My Child Is Shy. What Do I Do?

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Working with a shy child to handle a public situation in which he or she must contribute entails telling the child to speak slowly and firmly to get his or her point across and looking all around at different faces when giving a public speech instead of being fixated on a particular face in the crowd. Working in teams can also help a child overcome shyness so encourage the teacher to create team work such that every team's input is valued and respected. Above all, telling and affirming to the child that he or she is special and loved will instill some inner strength in the child.

Helpful.. but what if your child is not making eye contact with others. Don't respond to anyone unless he himself needs to talk. ?

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Thanks for the info,however, it would be great if you could also share some tip on how to equip them to handle situations , where there shy nature could cause them discomfort.

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shyness usually appears in a nuclear family with one child. it can be reduced if there is an younger brother or sister by giving responsibilities

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Hi, my son is 5 yrs old and is in kg. He used to write nicly in class up until a few months back. They teach 2-3 letter words in english and hindi. But for last 4-5 months he has lost interest in writing. His notebooks are mostly empty or half written everyday. When I asked him why he does dat, he says he gets busy talking. Teacher has also stopped saying anything to him now. His is very sharp and active and knows his alphabets , words and theirs sounds. Good in mathmatical skills also. When I ask at home he tells correctly but his result was average in class. Main issue is he does not write in class. He is too unfocused. How do I deal with this? I have tried from making him understand to threatning him , shouting at him, punishing him but nothing seems to work. He just forgets all this when in class and now he starts crying rightafter reachin home and gives me all sorts of stupid explanations. Please help me if anybody knows a solution to this. I am really worried about him. Thanks Poonam

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A vry good article. my daughtr age 6yrs is quite shy. i hope the article definitely vll help me. thnx a lot.

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@Faizal, evn my daughter was like tht until the age of 3. She usd to scream whnevr stranger usd to cm to our house or any in new placeShe become normal as time passed by. But still she is unable to adjust in the new surroundings, adults and strangers. I think we shd give thm time

My son is 3. 9 years. He is very playful but does not talk properly. He mostly repeats what we say to him. Even if he learns something at home he will not answer it when teacher asks those questions in oral tests. He would simply close his eyes and stand in front of them. I don't know if he is shy or scared of his teachers and strangers.

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such a nice blog,,, very helpful information to recover shyness... my son is also so shy in front of others but at home he is talkative... i face problem when he does not do in his oral exam.......

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Helo my 3. 5 years old daughter imitate other freinds.... Nd use bad language too.... She feel shy in front of other people.. what to do pls help me?.

Hi My name is reena and my son is 4 years old his very talkative at home but doesn't speak in class otherwise his very obedient and meticulous child... he showed shyness over there.. what should I do.

Hi,i liked d article very much. I m a mother of a 5yr old son. My son is normally interactive with us nd relatives,but he will not go nd mix up with d other kids in d appartment. I m so much worried nd dont know what to do. I hv to play with him,pls help me

my son is three and half years old, he doesn't utter a word in nursery, his teachers complaints that he doesen't play, laugh with other children's and sit's in one place. at home he talks with us. not clearly bt he talks. he also doesn't mingle with the outside people, when any body visits home he run to bedroom and sit der untill dey go or sometime he keeps crying. Is anybody facing the same issue or any advise to share.

Yeah u r rite We should not force them to be bold when they r actually anxious in a crowd rather we need to show that we understand their fear Thanks tht s a good message

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Hi all, few weeks back I also posted that my son not talking with new people and not talking in school. We went to counselling and we got advice from doctor to give occupational therapy we went to occupational therapy and also we spoke with school head master and class teacher about our kid based on advice given by occupational therapist. My son almost started talking with teacher and friends and new people. Infact, he made a public speaking session in his school which he did great. Parents advise you to consult doc and therapist because some times its easy to fix!!

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Hi, I'm facing d same problem. My daughter is now 4+. She doesn't talk to people. She had limited friends n I'm trying frm last few months to talk her out so that she can make new friends, but not worked. N when I'm talking to other parents she doesn't allow me to talk to them. She began cranky. At school also, she talk to one or two of her friends. What should I do, pls help me.

Hii,,I m Also vry worried abt my son ,,Bcoz he vry scared in class room ,he is now three years old ,, he is not comfortable in class room ,,every morning he crying loudly,,I will nt go ,,and his grand mother spport him ,,give me suggestion deAr what can I do for my baby

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Thanx ,so much ..It is so appropriate. one of ma elder son is an introvert n doesn't open up easily ,not even to my other family members like sis or even me for that matter .I try to accept the fact but I get angry. I am complete extrovert .ppl around say a lot of things that subconsciously show on us. ill try n not push him

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The upbringing plays a major role for your kid's shyness. So parents please keep a check on your short temper,yelling,shouting, etc.. All these can have a major impact on your kid.

