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Can my child watch bigg boss?

Neetu Ralhan
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Can my child watch bigg boss

Bigg Boss – the Indian television's controversy child has had a long journey - with successful TRPs. Bigg Boss's Season 11, with Salman Khan as the host, is currently gearing up to be on air. As the tabloids and your social feed try everything to hook you to the reality show, you might be wondering if it is in the interest of the child to watch the show. We bring to you a thorough and non-judgmental review of the reality show Bigg Boss, to help you – as parents- decide on whether it is safe for children to watch Bigg Boss 11.

What Is Bigg Boss Reality Show About?

The show films the travails and tribulations of participants from different walks of life who come to live together under one roof, with no contact with the outside world. Each week, two housemates are nominated for eviction. The common end goal is to avoid eviction until the end of the series. They are made to lodge for about 4 months in a lavish house, and work on 'tasks' to get their weekly supplies of food and some incentives. As the drama unfolds, and if you might have seen the show earlier, every episode is lined with huge bouts of abuses, humiliation, backbiting, scorn, outright violence, and even vulgarity and obscenity.

Is Bigg Boss Appropriate For My Child?

Well, we are talking about infidelity, violence, vulgarity, and excessive lying and backbiting. As parents, you and I make so many sacrifices to raise our children right – but I would doubt if I am being right if my child were to watch Bigg Boss, or worse, become it's fan!

Parentune Recommends – Bigg Boss Not Appropriate for Children Below 14

I personally know many parents who love watching the show. Since it is telecast at prime time, children do tend to watch or at least catch a glimpse of the show. Interestingly I also know an equal number of parents who find the show disturbing and non-entertaining and therefore, avoid it altogether.

What Parents Need to Know About Bigg Boss- Content And Language

As the show progresses, one sees contestants turning intolerant towards one another, and a sense of competition begins to take root. As housemates struggle to cope with the constantly changing dynamics within the house, they begin to exhibit not-so-positive behaviours and emotions, like-

  1. Insecurity, intolerance, conniving against other contestants, jealousy, bad language, emotional distress, screaming, crying, trust issues, gossiping, indecency and violence
  2. As weeks pass, human nature takes over civilized restraint and audiences watch participants, most of whom are celebrities, deal with almost constant conflict. Everyone is now competing to win the game and strategizing and conspiring to eliminate the others
  3. There have been instances when due to public demand, a popular contestant is saved from eviction or is reinstated into the show, in spite of indulging in wrongful behaviour. The message that popularity overrides inappropriate conduct may not be a great example for a young child

Does The Program Display An Age Criterion At The Beginning?

Yes. The following message is displayed - "Viewer's discretion and parental guidance is recommended."

Are There Any Positive Influences?

Some housemates do manage to handle the pressure and remain calm through the series. Some have said that the experience helped them learn to survive in unfavourable situations, and be more tolerant of others. These may be positive takeaways for, perhaps, an older child (14 years and above). Unfortunately, the not-so-positive incidents that dictate most of the episodes grossly outnumber the positives.

Taking The Decision - Is Bigg Boss Relevant For My Child?

At times, one does get confused whether they can allow their child to watch a particular movie or TV show. Here is a set of 5 questions you could ask yourself, some thoughts that may help you in taking the decision.

Q. Can my child do without watching this show?

This is a question I ask myself often. Will my child gain anything by watching this show, or will he be better off doing something else?

Q. Is there any constructive takeaway he/she gets by watching the show?

Not every show is watched for educational reasons. TV viewing can also be pure entertainment for children. What one may want to consider is the kind of entertainment the child may be exposed to.

Q. My child is only 2 years old, will she really understand what's going on?

 

Children pick up vibes and can sense tension in the atmosphere. Research shows that an unpleasant environment can affect even babies. If a two year old can sense parent's conflict, domestic issues or mum's bad mood, she can understand the message coming through a powerful audio-visual medium.

 

Q. My teen daughter can differentiate between good and bad. What possible influence can a mere TV show have on her psyche?

As fear of eviction rises, housemates are seen losing their composure, indulging in diplomacy, taking sides and often succumbing to emotional histrionics.

Often, such extreme reactions are supposed to be rigged (fabricated) in order to increase the TRPs.

Additionally, celebrities are often role models for young children and teenagers. There is always a possibility that the children will emulate them without judging them. Look around and you will find that your teenager has various other alternatives for healthy entertainment.

Q. But I love this show!

Recently there have been times when I have been able to convey to my 12 year old that watching a particular show helps me unwind. So if he can give me half an hour to myself, it would be great.

With an older child such as a teenager, this may work. However with younger children, if the choice is between your child co-watching and you missing the show, one may simply have to miss the show.

