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How to say no to your child

Anurima
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How to say no to your child

A child can at times make it really hard for a parent to say no to- whether it is a toddler throwing tantrums over a toy or a teenager who has discovered his/her new-found independence and decides to talk back. In this blog, our proparent Anurima tells parents: 1) How to say no 2) Ways to say no nicely 3) How to handle angry outbursts 4) Tips on turning around negative experiences 5) When to say no to your child. Read on...


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malika saify

| Oct 14, 2017

very good suggtion i definate try al these one thanku.

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malika saify

| Oct 14, 2017

very good suggtion i definate try al these one thanku.

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malika saify

| Oct 14, 2017

very good suggtion i definate try al these one thanku.

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malika saify

| Oct 14, 2017

very good suggtion i definate try al these one thanku.

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Shilpi Jain

| Aug 24, 2017

thanks a lot

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Shilpi Jain

| Aug 24, 2017

thanks a lot

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Nita Jain

| Aug 16, 2017

very nice blog thank u for such a good ideas

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Nita Jain

| Aug 16, 2017

very nice blog thank u for such a good ideas

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Bindu Sugandhi

| Jun 07, 2017

good information thank u

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ruchi sri

| Jun 03, 2017

Really informative

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Asleena Benjamin

| May 31, 2017

very useful to me thanks a lot dear

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Roma Keny Bhatt

| May 09, 2017

very nice blog

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Archana Agarwal

| Mar 31, 2017

my son 3. 5 is also aggressive and hyper he doesnt understand how calmly i tell him when taken to a mall he won't stay at a place and wanders allover hope these tricks help me out

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Prema Taranga

| Mar 31, 2017

my son is 3yrs 9 months and he used to be a very aggressive and hyper kid. these are the exact remedies we followed and in no time.... now he is a very matured ( for his age) , understanding and an adorable kid now.

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Gopika Satish

| Mar 31, 2017

useful information. .thank you

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Seetha Venkatesh

| Mar 31, 2017

it's very good information ....thank you

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Vikas Bharti

| Mar 31, 2017

.... very very useful information. Thanks a lot.....

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deepskvk

| Mar 31, 2017

9 ...a very good idea...

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sameera zainul abid

| Mar 31, 2017

uh hv

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Ruchi Mahajan

| Feb 17, 2017

very nicely written. kids take benefit of ours. we should do such things in order to change their minds. They will learn right and wrong with their age. Thanku for this article. This will help lot of mothers.

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Komal Sodhi

| Feb 17, 2017

superb ideas .... I definitely try them

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Deshpande

| Feb 17, 2017

very good info

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Prathyusha Gayathri

| Feb 17, 2017

Very informative...

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Shanmuga

| Jan 27, 2017

Very thanks for valuable meesage

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Sridevi Pammi

| Jan 27, 2017

Thank you for valuable information

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Nandini

| Jan 27, 2017

I have just one rule , if u cry and yell and push u won't get anything. tell me , ask me I will say yes. and she gets to choose only one thing it usually works . I still have to deal with crying and yelling I just wait it out

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Meenakshi Subramaniam

| Jan 27, 2017

it's very true... but handling both kids I do get irritated n burst out. ll try to follow ur tips

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Archana M N

| Nov 06, 2016

Totally agree with the author! many points covered and this is relatable to each and every parent. I do follow most of the points with my extremely aggressive 4 year old son. Informing him beforehand and setting the expectations has definitely worked. But of course, kids are unpredictable and throw tantrums in public. I have ended up leaving my lunch/dinner half way through in restaurants because of his tantrums. Now I take out my child only after prepping him up..

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Sandeep Bharaj

| Nov 05, 2016

I find this very helping n informative.

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Sneha Chauhan

| Oct 25, 2016

Nicely explained.. I can relate this example with me..

