The Mystery of the Crying Child - Solved!
Created by Sumitra Gopal Updated on Oct 17, 2019
You're trying to juggle work with a hundred errands, and your little one won't stop tugging at your shirt and crying. You're at your wits' end because you just don't know what will comfort him.
Does the scene sound familiar? A parent develops a seventh sense the moment her little one is born - a "cry sensor," one that helps identify why her baby is crying and how to soothe him. Your baby's only medium of communication with you, is to cry. So more often than not, it might be a simple need to be addressed. Read on to find out how you can identify the reasons, and help your crying baby.
Why Is My Child Crying?
If you take a step back and think about it, your baby's cries often fall into one of these categories we've listed. While the first and the seventh are the most visible ones, the others need a little more guess work and inference.Don't lose hope, you get better at it as you and your child grow together. Here are some of the most common reasons why babies cry-
When hurt physically: This becomes easy to identify if the injury is visible, or if you witnessed the accident. The cry is usually loud. However, if you don't see anything externally, but your baby continues to cry loudly, check for little things like a hair wrapped tightly around the toe.
What you can do: Aparent's reaction conveys the gravity of the situation to the child. Calmly move closer to your child and examine the injury. If it needs medical attention, speak to him gently and tell him that you will need to visit the doctor. Explain that there will be some pain involved, but that you will be there to help him handle it. For all minor injuries, a hug and a gentle massage, without the panic, works like a charm
When he's unwell: Depending on what's bothering him, it could be a fussy cry, or inconsolable wailing.
What you can do: The first, most obvious thing is to check if he has a fever. If he has been down with a cold, and he cries inconsolably, check with your pediatrician if it could be an ear infection. Ear pain usually makes babies cry inconsolably. If he has vomiting or diarrhea, consult your doctor since it could be a tummy bug
When there is an emotional need: The cry is inconsolable and followed by sullen or irrational behavior that is not typical of the child
What you can do:This is a tough one to gauge when nothing obviously went wrong, especially when not in your presence. As a parent, you will know how your child behaves on a normal day. So, in general, anyunusualbehavior and associated crying is a signal that you need to dig a bit deeper. Empathy, kind words and a casual conversation work best when your child needs emotional comfort
When he wants attention:You will notice that this cry surfaces when you're busy with work, or having a conversation with someone else. Your child might be clingy and cry.
What you can do:Take a minute, stop what you're doing and ask him what he would like to do. If you can spare the time, put your work aside. Otherwise, explain what you're doing, why it's important that you do it then, and how much time you will take. If you have the physical and mind space, engage him in a parallel activity - he wanted your attention not because you're busy, but because he did not know how to engage himself
When the tummy needs fuel:Just like a vehicle out of fuel, this cry is sporadic and unclear
What you can do:Your child can't always tell you that he is hungry. Make sure he eats his meals on time.Keep some healthy snacks handy at all times. While travelling, make sure your child is hydrated, and you have a bag of his favorite snacks. However, if he does reach this stage of hunger, the only choice is to stop what you are doing and fuel the engine!
When he needs sleep: This makes him cranky, with fussy crying
What you can do: If your child is clearly exhausted, hasn't had his nap and seems to be rubbing his eyes – you know what you need to do! Try having a routine where bed time and nap time are approximately at the same time every day. This way, he won't be overtired and cranky. But if he is, ease him into a nap. Telling him strictly to go to bed won't work, because he is already cranky. Take him to bed, read him a story and talk to him casually
When your child simply wants it "My way and only my way": this is a war cry!
What you can do: Most often, all logic fails in such a situation. For something extremely unreasonable, it won't do your child harm to let him cry a bit. Just hold him while he cries. This way, he knows that while you don't accept his behavior, you're still there for him. Otherwise, speak to your child gently, but firmly and tell him that it can't be done. Later, when he has calmed down, have some reflection time when you can talk about what happened
Your child's crying is usually a way to signal that he needs you. If it's not a physical need like hunger or sleep, a cuddle and some kind words will do the trick and soothe him. We hope you find these tips helpful.
Do you have any more tips to soothe a crying child? Let us know in the comments section!
| Jun 22, 2017
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