A mom’s open letter to her son and his friends on big plans!

Dear Riaan,
This letter is for you and for all your friends who have bigger dreams!

I know you are self-less and innocent. But, the entire world around you is waiting to judge you at every step. I know this hardly affects you right now, but one day it might...and for that day, your mumma wants to tell you something - 

Be ready for judgement and promise me that you will never feel defeated. I know, you have bigger plans. You were born with a dark color and people started judging you since the moment you were born. They blamed me for eating Jamun and giving you a dark color. But, trust me, it never affected me. I loved your Dad and I love his skin tone and color too. 

It’s just been a coincidence that you started getting fair within 6 months of your birth. But, what is important for you to know is that we all have the same color. No one is fair and no one is dark. We have a similar color, and that is known as the ‘skin color’. I know you will never judge someone on the basis of their skin color. 

Always remember that you have bigger plans. You have been an introvert and it’s quite obvious now. Your Papa is still an introvert and so was your Mumma. People from my school can understand this so well as I was the most silent girl in my class.But still, I use to win every speech competition. Your Papa is less talkative but he is an intelligent person, and has been doing excellent in his career. People still judged you “sust hai...kuch bolta nahi hai...chupchap rehta hai…etc.'' Trust me, it never affected me. I trust you...your teachers trust you...your friends trust you. You will be a winner! I know you have bigger plans. 

I know education is so tough and burdensome. Little children carry enormous expectations from themselves. It’s not that I don’t want you to excel - obviously I do, but not at the cost of your well being or your happiness. People will judge you by your marks and achievements. But trust me, I would like you to become a good human being before you become a topper or don’t. 

I know you have bigger plans. You have so many friends and they all are in the same boat! Few are being judged for being naughty as some would exclaim “Aafat hai yeh baccha...kaise handle karte ho isko”. Few are being judged for not being too attractive as some would say “Jaane kispe gaya hai yeh baccha”. Few are being judged for being shorter as some would remark “Khata nahi hai kya yeh..height dekho iski”, few for their weight “Jaane kya khata hai” and few for being so thin, as some would say “Hawa mein ud jayega yeh toh…” and the list goes on… 

I also err at times. I might judge at times too. But, what is important for you is to know that, you and your friends have bigger plans! All these judgements should never affect you. Never ever lose your innocence! Never ever judge someone!

Dear Mothers, all of you have to stand up for your child. Please do not let this world judge your child. Don’t let their childhood be a dark memory. Instead, trust them and do tell them often with a smile “I know mera baccha! I know, you have bigger plans!”