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Try saying yes for a change

Swati Nitin Gupta
3 to 7 years

Created by Swati Nitin Gupta
Updated on Nov 06, 2017

Try saying yes for a change

It was easy being a ‘NO’ mom I guess. Whenever my son asked me something, I often (almost automatically) used to respond by saying ‘NO’.

 

Son: “Ma, can I go out and play?

Me: No, it is going to rain any minute now.

Son: But mom it is not raining.

Me: Still, I said no. You tend to catch a cold easily and then the cough doesn’t go easily.

Son: Please Ma.

Me: No. You have so many books to read; take one, sit down and read.

 

This was how I used to be – a classic ‘NO mom’ – always worried about my son’s health, till I happened to see this video by ActivKids Immuno Boosters by Cipla. And I must say it was a real eye-opener as a mom. So, what was so special about this video or was there something else in the video that opened my eyes. Today, I will share what I learnt, but before that let’s just understand what’s there in this video that made me realise my folly of saying ‘NO’ to my son all the time.

 

My Lessons From The Video

It all sounded similar to me. Wasn’t I doing the same thing to my son? Whenever I gave my instructions they always started with “don’t do this” or “don’t do that”. Don’t eat from the roadside. Don’ts and ‘NO’s’ – is what I was feeding his growing mind; and when I saw this video, I realised it was time for me to change. While I was being a cautious mom and saying ‘NO’ to my son for playing outside because it may rain, what I didn’t realise was that my son has taken my ‘NO’ – as in instruction to be carried out at all times. So, I feel, it doesn’t always have to be a blatant ‘NO’; a simple ‘YES’ can make a whole lot of difference in your child’s mind, behaviour and eventually his or her personality.

As moms, we are only trying to protect our children from dangers; however, what we don’t realise is how our child is taking that ‘NO’ in his or her mind. Since I am a working mom I didn’t realise what was happening till I saw this video and realised where I was going wrong and hence I took a pledge to be a #YesMom.

The moment I became a #YesMom I started seeing a marked behaviour in my son. I saw his confidence grow; his shyness to open up to strangers was receding and he could even go and strike a meaningful conversation with children older to him. However, I am not saying that you always have to give in and say ‘YES’ for everything. For instance, a few days back when my son was recovering from fever, he asked me if he could go for cycling with the other kids on our block. I didn’t immediately respond with a straight ‘NO’ but I said, “How about we watch a fun film together this evening, followed by yummy soup. And tomorrow when you feel stronger and better, you go for cycling.” He was happy and so was I.

Today, my relationship with my son has improved. I have joined the #YesMom Movement, only because I learnt that while being cautious is normal, I can at least try saying ‘YES’ to my son so that his confidence doesn’t take a beating and he is raised in a positive environment.

 

Disclaimer: #YesMom campaign is an initiative by ActivKids Immuno Boosters by Cipla to provide a unique nutritional supplement for kids that helps build their immunity. Please check the website for more details. Opinions expressed above are independent opinions of the writer.

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| Nov 24, 2017

This vedio has also taught me even a lesson not to stop the child for everything he needs to feel free for some things

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| Nov 24, 2017

yes I joined YES MOM

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| Nov 24, 2017

yes I join yes mom campaign....

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| Nov 24, 2017

yes I joined yes mom

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| Nov 24, 2017

Yes I join the Campaign ☺

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| Nov 24, 2017

yes I join yes mom

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| Nov 24, 2017

Yes I join the yes mom movement

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| Nov 24, 2017

yeah. I also so join in the yes Mom movement

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| Nov 23, 2017

ya I am also joining this yes mom campaign

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| Nov 23, 2017

yes I'll definitely try to become a yes mom

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| Nov 23, 2017

my son is 8 yes old he cannot concentred in study

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| Nov 22, 2017

Yes I will try

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| Nov 22, 2017

Absolutely true I 'll transform myself to Yes Mom so tat my kids feel free to share emotions with their new bestie (mom)

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| Nov 22, 2017

yes I will become an Yes Mom for my Children's

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| Nov 15, 2017

Yes I too

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| Nov 15, 2017

i pledge to become a 'yes' mom..

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| Nov 15, 2017

yes I will b yes mom

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| Nov 15, 2017

I'll will be yes mom after this

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| Nov 15, 2017

good... i vl say only yes.....

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| Nov 15, 2017

i am yes mom

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| Nov 15, 2017

I ll be yes Mom from this sec. thank u

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| Nov 15, 2017

i am yes dad

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| Nov 15, 2017

I will be a YES MOM..

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| Nov 15, 2017

I'm a YES MOM

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| Nov 09, 2017

I will be an YES MOM

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| Nov 07, 2017

YES MOM

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| Nov 06, 2017

Hopeful for positive results.... umeed hai ki bacchon par 'HAAN' ka asar jarur hoga.

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| Nov 06, 2017

I pledge to join the #YES MOM MOVEMENT. Many thanks for this enlightening blog. Yes is a powerful word and who knows its importance better than a child for whom a nod from a parent means a go ahead from the whole world. i would definitely try to be cautious and frame my sentences cautiously while talking to my children. thanks again Swati Nitin Gupta for sharing this powerful blog with a powerful message.

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| Nov 06, 2017

Yes to being a Yes parent....................

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| Nov 06, 2017

Positive environment children ke liye avashyak hai. Mai poori poori kosish karungi.

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| Nov 06, 2017

JORDAAR POWERFUL BLOG!!

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| Nov 06, 2017

Meri beti ko maine kabhi No answer nahi diya, isliye woh meri saari battein maanti hai hamesha. yeh strategy sach mai bhut effective hai.

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| Nov 06, 2017

Amazing video.......... thank U SWATI NITIN GUPTA.

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| Nov 06, 2017

A yes Mom is a supermom.

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| Nov 06, 2017

BAHUT BADIYAA. SHUKRIYA.

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| Nov 06, 2017

Mind blowing.....

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| Nov 06, 2017

The mantra is to stay positive and frame our sentence in such a manner that it has a positive connotation too. Thank u dear Swati..... !

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| Nov 06, 2017

The impact of mother's No is much more than we could imagine as a child takes his parents' instructions way too SERIOUSLY. Thank u Swati for this awesome blog.

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| Nov 06, 2017

VERY POWERFUL MESSAGE!

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| Nov 06, 2017

No is an easier option than a Yes and it comes naturally. would try definitely to be a 'Yes parent'. Thanks Swati Nitin Gupta for sharing this amazing blog.

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| Nov 06, 2017

Mai 'YES' parent banane ki jaroor koshish karungi.

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| Nov 06, 2017

useful article!

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| Nov 06, 2017

Brilliantly written!

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| Nov 06, 2017

an eye opener ....

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| Nov 06, 2017

awesome blog...

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| Nov 06, 2017

Thanx for sharing a nice blog

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