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Sucharita Joshi

| Oct 23, 2016

Very useful tips.... but what to do with 1. 5 year old baby... Plz comment

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Sunita Jain

| Apr 12, 2016

Very informative not only for young ones,but also for teenagers!we can just use this tips by little bit changes accordingly

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Priya Modani

| Feb 26, 2016

Very informative... Even i need to take my kiddo to grocery shops very frequently so he is already informed that he will be getting one thing in a day

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Madhu Radder

| Dec 05, 2015

Thanks for the information

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Manjiri Dighe

| Dec 04, 2015

very useful tips... i have some queries. My son is 2. 5 years old. Like you gave an example of roshni.. we avoid taking him to reataurants as he keeps to going to all the tables. .. collects spoons... hits on glass plates and keeps running on the sofas. We ubderstand that he does self entertainment.. what to do.. so we avoid visiting such places where it could create embarassing situations. Secondly dont know why and from where it comes... but my son doesnt like me dancing at all. He starts crying if i participafe in dandiya or a society event. I have been singing and dancing with him at home before and he used to enjoy it. We have tried to probe him about him... but he simply cries aloud and doesnt let me go and enjoys other people dancing. Weird but want solution to handle .

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shilpa sharma

| Oct 20, 2015

Very useful tips.. Thanks you

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shamin don

| Oct 18, 2015

Loved all the points will surely keep all this in mind but the first point looks like bribing the child and teaching the child that to stop so n so behaviour ull b bribed for the same so the chit may get used to it

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Deepak Shukla

| Oct 08, 2015

Really useful tips. Thanks

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Vishal Lalji Chauhan

| Sep 20, 2015

Really helpful.... most of the parents deal with this everyday like me

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Bhaskar Dutta

| Sep 10, 2015

Nice and helpful tips.. Thanks for the article.

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Rashmi Rampal

| Sep 10, 2015

Wat abt a 2yrs old child.. They don't understand nething .. Hw to handle them

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Rachit Malhotra

| Sep 09, 2015

Thanks for the information... I think it will help a lot.....

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Snehlata

| Sep 08, 2015

Great tips,thanks,plz provide more new types in every situation

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Kirtirani

| Sep 08, 2015

Thanks for such precious articles. Kids r our gems. but they test our patience.

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Abhirami Lakshmanan

| Sep 07, 2015

Very useful article. Keep it up!! : ) God bless you!!

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Suhani Tataria

| Sep 07, 2015

Suhani tataria very useful information

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Sheetal Doshi

| Sep 07, 2015

V. Important information

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Priyanka Sharma

| Sep 02, 2015

Very nice article and very informative tooo

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Sunita Tirumala

| Aug 06, 2015

Hi Anurima, I'm New to this blog. Article is very informative nd will apply the same to my 4 and half year old son

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Gaganjeet Kaur

| Aug 02, 2015

Hi dear... my 5 year old daughter is very moody.. She is good in academics n all other extra curricular activities.. For example she is gud in dance.. n I m preparing her for dance competition in school.. but her sir said that if she is in mood than only she is in dance.. this is the matter in all other cases like elocution, rhyme competition.. How shud I explain her that competition does not depends upon mood????

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Parminder Kaur

| Aug 01, 2015

Hi Arunima... I'm new to your blog but find it really good n practical... My only way of handling my 4 yr toddler is to tell her repeatedly that she is no less than a princess n how a princess should behave... Touch wood we r the best of friends wen we are out... But will surely follow the art of saying no...

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Mutum Jenita

| Aug 01, 2015

Its very helpful article,want to read more and more,thnks

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Jayantkumar

| Jul 30, 2015

Very helpful

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Monika Patel

| Jul 30, 2015

Very helpful ways to face, minimize n tackle tantrums..... thank u... it also shows where our kids are well behaved n we should appreciate them for that

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Kinjal Doshi

| Jul 18, 2015

Thank you so much

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Ruchita

| Jul 05, 2015

This is very nice article... trying to apply the same with my tod

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Nina Lotlikar

| Jun 30, 2015

nic article...

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Shailendra Choudhary

| Jun 25, 2015

Thanks very useful info ....

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Nishita Gupta

| Jun 25, 2015

Very good article , completely agree with it , now I have to control my anger and try to become friend of my baby

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Sonali Rajan Nene

| Jun 24, 2015

Helpful tips ,thank u

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Mousumi B Dash

| Jun 04, 2015

I have a 6 years old boy and a 15 months old boy. The above rules n tricks works. I on daily basis apply them.

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Sameena Hassan

| Jun 01, 2015

Nice and very informative. Thank you.

