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Dealing your child's Temper Tantrums with Smile, Love and Patience

Kavitha Sriram
7 to 11 years

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Dealing your childs Temper Tantrums with Smile Love and Patience

I am the mother of an 8-year-old male child. My son, when he was young, used to lose his temper a lot, and was adamant in a few things. I and my husband both are working and we were a bit worried, then we discussed and tried to work out a way. Here are somethings, we figured out:
1) When he was losing his temper and looked at me to expect shock, anger, and frustration--which was usually my reaction--I started looking at his eyes with a calm face for few seconds, to change the situation. He would get confused and would start smiling. If he was still angry, I used to laugh loudly, and he wouldn't be able to stop his smile.

2) Children usually throw tantrums when they want something and we don't provide it. So, to teach him patience, I played his own game. When my son started communicating, he had just learnt numbers 1 to 3. I gave him 2 pens in hand and asked him to give 3 pens back to me. He counted twice and gave 2 pens saying that he just had 2. I started throwing tantrums that I wanted 3. He couldn't understand what to do and slowly explained that he can't give me the 3rd one. We used this as a chance to explain that parents do have limited resources and thus it is not possible to buy everything, and only necessary thing could be bought.

3) We usually play mother- son game that is he is my mother and I am the adamant son. Gradually, I would bring in the issues we had and he now understood how difficult it was to deal with a situation sometomes.

4) Now we discuss even our office problems with him, so he understands what we go through with on a daily basis and also gives his own inputs—how to deal with a situation creatively and innovatively.

5) Instead of telling him what to do, we ask him, what shall we do differently that will help him to make him feel important.

With these ideas, I think these 3 t's—temper, tears and tantrums—could be handled easily and efficiently. I feel today's children are more intelligent, mature and friendly. Their exposure is greater than our childhood days, and parenting is a journey we take together as a family, where the child's role is more important. Have a great parenting journey, it is a blessed journey and once in a lifetime opportunity to learn and grow at the same time.

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Amrita Nandi

| Jun 13, 2017

Thanks for sharing I will do it..

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Dhanashri

| Jun 13, 2017

very helpful article for me

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Vatchalya

| Jun 13, 2017

Realy gud article

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Pushpamurthy

| Jun 13, 2017

Helpful article, thanks for sharing

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Summi

| Jun 13, 2017

helpful article... thanks

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Chandana Dutta BHATTACHARYA

| May 16, 2017

thanks a lot for sharing.

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Pratibha Kandalgaonkar

| Sep 13, 2016

cool just great way to handle kids tantrums

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Rekha Hari

| Sep 13, 2016

good attempt

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Naomi njg

| Aug 15, 2016

very nice attempt....... I"ll definitely try

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Harpreet

| Jul 17, 2016

good one

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Swati Gupta

| Jul 17, 2016

good blog. thanks for inputs.

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Ashmitha

| Jul 17, 2016

good approach !!!

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Joyeeta Bhattacharya

| Jul 17, 2016

wonderful approach

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Dipali Soni

| Jul 17, 2016

very nice ..its really very heplful

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Purva

| Jun 14, 2016

I liked these ideas. I will try this. Thanks

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Rekha Hari

| Jun 13, 2016

good

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Rekha Hari

| Jun 13, 2016

good

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Kavitha Sriram

| Jun 06, 2016

Thank you all for your support

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Jumana Singaporewala

| Jun 06, 2016

such a good example of how to deal a temperd child

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Sanjeevani M

| May 19, 2016

Thanks I will try these ideas

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Kunjal Gor

| May 13, 2016

very good idea.. I will surely try it.. thnx..

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Sneha Hinduja

| May 13, 2016

Really good explaination and very very helpful....

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sravanthi chapparam

| May 13, 2016

good idea.

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Chandrakala V

| Apr 13, 2016

Thank you for good opinion

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Barkha Gupta

| Apr 13, 2016

Its very effective.... thanx

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Divya

| Apr 12, 2016

Great.. Good job

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arti sharma

| Apr 08, 2016

I must implement these gud suggestions on my 9 year old daughter...... Thanks

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Pavani Rao

| Apr 07, 2016

Very good idea. I will definitely try with my daughter too..

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DISHA GUPTA

| Apr 07, 2016

Very nice idea i will also try

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Radha Nayak

| Feb 26, 2016

Very encouraging I will try to in act on it but I think it needs lot of patience.

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SINDU PUTHIYA PURAYIL

| Jan 08, 2016

Very nice suggestions, thank you. Surely i will try this with my kid next time when he gets angry.

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shabina khan

| Jan 06, 2016

Very nice suggestion will surely try with my twin boys of 8.

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Shweta Malhotra

| Dec 31, 2015

I will surely try.... I have 11 yrs old daughter. she use to demand lot of things. I think ur way to understand the kids is diffrent and it will work. fingers crossed

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minal bathia

| Dec 30, 2015

lovely way................ will try definitely. Thank you

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Kavitha Sriram

| Dec 05, 2015

@pushpalatha, the pen game i play with kids around 2 years as they start learning numbers in that age. so i think it may work with your daughter too. for detailed reply you can mail me to : kavithasriram2006@gmail. com. I am also working on a book about parenting so may be i can be of some help.

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Pushpalatha

| Dec 01, 2015

But how to deal with the same behavior of my 3 year old daughter?

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Priya Vijay

| Nov 30, 2015

I will try this with my children. Thanks for the input

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supreeta

| Sep 15, 2015

thank you for sharing your idea. Hope this works for me too .

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Nidhi Bajoria

| Sep 02, 2015

I will surely try your ideas. hope I am successful too

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Rebecca

| Aug 22, 2015

Thnx for ur ideas hope it works thnx a lot

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Aruna Belekar

| Aug 11, 2015

thanx mam, i think it would be helpful for me

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Nitika Garg

| Aug 03, 2015

Thanx mam for sharing ur views. I hope these will help me a lot

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Bharat Jain

| Aug 01, 2015

Thank u mam ....for sharing your views ....it would help me a lot

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