Ways to Respond to Child's Temper Tantrums When They Happen
Created by Kavitha Sriram Updated on Feb 12, 2020
I am the mother of an 8-year-old male child. My son, when he was young, used to lose his temper a lot, and was adamant in a few things. I and my husband both are working and we were a bit worried, then we discussed and tried to work out. Here are somethings, we figured out how to control temper tantrums.
How to Respond With Your Child's Temper Tantrums?
With these ideas, I think these 3 t's—temper, tears, and tantrums—could be handled easily and efficiently. Read below
- When he was losing his temper and looked at me to expect shock, anger, and frustration--which was usually my reaction--I started looking at his eyes with a calm face for few seconds, to change the situation. He would get confused and would start smiling. If he was still angry, I used to laugh loudly, and he wouldn't be able to stop his smile.
- Children usually throw tantrums when they want something and we don't provide it. So, to teach him patience, I played his own game. When my son started communicating, he had just learned numbers 1 to 3. I gave him 2 pens in hand and asked him to give 3 pens back to me. He counted twice and gave 2 pens saying that he just had 2. I started throwing tantrums that I wanted 3. He couldn't understand what to do and slowly explained that he can't give me the 3rd one. We used this as a chance to explain that parents do have limited resources and thus it is not possible to buy everything, and only necessary things could be bought.
- We usually play mother- son games that is he is my mother and I am the adamant son. Gradually, I would bring in the issues we had and he now understood how difficult it was to deal with a situation sometimes.
- Now we discuss even our office problems with him, so he understands what we go through on a daily basis and also gives his own inputs—how to deal with a situation creatively and innovatively.
- Instead of telling him what to do, we ask him, what shall we do differently that will help him to make him feel important.
I feel today's children are more intelligent, mature and friendly. Their exposure is greater than our childhood days, and parenting is a journey we take together as a family, where the child's role is more important. Have a great parenting journey, it is a blessed journey and once in a lifetime opportunity to learn and grow at the same time.
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| Apr 07, 2018
very useful and practical suggestions, i'm hoping it works for me too
| Apr 07, 2018
thanks for useful tips
| Apr 07, 2018
thank you so much... for sharing this article.
| Apr 07, 2018
very good suggestions
| Apr 06, 2018
amqzing tips! thanks for sharing!!
| Apr 06, 2018
Thank you for sharing ur experience. Needed it desperately....
| Jun 13, 2017
Thanks for sharing I will do it..
| Jun 13, 2017
very helpful article for me
| Jun 13, 2017
Realy gud article
| Jun 13, 2017
Helpful article, thanks for sharing
| Jun 13, 2017
helpful article... thanks
| May 16, 2017
thanks a lot for sharing.
| Sep 13, 2016
cool just great way to handle kids tantrums
| Sep 13, 2016
good attempt
| Aug 15, 2016
very nice attempt....... I"ll definitely try
| Jul 17, 2016
good one
| Jul 17, 2016
good blog. thanks for inputs.
| Jul 17, 2016
good approach !!!
| Jul 17, 2016
wonderful approach
| Jul 17, 2016
very nice ..its really very heplful
| Jun 14, 2016
I liked these ideas. I will try this. Thanks
| Jun 13, 2016
good
| Jun 13, 2016
good
| Jun 06, 2016
Thank you all for your support
| Jun 06, 2016
such a good example of how to deal a temperd child
| May 19, 2016
Thanks I will try these ideas
| May 13, 2016
very good idea.. I will surely try it.. thnx..
| May 13, 2016
Really good explaination and very very helpful....
| May 13, 2016
good idea.
| Apr 13, 2016
Thank you for good opinion
| Apr 13, 2016
Its very effective.... thanx
| Apr 12, 2016
Great.. Good job
| Apr 08, 2016
I must implement these gud suggestions on my 9 year old daughter...... Thanks
| Apr 07, 2016
Very good idea. I will definitely try with my daughter too..
| Apr 07, 2016
Very nice idea i will also try
| Feb 26, 2016
Very encouraging I will try to in act on it but I think it needs lot of patience.
| Jan 08, 2016
Very nice suggestions, thank you. Surely i will try this with my kid next time when he gets angry.
| Jan 06, 2016
Very nice suggestion will surely try with my twin boys of 8.
| Dec 31, 2015
I will surely try.... I have 11 yrs old daughter. she use to demand lot of things. I think ur way to understand the kids is diffrent and it will work. fingers crossed
| Dec 30, 2015
lovely way................ will try definitely. Thank you
| Dec 05, 2015
@pushpalatha, the pen game i play with kids around 2 years as they start learning numbers in that age. so i think it may work with your daughter too. for detailed reply you can mail me to : kavithasriram2006@gmail. com. I am also working on a book about parenting so may be i can be of some help.
| Dec 01, 2015
But how to deal with the same behavior of my 3 year old daughter?
| Nov 30, 2015
I will try this with my children. Thanks for the input
| Sep 15, 2015
thank you for sharing your idea. Hope this works for me too .
| Sep 02, 2015
I will surely try your ideas. hope I am successful too
| Aug 22, 2015
Thnx for ur ideas hope it works thnx a lot
| Aug 11, 2015
thanx mam, i think it would be helpful for me
| Aug 03, 2015
Thanx mam for sharing ur views. I hope these will help me a lot
| Aug 01, 2015
Thank u mam ....for sharing your views ....it would help me a lot
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