Dealing with the emotions brought about by loss

Ekta Malhotra Bhattacharjee
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Created by Ekta Malhotra Bhattacharjee
Updated on Sep 29, 2015

Dealing with the emotions brought about by loss
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We all post about our children and look for information for their betterment, but today happens to be a day when I am re-living my childhood (in my head at least). The rain and the breeze takes me back to my April session break when we went visiting my grandmother in Benaras (Varanasi). The one thing missing is the railway station right outside our boundary wall. I loved the noises of the station…. people…. coolies….. vendors…. the engine, and of course the rustic smells of food and coal. 
I stop my thoughts and think….. Why am I feeling like this today? And the answer brings tears back to my eyes. Its the 25th of June. I lost my naani on this day 26 years ago, a few years ago my uncle and last year same day my elder mama breathed his last. '
I am mourning by thinking of all the happy times.
Mourning…. something we all do at various points in life and for different reasons. But it's also the one thing we never look at in the face. There is no prescribed way to mourn. For that matter there is no one way to mourn. Anything that causes pain, it is our tendency to keep our children away from it. And in the bargain we almost never teach them to mourn. They are not a part of rituals around death. They are made to go to a relatives or neighbour's house or sit in a separate room with the doors shut. They are almost not “allowed” to mourn the loss of a loved one. But do they not feel the loss? Do they not feel the pain? Do they not feel the emptiness of that relationship? Do the not want to ask someone “why”? Don't they want to know where has the loved one gone? 
I have no answers….. only questions…..
Today as a mother of 2, a 4 year old boy and a 2 month old girl I wonder as life progresses for us how will I handle it?
I just hope that in the process of “protecting” my children I don't bring up children who become adults that are disconnected from the basic emotions of life and worry about displaying them. 
Fingers crossed for the future.
A smile on the face for the memories from the past.


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| Oct 06, 2015

Nicely put!! A question that hovers around my mind too.

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