Moms Speak - After Baby What Next?

What does a toddler or an infant want? A mother entertaining his/her demands day and night! Whether you are in the mood, whether you are tired or busy - it does not really matter to them. When they want you by their side, you simply must oblige. What mothers need to understand is that this is just a phase. Soon your little one will grow up, and all your time will be available to pursue something that you are fond of or aspire for.

For all you toddler mommies, who think that your growth has come to a standstill because you have a 24x7 responsibility forever, let me take you on a journey where you can see how mothers similar to you dream big. They know that times will change, and here’s a glimpse into their minds. I asked 10 toddler and infant mommies a simple question:

What are your aspirations, once your little one is grown up?

Their answers will inspire you to believe in yourself and keep the fire within alive. None of your talents or abilities is lost; rather your journey with your baby teaches you valuable life lessons of acceptance and patience. Here is what these new mommies had to say…

1. Kinjal Shah, 31 years, B.Com, mother of two – Kinjal wants to be a home baker; she takes pleasure in baking sweet delicacies for her family, and wants to do it professionally. She is learning new skills and styles of baking through short courses.

2. Miti Ramuka, 29 years, CFA, mother of two – Miti wants to focus on good mental and physical health. She has made a small start by using some workout related apps that help you meet your goals, and keep you company while you exercise. She also does aqua aerobics whenever possible.

3. Neeti Mittal, 28 years, Dentist, mother of an 8 month old – Neeti wants to go big in dentistry and start her own clinic. Having her own set up will give her the flexibility to balance family and work. As of now she reads up on and upgrades herself about latest developments in the field of dentistry.

4. Poonam Tulsyan, 28 years, B.Com – Poonam wants to assist her husband with their family business. However, for now, she wants to focus on being a good mother and wants to be around whenever her children need her. She devotes her time and energy to instilling positive qualities and healthy habits in her children, as that is what she enjoys most.

5. Soniya Davkhare, 31 years, BSC MBA, mother of two – Soniya wants to travel. I completely agree that as a mother you have to curtail your travel plans, as travelling takes on an altogether new meaning once we have kids. Often we experience that we visit a place and are unable to appreciate it fully, as our children are too demanding. So her goal is simple – she wants to travel and see the world once her children are older.

6. Vaishali Bisure, 33 years, MCS, mother of two – Vaishali wants to update her professional skills and start working full time once her baby grows up. As her second child is barely 6 months old,she has wisely postponed the learning part for now.

7. Hinal Shah, 29 year, ATD, mother to two – Hinal wants to get back to canvasses and art, and watch her ideas transform into reality. She wants to learn about newer styles and mediums of art. She loves planning small surprises to reward her kids when they do something good. She says, “Learning is a gradual process and has no age limit.”

8. Kritika Kedia, 28 years, MBA, mother of one – Kritika is an avid reader. However sleepless nights and hectic days don’t allow her much time to read. She wants to read more and more books once time permits and her baby is all grown up.

9. Shalini Singhania, 34 years, M.A, B.Ed – Shalini is exceptional and she is content being a full time mommy. All she wants is to see her kids achieve their respective developmental goals. In fact she finds catering to their needs rewarding enough.

10. Neha Bhave, 30 years, M.B.B.S, M.S in Obstetrics and Gynaecology – I loved Neha’s perspective, as she feels she will be able to mentor her baby better once she resumes work. She believes in balancing her individual professional growth with that of the baby’s.  She wants to bounce back in her career and be an inspiration for her child.

So remember new mommies - the world is yours, embrace it with open arms but for now, pause, and give time to your child. If resuming your careers comes easily go for it, or else patience and hope is the name of the game.

Did you find Neha’s blog on the aspirations of new mothers useful? How do you strike a balance between being a mother and taking care of your needs? What are your aspirations for the future? Do share your experiences and learning with us in the comments section below. We love hearing from you!