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Aishna Sharma

| May 28, 2015

Hi.. My son is 16 months old. How to teach him meaning of no. He kept on doing his mischief... which are sometimes dangerous for him

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Aman Chawla

| May 26, 2015

Great article, please share more about children's immunity.

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Parentune Support

| Apr 28, 2015

Hi Kalpana Aagale You may get some useful tips and suggestions from fellow parents on parent talk section. Click here to ask your query- www. parentune. com/parent-talk/latest

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Kalpana Aagale

| Apr 28, 2015

Hii my girl is three years old.... she never eats properly or right amount because of this only I loose my temper I tried everything no use please tell some steps

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Jyoti Thakur

| Apr 27, 2015

I have a son 4 years old... As parents we do lose our patience and tolerance at times.. we do scold them also... My child picks all that talking style and talking tone and even complete lines very quickly and give us back at time.. Like "how many times have i told you that..... " He wud come back during tantrums or otherwise also "how many times have i told you that i want this" or " dont kno whats wrong with you" If i teach him you should do your work yourself. He would even tell me that if i just pass on a TV remote just lying by his side. All this is getting tough... its tough to make his attention divert. He is too good in such memories and too smart to apply them

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Stalin

| Apr 26, 2015

Really a Nice & Usefull article !!!

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deepika

| Apr 26, 2015

Nicely articulated

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Nilesh Kulkarni

| Apr 25, 2015

Thanks Very useful !!!!

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Nilesh Kulkarni

| Apr 25, 2015

Thanks Very useful !!!!

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dayavanti rana

| Apr 25, 2015

Really a very nice article.. I was not aware of this before but I have been using the "explain the rules beforehand" concept with my 7 month old baby, from the very beginning, especially when we go for his vaccination..

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seemuu085

| Apr 23, 2015

Hello i m a mother of 4 yr old girl. she never eat anything without watching t. v. pls tell me what i do to change her habbit.

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Priya Koparkar

| Apr 22, 2015

Very nice n helpful tips

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AK

| Apr 22, 2015

Very informative and all the points are relevant. Thanks for sharing.

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swatiarha

| Apr 21, 2015

Very nice

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sutapa banerjee

| Apr 06, 2015

Good points to be notice.... thanks a lot... my son who is 6 and half yes old has become aggressive all of a sudden please help...

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Yogesh

| Apr 02, 2015

good article! Thanks!

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Rama

| Mar 20, 2015

Good one.. have noted many points.. thankyou

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kalpana singh

| Mar 05, 2015

Wonderful article. .my two yr old daughter is in the habit of the throwing everything on the floor ..and this has become her habit... though she is very young but she speaks clearly. .and reciprocate nicely. .but kindly suggest something. .thanks

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christy manojkumar

| Mar 05, 2015

Very useful article.. Handling my toddler is like pulling a mountain... nw understood the tricks...

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pooja

| Mar 05, 2015

This is what I needed ,though my 2 year old kid is well behaved ,I needed a guidance thanks for the help and keep sharing

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Arthy

| Mar 04, 2015

Very good article the main thing is pracising patience as our kids grow .my elder one is 11 and younger one 7 so sometimes they test me but each day is learning right?

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CHANDANA JOSHI

| Mar 03, 2015

Wow such an useful n important article... Thanx

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Anu

| Feb 10, 2015

Very nice article. It helps so many parents.

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Parentune Support

| Feb 10, 2015

Hi Jhalak Sharma. You may refer to the video, why my child takes an hour to eat. Click - https://www.parentune.com/video/details/?v_id=8

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dr sonal jain

| Feb 09, 2015

Hi dear thanks its really a fabulous information nd one following it vl definitely get positive results

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Jhalak Sharma

| Feb 07, 2015

Thanks Anurima for very nice explanation! I have a issue my daughter 2. 3 years through lots of tantrums at me while eating, she takes 40-45minutes to finish one meal and I loose my temperature. I have told her if she doesn't eat fast I'll lock her in bathroom with lizard in and did few times and then she finishes fast but the terror of bathroom is going away what to do please give some suggestions. Thanks

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Parentune Support

| Feb 06, 2015

Hi apoorva You may also ask your query from fellow experienced parents on parent talk section. Here is the link- https://www.parentune.com/parent-talk/latest

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PriyaSivakumar

| Feb 05, 2015

Thanks Anurima... very useful article!!