You can catch the episode later on Youtube. Or if your digital TV account allows, you can record the show and watch it later when your child is away. Audio-visual media leaves a lasting impression on a child. It is perhaps best to exercise caution when deciding what your child can watch.

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puloma pandey

| Oct 09, 2017

For me a big no no to Big boss though she is only three years and will not understand things but i never switch to big boss infornt of her. The big readon is screaming that she could immitate or learn.

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Ashok Tehlan

| Dec 28, 2014

very good topic , all parents must care of that if they like to watch they must watch it when alone or such serials must be aired after midnight, v all together must raise voice together to stop all such nonsense on tv going on these days for sake of trp & earn big money. V parents are responsible for what is happening in soceity.

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Neetu Ralhan

| Oct 29, 2014

Thanks Aparna and Nisha for sharing your views :)

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Neetu Ralhan

| Oct 29, 2014

Thanks Aparna and Nisha for sharing your views :)

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Nisha Menon

| Oct 21, 2014

Well pointed out and I appreciate the pros and cons stated. Also I know how insinuating the show is. Its better to keep kids away from such TV shows.

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aparna

| Apr 01, 2014

I was also of a similar opinion and neither watched nor allowed such tv shows but when the majority are watching it and behaving erratically and even in the schools this is the hot topic of conversation amongst children a child kept away frm such content is often at a loss at understanding peer behaviour and also a mute sspectator to their discussions. Earlier my daughter would oft complain about the strange and sometimes rude behaviours of her peers. I then took a concsious decision of watching the last Big Boss together discussing and analysing it,which not only opened up my child's understanding to various emotional patterns but at the same time she also learnt that all these reality shows are orchestrated abd overdramatised. She was then also better equipped to participate in peer conversations about the same and present her viewpoint. Also last but not the least she kind of found it exhausting and not productive after awhile. In the world today,where children are constantly bombarded with explicit information from everywhere,keeping them away from media may work for awhile,but as they grow we need to give the baton to them and let them deide the content to be watched. ThThe forbidden fruit is always more elusive;taking it always breaks the hype. It can hence be tried out n well be forgotten.

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aparna

| Apr 01, 2014

Hi Neetu,loved ths vry imperative article on selective media exposure for children. But I hve a few concerns about the same

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Anurima

| Sep 30, 2013

Hey Neetu, bang on with the message! I cannot sit through an episode of Big Boss and cant imagine having my children be exposed to the behavior, language and the body language that goes on. Wonderful suggestions!

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Falak Randerian

| Sep 28, 2013

I do follow the show ..... personally my husband n me love watching BiggBoss. But like in case of any other show on Tv we watch re-run when our 2. 5 yr old sleeps ... Our child just watches tv for maximum an hr a day. .. she doesn't watch cable at all only CDs which I decide on picking up. Do BB or no BB Television is a nuisance especially for young kids.

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Parentune Support

| Sep 26, 2013

How about mobilising a word on our community to reccommend a time change for the show?

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Nayan

| Sep 25, 2013

I absolutely agree ...I condemn the decision of the channel to air it in prime time.

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Neetu Ralhan

| Sep 24, 2013

Thank you friends.. your views and inputs matter :)

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Nalini

| Sep 24, 2013

Very objectively written! I agree that parents should choose appropriate time for watching such shows & these days, recording & watching later has become so easy!

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Bhavna

| Sep 24, 2013

very appropriate topic in today's time and age... the facts are aptly put and again it is the discretion of the parent at the end of the day what their child may be exposed to, with veiwers having numerous options of content on tv , programes like these may definitely take a back seat on the must watch list. As always it was a pleasure to read the informative blog.

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AM

| Sep 24, 2013

Best option is... go for recording... and whn ur kids r nt at home or sleeping ...u can see... if u dont hv recording facility... u can watch same on youtube and der r many site... with hindi channel... u can watch der.... there is no break in between... tht way u will save ur time... At my home we do like tht... my in-laws.. like to watch crime patrol, some serials... which r nt good for my son... they watch when he's sleeping or go to school. We hv airtel IP tv... they hv recording system. In Tata sky n all u hv to put serial on recording by in airtel.. they automatically save all serials... for last ten days.

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Shikha Batra

| Sep 24, 2013

Awesome Neetu! I kinda liked the way u have given reviews about this show and how appropriate it is for children to watch. It is I believe a show wherein all the contestants are put to acid test how best they can survive without gadgets, means of communication, their families and friends around. Rather it has become a show where in we wait n watch how quickly contestants loose their cool and start behaving weirdly. Sometimes they are even seen changing statements n defending their actions forgetting the whole world is watching them. As Bigboss is aired abroad too. I agree with u we should not allow children to watch it as they are the first ones to sense tension and pick up wrong messages and often imitate. Thanx again dear for an excellent piece of work!

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