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Ways to Respond to Child's Temper Tantrums When They Happen

Kavitha Sriram
3 to 7 years

Created by Kavitha Sriram
Updated on Jun 18, 2020

Ways to Respond to Childs Temper Tantrums When They Happen
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I am the mother of an 8-year-old male child. My son, when he was young, used to lose his temper a lot, and was adamant in a few things. I and my husband both are working and we were a bit worried, then we discussed and tried to work out. Here are somethings, we figured out how to control temper tantrums.

How to Respond With Your Child's Temper Tantrums?

With these ideas, I think these 3 t's—temper, tears, and tantrums—could be handled easily and efficiently. Read below

  • When he was losing his temper and looked at me to expect shock, anger, and frustration--which was usually my reaction--I started looking at his eyes with a calm face for few seconds, to change the situation. He would get confused and would start smiling. If he was still angry, I used to laugh loudly, and he wouldn't be able to stop his smile.
  • Children usually throw tantrums when they want something and we don't provide it. So, to teach him patience, I played his own game. When my son started communicating, he had just learned numbers 1 to 3. I gave him 2 pens in hand and asked him to give 3 pens back to me. He counted twice and gave 2 pens saying that he just had 2. I started throwing tantrums that I wanted 3. He couldn't understand what to do and slowly explained that he can't give me the 3rd one. We used this as a chance to explain that parents do have limited resources and thus it is not possible to buy everything, and only necessary things could be bought.
  • We usually play mother- son games that is he is my mother and I am the adamant son. Gradually, I would bring in the issues we had and he now understood how difficult it was to deal with a situation sometimes.
  • Now we discuss even our office problems with him, so he understands what we go through on a daily basis and also gives his own inputs—how to deal with a situation creatively and innovatively.
  • Instead of telling him what to do, we ask him, what shall we do differently that will help him to make him feel important.

I feel today's children are more intelligent, mature and friendly. Their exposure is greater than our childhood days, and parenting is a journey we take together as a family, where the child's role is more important. Have a great parenting journey, it is a blessed journey and once in a lifetime opportunity to learn and grow at the same time.

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| Aug 01, 2015

Thank u mam ....for sharing your views ....it would help me a lot

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| Aug 03, 2015

Thanx mam for sharing ur views. I hope these will help me a lot

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| Aug 11, 2015

thanx mam, i think it would be helpful for me

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| Aug 22, 2015

Thnx for ur ideas hope it works thnx a lot

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| Sep 02, 2015

I will surely try your ideas. hope I am successful too

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| Sep 15, 2015

thank you for sharing your idea. Hope this works for me too .

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| Nov 30, 2015

I will try this with my children. Thanks for the input

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| Dec 01, 2015

But how to deal with the same behavior of my 3 year old daughter?

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| Dec 05, 2015

@pushpalatha, the pen game i play with kids around 2 years as they start learning numbers in that age. so i think it may work with your daughter too. for detailed reply you can mail me to : kavithasriram2006@gmail. com. I am also working on a book about parenting so may be i can be of some help.

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| Dec 30, 2015

lovely way................ will try definitely. Thank you

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| Dec 31, 2015

I will surely try.... I have 11 yrs old daughter. she use to demand lot of things. I think ur way to understand the kids is diffrent and it will work. fingers crossed

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| Jan 06, 2016

Very nice suggestion will surely try with my twin boys of 8.

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| Jan 08, 2016

Very nice suggestions, thank you. Surely i will try this with my kid next time when he gets angry.

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| Feb 26, 2016

Very encouraging I will try to in act on it but I think it needs lot of patience.

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| Apr 07, 2016

Very nice idea i will also try

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| Apr 07, 2016

Very good idea. I will definitely try with my daughter too..

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| Apr 08, 2016

I must implement these gud suggestions on my 9 year old daughter...... Thanks

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| Apr 12, 2016

Great.. Good job

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| Apr 13, 2016

Its very effective.... thanx

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| Apr 13, 2016

Thank you for good opinion

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| May 13, 2016

good idea.

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| May 13, 2016

Really good explaination and very very helpful....

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| May 13, 2016

very good idea.. I will surely try it.. thnx..

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| May 19, 2016

Thanks I will try these ideas

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| Jun 06, 2016

such a good example of how to deal a temperd child

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| Jun 06, 2016

Thank you all for your support

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| Jun 13, 2016

good

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| Jun 13, 2016

good

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| Jun 14, 2016

I liked these ideas. I will try this. Thanks

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| Jul 17, 2016

very nice ..its really very heplful

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| Jul 17, 2016

wonderful approach

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| Jul 17, 2016

good approach !!!

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| Jul 17, 2016

good blog. thanks for inputs.

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| Jul 17, 2016

good one

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| Aug 15, 2016

very nice attempt....... I"ll definitely try

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| Sep 13, 2016

good attempt

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| Sep 13, 2016

cool just great way to handle kids tantrums

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| May 16, 2017

thanks a lot for sharing.

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| Jun 13, 2017

helpful article... thanks

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| Jun 13, 2017

Helpful article, thanks for sharing

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| Jun 13, 2017

Realy gud article

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| Jun 13, 2017

very helpful article for me

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| Jun 13, 2017

Thanks for sharing I will do it..

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| Apr 06, 2018

Thank you for sharing ur experience. Needed it desperately....

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| Apr 06, 2018

amqzing tips! thanks for sharing!!

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| Apr 07, 2018

very good suggestions

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| Apr 07, 2018

thank you so much... for sharing this article.

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| Apr 07, 2018

thanks for useful tips

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| Apr 07, 2018

very useful and practical suggestions, i'm hoping it works for me too

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| Jul 02, 2020

Thanks for these helpful tips

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