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apoorva

| Feb 03, 2015

Hey meghna.. My daughter is around 3 n is really stubborn at tym she is just so out of control especially in front of my in laws or my parent she knows dis so well ifom says "No" either of democracy will avail her demands.. I just get pissed off.. Please help

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Anurima

| Jan 09, 2015

Meghna, thank you for your feedback. Yes, I hope that the articles and blog really help you and the other parents in various situations. :)

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Meghna

| Jan 08, 2015

Though, .not a mum now, but still, like reading all your articles. All of them are so informative. Hope I can also apply them once I have kids of my own & also faced with any situation.

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Sonia

| Dec 16, 2014

Vry gud article... I liked bye bye concept d most

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Deepa

| Dec 03, 2014

Well Written article ... Very useful... Thnx for sharing

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Parentune Support

| Nov 27, 2014

Hi Varsha Kesarwani, Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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Varsha Kesarwani

| Nov 26, 2014

Very nice and informative article..

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shruti

| Jul 26, 2014

thanks

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Ankita A Talwar

| Jul 22, 2014

Hi Shruti, a behaviour on the play field or the ground when a child gets excited on the playground is not to be taken too seriously--most children behave like that. leave that to the children themselves. They will learn on their own or else will be checked by his friends. But his not listening, when in your company and in a public place, is a different thing. Here a bit of firmness will be required. Instead of scolding him in front of others, take him away from the spot, sit down at his level, look straight into his eyes and tell him firmly what is expected out of him. Do not scold or insult him but tell him how he should behave and how his behaviour is hurting papa and mumma. Do not worry about others staring. Once a while giving him a time out also helps

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shruti

| Jul 19, 2014

my 4 yr son misbehave a lot when other kid visit our home or he get company of other child.. he misbehave bcoz he get over xcited.. many times i tried to xplain him that he should not hit other kid,talk softly but nothing wrks.. when ever i go out for shopping n all even that time also he misbehave he wont listen anything we say,which is very embarrassing... plz help how to handle this?

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Yamini

| Jul 12, 2014

thanks anurima.

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Anurima

| Jul 04, 2014

Dear Yamini, we too are settled abroad and I get what you are saying. It is normal for kids to behave this way and very rarely do kids adjust between themselves at playtime. How old is your son? You may try to help him understand how he should behave with the older children. Cite examples to help him relate to the incidents and he may try to react differently next time onwards. But on the other hand parents need to understand that fights and disagreements between children playtime are always not due to the fault of one child. So I suggest you take it easy and do not worry about the other parents. Children will learn to adjust to various situations with time with or without intervention by the parents. But gentle reminders may help too. Good luck :)

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Yamini

| Jul 01, 2014

thankyou. We stay abroad from India. The culture here is different. My son plays with all the kids in the park,but he always wants them(specially,kids elder to him) to be adjusted with him. When it comes to younger ones to him, he shall help them a lot. this is causing a bigger problem here and some parents(natives of this nation) are very angry with us. How to handle this?

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Swati Ahuja

| Jun 30, 2014

very nicely explained...... thank u for all these useful information it is a great help for raising a child

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lakshman

| Jun 25, 2014

Thanks very useful

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Roshni

| May 22, 2014

Thanks a lot for this blog. i facing almost the same problem with my 4yr old son. it will hepl me further really.

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Swati Patel

| May 22, 2014

Very nice article, very useful tips, many of these I am practicing also, I attended some HR sessions organized by my company, there I learnt many things. I have one daughter, she is ten and one son he is 1 yr 9 months. My daughter is very sensitive and obedient and she always listen to me, I have never seen her tantrum for anything, I am a working mother and whatever she wants she asks for it very gently and give me sufficient time too, she never demands anything adhoc. She is very caring and polite by nature too, I feel very lucky to have her. But my son is too much naughty, he is totally opposite to my daughter. Its gonna be very tough to raise him :)

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Priya banerjee

| May 21, 2014

Hi anurima . It was really awesome reading thru ur article. I have a daughter of 2 yrs n 11 months and a son of 1 year. Though my children r quite well mannered n we'll behaved but sunrises my daughter hits her younger brother . Tried out various ways to stop her but 2 out of ten times she ends up hitting him. Plz help. Another problem is that my daughter understands English n constantly uses these words like shut up n stupid to anybody which I dislike. How can I say no to her? Have tried various ways of ignoring her, not talking to her etc. it works for a limited time n she starts again. Plz help. Thanks

