Why having a second child was a good idea!

@Sujata... adoption in india is not an easy task... my friend wanted to adopt a baby girl, she has gone through the whole process and it is too length and complicated that she left the idea of adoption..

@Sujata... adoption in india is not an easy task... my friend wanted to adopt a baby girl, she has gone through the whole process and it is too length and complicated that she left the idea of adoption..

@Sujata... adoption in india is not an easy task... my friend wanted to adopt a baby girl, she has gone through the whole process and it is too length and complicated that she left the idea of adoption..

@sujata even if we go for adoption I will prefer to adopt a baby and not a grown up child... so ultimately problem will be same

I am a software engineer and I have taken a break for my baby boy who is now 1. 5yrs... we really want to have the 2nd child but the thing is after that I won't have career... but we think on it again and again because I have seen kids demanding siblings after certain age as they start feeling lonely... really difficult to decide

why I hardly see anyone opting for adoption. Thats the best this to do according to me. I know the procedure could be lengthy

Its a nice article Ansshita. I would just like to comment one thing here. If you want a second child or not should be a decision based on couples thinking and never based on what the first child wants as kids grow up and change and its parents who would be then responsible for the children. Elder child with grow out of the need of sibling once they get busy with friends so even thats a phase. If we as a parent can give quality time and it fits our economics and other challenges of today's parenting then having a more kids is a great idea. If not then we ahould ensure that our kids learn the art of maintaining relationship with friends as good as siblings. Specially now a days when most of them are single child. I myself m a mother of a three year old daughter and We have opted for no more kids, and m very happy with that decision. Its a tough call but for all of us working mothers. Enjoy whatever you choose.

Thanks so much Rohini and Meenu.. Ya i already consulted the Dr. She has told earlier the better .. but its not an issue till 40 yrs of age.. Anyways.. hoping for the best :)

Hi subha,Yes u can plan for second one but it would be great if u consult ur gynecologist. She would be the right person to tell u to have baby at 35 n now a days ppl are having babies with a difference of 9 as well. even my daughter s diff is also 6 yrs so enjoy n should plan for second baby. All the best.

I also have two babies with three year gap... rright now its the initial stage so facing lots of difficulties in bringing up both kids.... but as in this article this time will over..... n will enjoy the happy time with both kids.... n its true that elder sibling become responsible when younger one arrives.....

Hi,I've 2 boys and they hv gap of 8 yrs.. sou don't worry and go ahead. .elder one is always a gr8 help in bringing up younger one. .I'm happy that they hv 8yrs gap

very much inspiring.

Hi Ladies, it’s good to see all of you have posted your thoughts .. My daughter is turning 7 this Nov.. Me and my husband was not planning for 2nd one as am a software engg and will be very difficult to take care of the child as both of our parents are old and difficult for them to take care of 2nd as they did for the 1st. But my daughter has started often asking for a sibling for the past 1 yr. Now we think to plan as she is so much fond off.. Is that OK to have 7 to 8 yrs of Gap between the two? Also am turning 35 this Nov .. So I have a big confusion now, whether my health will be OK to have 2nd.. Ur thoughts plz…

Hi Ansshita..... nice post.. I have a girl 1 yr+ m expecting my second baby ...me too was very confused about this but reading your post has made me feel confident n happy bout my decision.. :)

I guess 4 years of a gap should be there... good luck

I am also thnkng for second child my first child is daughter whats is the right gap bw first n second child

It's good to know abt first child's maturity being improved after second child s born. Even I am planning for second one n My daughter already started asking me for a kutti babe ;) All the very best for all Moms who r planning for second child

I'm blessed with two angels with a gap of 5 years. I can happily say that my first daughter is a second mother to my second daughter. The way they play with each other,the way she expresses her joy when my elder one comes from school are precious moments. I really felt happy that I had taken the right decision of having two kids. ????

I thought of second child once but now I feel that this could put an end to my career. I am a sports teacher and fitness is very important in my profession. After my first child too it had become quite difficult for me to find a job as I had no stamina left after being at home for one year and no one to take care of the child. I could not do anything for myself. Now after 2 years I have got a good job. What if I have my second child? No job again. And I am already 32, there will be no jobs in my profession after two years. So, its better to have a single child and I am his friend. May be after 3 years, I would love to adopt a girl child, but not now. As I am not scared of taking care of a second child but its only about fitness.

I m mother of two n in this busy life it's really good they have siblings with whom they can play n share everything. It's very true it's little hard in initial stage but As time goes u will be very happy to seeing ur child n you will have one peace in ur mind that there is someone with each other when u r not their for them.

I too think about a second child.

I am also thinking of 2nd child. But then what about career. Already had taken break from work for 2. 5 years and now if second one comes then it will not be possible to work as there is no family support.

Second child fills d void which possible may b present in d 1st child's life.... my personal experience.... its always advisable to opt for 2nd child

Dear @ Mahalaxmi - yes thanks for update - ur decision is valuable as per ur way that u shared.

Dear @ Divyaganesh- Everyone lives the life they want. I have shared my life why second child was a good idea. Yes for me it has been a boon , rather advantage.

Thanks everyone for the likes n comments :)

very true....

My husband has changed a lot in the recent years and I don't really love the way I did when we had our first child... this could be disastrous for me as I can't give a good life for the second one... have decided to live with my first and only angel daughter...

So true ..i am going from the same phase as you are.. thanks for sharing..

Very true second one comes as a blessings for the first one. I can see the difference after having my second baby.

Thanks for sharing.. Even am rethinking for it after reading

pls tell me having second child become advantage or disadvantage

So true