Child Psychology and Behaviour

Growing pains: What I learned from my siblings

Shweta Chopra
7 to 11 years

Created by Shweta Chopra
Updated on May 03, 2021

Growing pains What I learned from my siblings
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It was one of the hot and humid Sunday afternoons, perfect for one of my do-not-disturb nap times. When I woke up sweating, I knew this was an in-house crime...While I enjoyed my siesta, my 7-year-old sister and 9-year-old brat of a brother would sneak into my room, team up against me, switch off the AC and run away in joy. How much they loved this ‘game’!

They hated it when I chose to nap instead of play. My priorities were different and this truly became their best target. When we were even younger, my brother used to be on my side, but in no time—before I realised it— sides changed, for better or worse!I was now the no-nonsense sibling they held their case against.

Love, laughter and life

Looking back on the little things we shared, I realise how much siblings truly shape each other just by being themselves. The loss of our mother when my sister was just 4 had changed everything around us.

Living in a thoughtful and sheltered environment with my grand-mom and dad taking such good care of us, helped us learn to silently depend more on each other for our joys and sorrows. We learnt from things we not only liked, but also hated in each other. For example, I would swear never to act half as miserly as my brother did each time he had to share some of his favourite food.

My sister on the other hand, threw fits of anger every time she was denied anything she really wanted. The word ‘no' was becoming a hard thing to hear, and despite the fact that we knew it was pent up emotion for the loss a little heart suffered, we all succumbed to her tantrums and filled her bucket with toys she would not look at even once.

The bitter-sweet memories only bring out the strong shades of emotions we all go through with our siblings influencing each other’s personality and more.Our formative years allowed us to absorb much through what we saw before us than what we heard.

This is why younger siblings are usually seen copying mannerisms and behaviours of their elder brother or sister. They like to play with the same toy with which the older sibling would be playing with. That is because they find their role models in them. Every sibling brings out a hidden shade in the other and that's what completes them as partners and friends for life.

The golden rule

My dad’s clear cut rule for us went a long way in keeping the bond between us alive. As children there was one simple rule – Wherever you go, you go together—that compelled us to share secrets, and introduce our friends to each other while maintaining the space we needed. It also allowed us both the freedom we wanted while forewarning each other of anything that didn't feel right.

I always felt protected as my brother was like a bouncer walking behind me, which I detested back then, but looking back now I realise it must have saved me from a lot of trouble.

What I learned

We learnt values like forgiveness from each other. We also learned to accept different personality traits and cohabit harmoniously. Siblings unknowingly play quite a significant role in teaching each other co-operation, interdependence, acceptance of flaws, acknowledgement of goodness and looking at a point of view apart from ours. Basically, having siblings is nothing less than a fortune.

Hold yours close and take all your revenge while you can, because it is when you grow up that you will know nothing gives more pleasure and no one takes it more sportingly than them.

Do you have a sibling? We’d love to hear about your favourite stories and memories! Let us know in the comments below!

This content has been checked & validated by Doctors and Experts of the parentune Expert panel. Our panel consists of Neonatologist, Gynecologist, Peadiatrician, Nutritionist, Child Counselor, Education & Learning Expert, Physiotherapist, Learning disability Expert and Developmental Pead.

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| May 10, 2017

Hi Shweta, thanks for the interesting blog on siblings. Unknowingly we do reflect the mannerisms of our siblings in certain situations.

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| Apr 20, 2020

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