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Vidya

| May 20, 2014

Very well written article. Sometimes kids test your patience to limits. The key is to not give in and take charge of situations in a manner that they understand. With my 5 year old hyperactive kid, we make him do tasks by calling activities a game. The challenge gets him charged up to do simple tasks like picking up his stuff and doing home works. Appreciations work and simple rewards like drawing a star on his hand or favorite stickers are great morale boosters

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Rajshree

| May 20, 2014

My 5 yr old know that if I say no than there is no looking back. i appreciates him for his good behaviour and awards him accordingly. And its a rule that nothing is provided due to stubborness, Toy or anything is provided if there is any appreciation move and it happens frequently,

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Neha

| May 20, 2014

My son is going to 4 yrs soon, no matter how many rules or explanations done he runs of to buy the Dino toys. It gets very frustrating at times, but I keep calm. His tantarums can last really long. Once we are away from Toy shops things get ok, but until then it has to be his tantarums. I try luring him to different things or talk to him saying he already has similar toys. Believe me kids learn so quick, everytime I have to try something new to make him understand. Most of the times I manage it well, but sometimes have failed too. So I guess we eventually learn to tackle our kids and its an evolving process were not only kids even parents learn.

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Nishtha Dutt

| Mar 14, 2014

very helpful blog! thanks Anurima

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Amrita Jain

| Mar 13, 2014

Thanks a ton for these pointers gonna be great help for me.. :-)

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Amrita Jain

| Mar 13, 2014

Thanks a ton for these pointers gonna be great help for me.. :-)

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Meenu

| Mar 05, 2014

very nice article i will try to follow it as somewhere in your article i see my self in some instances

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Sheeba Wanee

| Mar 05, 2014

Superb article .. Very well written n compiled !!.. Thank you so mch !

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Vidhya

| Mar 04, 2014

I have a 4 yr old son and this article is really really helpful for me. Thank you

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Sonia Duneja

| Feb 27, 2014

Very Nice and helpful article... will try the bye bye concept and will follow to be calm.

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Taruna

| Feb 25, 2014

Wonderful article...

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Dilip Sharma

| Feb 21, 2014

really a good article... personally, I liked the bye-bye concept.

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Rukaiya yasmin

| Feb 20, 2014

Thank u for this wonderful article i will surely follow this with my 2yrs old daughter.

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Parentune Support

| Feb 17, 2014

Thanks Manveen. Could you share which tip you like the most?

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Manveen

| Feb 15, 2014

Good

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Kiran

| Feb 13, 2014

Really good one... helpful in parenting..

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Anurima

| Feb 12, 2014

Thank you ladies for the wonderful comments. It feels great to see how the blogs helps in parenting :)

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Natasha Lall

| Feb 12, 2014

Very well written and helpful article

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Nivedita

| Feb 09, 2014

My daughter all Of nine is an avid reader and wants books all the time. In addition to the piggy bank approach I have started with the Earn Your Book Approach wherein she earns a star for something good she does Eg study well, behave well etc. At the end of thirty points she gets the book...

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Apurva Nalwa

| Feb 07, 2014

My 4 year old is very stubborn at times... will try the softer way with him.. Thanx

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Meenu

| Feb 06, 2014

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aiswaria

| Feb 06, 2014

Thanks Anurima. Even today morning I lost my control and slap my kid. After that i feel very distress and couldn't concentrate in my work. Next time i defenitly try your advice.

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Renuka Vijay

| Feb 06, 2014

Good one Anurima. I use the piggy bank idea and also explain my 4 yrs old before stepping out. Even she politely say's no if i explain her how to use the existing toys. And i also tell her the consequences of bad behavior.

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Nisha Menon

| Feb 04, 2014

Good and very useful article Anurima. The pointers are well explained. Yes we as parents need to be cool headed when handling kids but at times you need to show your bad side to them. I have often regretted my actions towards my daughter but I do make up for it whenever she pays heed to my instructions. We need to balance between being good and bad depending on situations. But more so be calm as you rightly pointed our we are their role models to social behavior.

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