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Littles and I - The Homecoming

Vidyashree Rai
0 to 1 years

Created by Vidyashree Rai
Updated on Nov 15, 2014

Littles and I The Homecoming

The nine months that you spend with your baby when it’s inside you, do not in any way prepare you for when it comes out. Suddenly, what you owned completely now belongs to the world! You feel a whole lot of emotions but the one strongest feeling is that of loss. Loss of weight (literally), loss of a sense of possession and a definite loss of control.
I had a caesarian delivery, and spent the first week in the nursing home. LITTLES was looked after primarily by the nurses; they brought her to me for her feeds. It seemed easy. She was bathed in the nursery, her diapers were changed by them, she was given her vitamins and calcium on time and the pediatrician came to look her up once a day. I got my time and space to deal with the physical pain and to sleep.
We were discharged from the nursing home after a week. In the midst of torrential rains we brought LITTLES home. It was just the two of us, my husband and me; circumstances had ensured that neither of our parents could be with us.
I entered the house and got busy settling things and making the bed for LITTLES. And then my husband said “Maybe we should check her diaper”. I said “Sure”. I opened the diaper and brought a new one to change, and then froze. I didn’t know how to change diapers! They had taught us everything in the prenatal classes and changing a diaper is not rocket science, but I just couldn’t. It reminded me of my math exams--when I would completely blank out despite knowing how to solve a theorem. Tears rolled down, as I thought about my inadequacy as a mother. What kind of a mother does not know how to change diapers? She was better off inside my tummy. I controlled everything. Now, I have to start from scratch and make this whole new, difficult journey of motherhood. The first few hours at home were spent crying, laughing hysterically and stressing. Thankfully my best friend came to spend the night and M (my husband) and she took over. LITTLES had slept off, so I was given my dinner and medicines and made to sleep too. I must sleep when she sleeps, I was told.
As I lay in bed wide awake and alone, I turned to look at her--LITTLES smiled at me, in her sleep. Almost like she wanted to say “Amma, don’t worry, I am there na- Your Little Best Friend?”
I dozed off, smiling too.
But that special homecoming, taught me a few lessons in mom-smartness. I am sharing them here
Things to Remember:
Some things parents-to-be can keep ready before bringing the baby home:
1. All basic baby clothes, linen, diapers, toiletries: Keep everything washed and ironed and ready at least two weeks before the date of delivery.
2. Remember to air the house really well: in case it has been locked up while you were all at the hospital. Maybe someone can come a few hours before the baby comes home and open out all doors and windows. Also, get the baby bed made ready—clean and safe.
3. Keep a plastic trolley ready on the bed-side: This is a trolley with all the basic baby stuff. Some diapers, wipes, a bottle of water, tissues and other things required to clean the baby, basic medicines for the newborn, and some snacks for the mother etc.
4. Keep the house mosquito free: Buy mosquito repellents for each room beforehand. Also, ensure the baby has his own little mosquito net ready.

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| Oct 28, 2015

Very nice blog. It is called post natal depression. And I also suffered from it for first 7 days after coming home. My mother and MIL both were there with me, still I used to cry for the whole day for the several reasons or sometimes for no reason. Sometimes baby doesn't take feed, or baby cries and cries, sometimes baby doesn't sleep or sometimes only sleeps.....

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| Oct 27, 2015

Nice blog...

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| Aug 08, 2015

very heart touching... and i can totally relate me with the blog

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| Jun 30, 2015

Very gud blog. I can relate so well with it.

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| Jan 13, 2015

Nice

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| Dec 01, 2014

Touched

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| Nov 19, 2014

Sojal, Swati , Monika, Thank you for taking the time to read and sharing your thoughts.

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| Nov 18, 2014

Vidyashree Rai, very nice blog. loved it for its simplicity.. and it connects so well with every mother, i am sure

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| Nov 18, 2014

good blog... and the tips are useful too. My sister is due to deliver and i will definitely pass on the link to her

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| Nov 18, 2014

very nice blog... it is so warm and touching

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| Nov 18, 2014

Vidyashree Rai - such an endearing read.... loved it, also the "things to remember" is a great value add for first time parents.

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| Nov 18, 2014

Hi Rajat, Thank you for taking the time to read and sharing your thoughts.

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| Nov 18, 2014

Very warm and heart touching. things to remember are great tips.

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