How to become the coolest mom!
Created by Leena Jha Updated on Jun 20, 2017
Time flies really fast! There was a time when I brought my son for his annual dental check-up. Today the young adult dragged me for the long neglected dental problem. I loved this role-reversal.
“Why are you so nervous?” He grasped my hand.
“I am not nervous.I just hate to wait outside the dentist. Is it really long or may be the time just stretches itself a bit… I don’t know….it is still a mystery to me.”
“Remember when you brought me here as a child?You brought those quiz-time cards along and we played the quizzing game. You made the waiting time our fun time. May be because of that I developed an interest in quizzing.”My son is an ardent quizzer and has won many accolades in school, College and even at the national level quiz competitions.
Nothing has been more intriguing to me than revisiting my son’schildhood with him. We were living the good old stress-free days again. Some made us laugh together and some brought tears in my eyes. Our chat was interrupted when a mother-son duo walked through the door.
After the initial formalities, the mother-son took a seat. Without wasting a moment, mother took out a phone from her bag and handed it to her son, “lo…shanti se baithoaurkhelo(sit quietly and play)”. She then took out another phone, and got busy on it.
The quietness engulfed us too. Silently we were watching them, son playing some game and mother was perhaps watching a video. After a few minutes, my son broke the silence. “You remember Ma once I was really angry with you and had said that you are the world’s cruelest mom.”
“Is it? Really? No… I don’t remember.”
“You had refused to buy PS2 for me and instead got a new badminton set for us.”
“Oh that!…I remember…. you were really mad at me that day. Then you told me that all your friends used to rave about the PS2 games and youfelt left out in their conversations.That I remember. But I didn’t remember that you named me the cruelest mom.” I smiled.
“Papa had gone to USA. You both had decided to gift me an iPad 1 on my birthday which he got from there. I was the first one to own an iPad in my class. But again I had to coax you to buy the games in it. But willingly got the permission to download the books.”
We again started talking about the games we played, the books we read, the holidays we took, and the time we spent together. Monopoly, mastermind, carom-board, ludo, snakes and ladder, brainvita, zinga, badminton, cycling, antrakshiri, Harry Potter, Percy Jackson, Roald Dahl’s…there were many. The family time, the bonding, the games, the win and the teasing after a loss; so many years of memories of good old days, still so fresh in our mind.
Suddenly he became serious and affectionately held my hand, “Thanks Ma for being such a cool Mom. If you were not strict with the gadgets then my childhood would have been really lonely, only me and my gadgets. I wouldn’t have had such an amazing memory of my growing up years and the time we all spent together.”
I looked in the direction of the other mother-son duo sitting in the room and imagined ten years hence they visiting a dentist together. I could not help ask myself, “What will they talk about?”
| Aug 05, 2017
your article bought tears in me. this is the same way i spend time with my son and now im proud mom of 14 year old who treats me as best buddy mother hood is the best for any woman
| May 29, 2017
yes playing batmitton with my son is more fun for me than watching social websites. we should not waste the time we spend with kids during their childhood once they grown they will be busy . dancing and cycling with my kids are a great exercises for me even studying with them is also a great time thank god i decided to be a homemaker. story telling is also a great time for our family.
| Jan 20, 2017
awesome Mom. Makes me think a lot.
| Jan 04, 2017
u r indeed "the coolest mom".
| Dec 27, 2016
intresting to read
| Oct 05, 2016
really awesome story. it really teaches you a lesson that we should all keep in mind. now in days we are all so into our smartphones and our electronics that every minute that we spent on it is a minute taken away from our loved ones. in that moment when we are taking our last breath we wish we would have dedicated it more to our kids than a stupid phone.
| Oct 04, 2016
very good and motivating lines.... this is not about kids but also for parents to be away from gadgets when they are with kids. nowdays we are also so much indulge with phones n gadgets dat we unknowingly forget it sequences. But this blogs of yours will be a reminder for us to make memories...
| Oct 02, 2016
Good line..... what would they talk...... every parent needs to ponder
| Oct 01, 2016
Parenting is daunting and passes through different phases. A phase when we are running around them, correcting them, explaining them and now is a phase on every step outside my daughter reminds how to be careful on road and stay vigilant while using public transport.
| Sep 30, 2016
i hope every young parent gets to read this! Loved it and brought me back memories of my childhood wid my cool mamma too... hats off!!
| Sep 30, 2016
delightful :) I am wondering what we will talk about.. me n my son.. I hope we make great n fun memories for that :):)
| Sep 30, 2016
Such delightful and heartwarming read, Leena. I'll always remember your ending phrase "What will they talk" This is more than enough to keep my son away from gadgets.
| Sep 30, 2016
Very well written!! And it is so true.. and very difficult not to give gadgets to our kids. Cheers!!! for being the coolest momma.