5 Ways To Handle Sibling Rivalry Effectively
Created by Swati Nitin Gupta Updated on Jan 12, 2021
Sibling rivalry is one of the most pressing issues for the parents of two or more children. Most of the time parents are clueless on how to handle the situation. In cases where the age difference between the siblings is more than three years, the problem aggravates. Read on to find out how you can deal with sibling rivalry among your children.
How To Handle Sibling Rivalry Among Your Children?
Here are 5 simple yet effective ways to handle the sibling rivalry and nip it at the bud.
Feeling of importanceGenerally sibling rivalry starts when the new baby comes home and the parents along with other relatives and friends start fussing around the new born. The elder child feels neglected, unimportant and unwanted thus resenting his or her new brother/sister.
Solution:Make your elder child feel important and loved by appreciating him or her in front of relatives and friends. Don’t nag him or her either in front of relatives or friends, as that will only aggravate the situation
Give him authorityIt is usually seen that parents especially mothers are always saying ‘don’t do this or don’t do that’ to their elder child. More so when the elder child wants to do something for the sibling and this constant nagging creates a feeling of resentment for the sibling in them.
Solution:Assign the elder child some responsibilities like taking care of the sibling while you quickly wrap up some work. Let them know that you alone will not be able to take care of the toddler and hence you need the elder child’s assistance
Equal attentionIt is quite natural that you will spend more time with the younger child, as they need you more. However, in spending more time with the younger one, please do remember that your elder child is also a child who needs his or her mother equally. Either hire a maid or ask your mother or mother-in-law to pitch in to take care of the younger one, while you spend some quality time with your elder child. Talk to him or her about their school
Involve both childrenWhile letting the children play individually might seem like a good idea, it is also necessary to have some activities that involve both the children simultaneously.
Solution:Let them play a game that involves both, allowing the children to decide who takes what role. The idea is to ensure that the siblings get comfortable around each other
No comparisonsNo two children are similar. Remember that and respect their individuality. Don’t compare your elder child to the younger child or your younger child to the elder one. It would only increase the resentment and will not serve any purpose.
Solution:Learn to appreciate their differences. While your elder child might be academically inclined, your younger child might have a creative bent to his mind. So appreciate that and see how your children grow and prosper. Comparing each other will only increase the resentment between them
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| Jun 15, 2016
In my case .....as i conceive d 2nd child ... I started telling my son that now another 1 is coming who would b your friend... who would play with u whenever u want . d baby will sleep with u & hv food with u ... He/she will love u very much.... so u hv 2 take care of this baby..... so as there will b another little 1 ...u will b a big person like us ..coz there will b another little 1 who will b younger than u........ u r our baby bt this baby will b your baby ..... so as a result ...my son counted d days more than me.... he was so excited for this baby i can't tell u.... so as i took initiative early i didn't face any such problems....... I'm sooo happy with my 2 kids..
| Jul 15, 2016
Hey my elder one is of two years and younger one is of 10 months... very close in age... elder one at times will b nice but all of a sudden he will start hitting younger one.. elder one is also not jn a stage to understand what I am saying about little one... very much concerned about this need help
| Oct 29, 2016
I have two kids with older one 8 yrs daughter and younger son of 10 months , same problem and we r actually out of India now so no maid or relative, me and my husband only do all duties and we are really v. much overloaded upto extend of body pain etc.. pl suggest how to tackle all peace fully..
| Dec 03, 2017
my son is 12+he wants a personal pH should I gave him or not actually Maine usko check Karne k liye promise Kiya ki agar aap apna behaviour achha karoge to apko pH milega usne aisa Kiya bhi iss chng ko m ek achha sign samjhu y pH k. liye bachhe ki crazyness pls tell me