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Wonderful article. My son is 3. 5 years and he plays with everyone but whenever I am around, he keeps on clinging to me. He doesn't mix up easily with new people. He is okay with kids, but when it comes to grownups, he doesn't even smile or wave. I have tried explaining to him many times that you have to answer when someone asks you a question, but he never seems to understand. He would either keep smiling or turn his face. It is frustrating at times when he does this even to neighbors or familiar persons.

Nice article. My son also have some shyness. He don't speak in school and to new people. If tried he becomes anxiety. He just joined new school in I std. His class teacher concerned about his activity due to fiscomfort and looks she don't understand that complaining he is something wrong. Can I approach school teacher and principal to make them to understand the suitation ? I'm worried if things get worst. Suggestions please

I have an occationally shy son but I've realised that im responsible for it as I'm overly protective about him and personally an introvert when it comes to meeting new people. So it could be u and not the child who is shy.

If child is thinking all the time what should be done

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I am really thankful for this important blog and information as I am facing the same issues with my 5 years daughter. But now onwards I support my daughter for what she does and help to boost her confidence and public facing.

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Very good information. Shyness can be improved with positive approach, social exposure and open discussion with child. With continuous efforts it can surely be changed at the right age.

These steps which are explaining here, I think could be work if we follow these steps as they are telling, for me this can be prove positive for any child of this sort. Thankyou very much for reminding these things which use to tell our grandparents about child behaviour.

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She speaks loud at home & neighbour friend bt in school she speaks few words & very slow. With New surroundings she doesn't speak at all and always holds my hand

sharda Jha - Is this with her close friends as well or only with new surroundings and people? Anurima

Hi my daughter is 4 years old and she doesn't mixup with child even her classmates also. Only she made few friends. and she doesn't speak loud very slow ..suggest me what to do ?

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My daughter is two years old.... and she scares a lot wid strangers and new environment.... she started crying ....pls suggest

Arunima really good to know tips suggested by you. My child is also shy and i am already trying most of that on my son.

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hi arunima, really liked the blog... i am experiencing the same with my son. he was interested in learning drums, so we made him join drums classes, initially he was hesitant to go into the room but now he is so comfortable in the classes that he dose'nt even care that i am sitting outside waiting for him.

Hi arunima,

Nice blog..

Purva- a good starting point would be to help him by making a couple of friends

Hi thanx my son is very shy and i was always worried as to how will he deal i guess ur tips will help me.. However we r shifting to another place how do i help him adjust in his new school

Great help and it was comforting to read this

Nice blog.. Very positive way of handling this

Son is also very shy. These days he is even reluctant to go to school. I am a little upset wid dis change in his behaviour. he doesnt like his new class. !! Tough to make him understand dat he shoul make new friends.

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Hi Khushbu, you could ask your paediatrician for a sunscreen. these days very safe zinc-based sunscreens are available to use for children. also, once she is inside, wash her face with cold water and apply some aloe vera gel. very effective. i have tried with my own child.

Good blog i really like the article but only 1 problem hear the weather is too hot and my daughter always wants to go out for play and her skin is very sensitive when she go our in hot weather not only in sunlight even in evening she got very bad reshash on her face so pls tel me how to control her so that she play in home by own We have very small family just 3 members me my hubby and palak(my daughter) PLEASE give an article and give your CONTACT DETAILS so I can able to call you

Thanks for the useful tips at right time

Thank you for your encouraging comments dear parents :) Yes, it is true that each child is different and we need to give them the time to cope with a different surrounding.

I do agree every child is diff. ..... N d line abt designed childhood is so accurate..... We need to let them be themselves.... Really nice article.... Thnks

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Nice blog Anurima, Thanks for it .My son who is Five year old now he is of same character,it takes some time for him to get set to the new environment ,people's everywhere. without me he will not even go down and play , this behaviour made me upset sometime, keep on saying and gave him his own time one fine day he started playing himself ,he made new friends and he s enjoying now..

Thks, very useful info

Definitely something than I as parent can work towards wading off shyness my kid and understanding her better. Helpful tips.

good blog for parents to accept their children's nature

good blog for parents to accept their children's nature

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There are multiple ways in which two children are different from each other perhaps more in number than their similarities. That's the most precious part.... diversity. not every child has to be an extrovert... won't it be beautiful if we let the innate diverse quality in each child bloom. Liked the blog a lot Anurima. Thanks for sharing it with fellow parents.

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