenting?

Here are some tell-tale signs of overparenting.

You hesitate to give your child responsibilities:You start to worry that your child won't do the task the way you want it done, or you're anxious that he will tire himself out doing it
You have endless arguments with your child: Do you find yourself squabbling with your toddler about not eating the fruit in his snack box, or your tween about getting a haircut? This might mean that your expectations are way too high
Your child's failure upsets you too much: When your child has lost that coveted prize for the painting competition, does it upset you? It might be time to take a step back
You're too disappointed about unmet expectation: Did you want your child to like ballet? Or did you want him to take to the swimming pool like a fish? And when it didn't happen, were you crushed? Again, this might be a sign of overparenting
You're throwing tantrums: Do you constantly fight on your child's behalf? With that friend's mother because he took your child's favorite pencil, with the teacher because your child wasn't in the Annual Day play – just to name a few. Throwing tantrums on his behalf is a clear sign of overparenting

What Impact Does Overparenting Have On My Child?

Overparenting (also commonly called Helicopter Parenting) has the reverse effect of what you desire. Your child's development takes a beating because of the constant attention that he doesn't need. Here are a few ways in which your child is affected by overparenting:

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Lack of self-confidence: If you're always doing things for your child instead of letting him do them himself, he's probably going to lack self-confidence as he grows upg
Low self-esteem: Constantly micromanaging your child's choices and decisions can send a message to your child that she's not capable enough to do things on his or her owng
Fear of taking risks: If your child has always been in your shadow, there's a good chance that he will be afraid of taking risks later in lifeg
Fear of failure: A child who has been sheltered from failure by a parent who is over-involved at every step has a natural fear of failingg
No connection with himself: When your child has constantly been told what to do, what he is capable of and what he's not, has things done for him, and not given the opportunity to make mistakes, he doesn't build a connection with himself. He doesn't know what he truly likes or dislikes, and what his strengths and weaknesses areg
Depression: Low self-esteem and confidence can possibly result in depressiong

How Can I Stop Overparenting?

As a parent, you have your share of anxieties and insecurities, which lead to overparenting your child. You can, however, avoid this through some practice:

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Work on your own needs: Many a time, overparenting is a result of not meeting our own emotional needs. And the best way to do this is by doing something for yourself
Don't overindulge your child: While your child's wellbeing is your responsibility, don't confuse true needs with indulgent wants. Your child needs your love and attention. Don't go overboard with demands and rewards
Let your child take responsibility at home: Don't do everything for your child. Allow him the opportunity to wash his plate after a meal, sort out his laundry and clean his room. You'll be surprised how he thrives with encouragement
Let him make mistakes: When your child takes up a task and makes a mistake, be there for him. Offer support and empathy, and don't resort to an “I told you so” followed by doing the task yourself

Overparenting leads to a child without individuality and a serious lack of self-respect. Take a step back, give your child the wings to fly and watch him soar.

Did you find our blog on overparenting useful? Do you overparent your child or do you know someone who does? Please do share your thoughts, views and feedback with us in the comments section below!