How to make your child sociable
Created by Latika Ratti Updated on Nov 23, 2019
They are the spark of our eyes, our heartbeat, and our life is so incomplete without them. We do our best to see a smile on their faces. Even though they may be naughty or full of innocence, we want them to play with other children, interact with peers, share their belongings, face the world with confidence, develop good self-esteem and be a loving and caring human being. We want them to be SOCIABLE. Who would like to see their child sitting in one corner, not mingling with other children or not participating in activities? No one! We all want our children to be extroverts, friendly, approachable and having a sharing nature. But some children do have certain traits of non-sociable nature. They love to be by themselves—play alone with their toys, prefer the company of their family or caretakers and like to be in their own cocoon created by their imagination. There is no harm in being an introvert. But in this era of tough competition in corporate and social world, one is expected to be conversant and socially active. How can we inculcate these traits in our children? We cannot and should not try and change their basic personalities, but we can teach them a few social survival skills so that they can stand on their own in a group setting. Here are some pointers:
• Leave them with other children and watch from far.
• Let them interact on their own. Let them make their own friends. Obviously at this age they will not analyze someone else before being friends with that child, but will be friends with the ones who also will be responsive to them. I have observed one thing in my toddler and that is that rather than making friends of her age she likes to be with DiDi’;s- girls who are older to her. But this is a common trait. Experts believe that it is only when they start school, will they be able to associate better with children of their own age group.
• Teach them to say Good Morning, Good Night, Hi, Thank You, Bye, and many more such courtesy words. It brings a caring attitude in children.
• Carry toys when you go with them to the playgrounds. This way they will learn to share their toys with other children. Even if it means exchanging toys which commonly happens. It will also encourage other children to want to come and interact with your child.
• To enhance their social skills we need to first practice it ourselves. Children do what we teach them and they practice what we role model in their presence: be polite with others, use courtesy words, help others. Show them that loving and caring for others will make them a better person to be with.
It’s easy to inculcate social intelligence in toddlers but difficult to maintain the same in adolescence and teenage. Some children are naturally shy and some who were socially active suddenly become shy when the reach this stage.
• As a parent you need to be patient and try to bring them out of this trait in a comfortable way.
• Do not blame them.
Believe in them: tt’s ok to be shy.
• Let them take their time to come out of this phase.
• Engage them in activities of their choice. Let them join some hobby class where they can interact with other children.
• Discuss the same with their teachers, so that they can involve them in maximum group activities.
• Do not criticize the type of friends they make, unless it’s not harming them morally.
• Be friends with the parents. Invite them over.
• Last but not the least have an active approach to help your children with their interpersonal skills—just play with them, be a role model, show them that people are important and help them build relationships.
Though it is very difficult to teach a toddler all about social skills, it becomes easier when they start pre-school since they are away from home, become interested in making friends, and learn to communicate their feelings. It will help them not only in their childhood but also in every walk of life.
| Jan 18, 2016
Some kids are very active and just can't sit at one place. Let the parents play some role in this. Make her sit at home and do some activity. So that, she gets accustomed to it. Also, teacher's are well trained to manage such a behaviour in children. Teacher's can start by giving her activity or toy which the child enjoys most. Or give her some activity which involves more of physical movement, since the child doesn't prefer sitting at one place. The child might take some time. Its very normal.
| Aug 31, 2016
we have started sending our kid to play school he's 2. 6 now. it's almost 2 mons completed and he doesn't interact with any of his frnds and he wants always to be alone. he didn't get the sharing habit. how can v change his mind. he's not ready to accept Wat v say
| Sep 14, 2016
Kids can behave in reserved manner sometimes. Try finding out why he is doing this? Is anything bothering him? Take him out more frequently among people. Let him play with children. Instead of pestering, just leave him to choose. Watching childrent play together might influence him. Call his peers home for some play date. Arrange games. Involve him completely. Tell his teachers to counsel him. I am sure with time he will improve. it is just his age which is bothering him. Give him some space and he will be fine.
| Jul 24, 2017
Hi, My daughter is shy but she tries to make friends , she even carry her toy or something to eat in the park so that she gets some friends and its her own idea. But main concern I am having is she's hesitant to try new things(games and activity etc. ). because of which she don't become a part of group. even she is not ready to join hobby classes or afraid of performing on stage. In birthday parties and gatherings, she don't want to get involved in games and activities because of the fear that she might not be able to do it properly, we boost her a lot but no success. Please suggest.
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