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Hacks To Handle A Stubborn Child

Aanchal Rohit Soni
3 to 7 years

Created by Aanchal Rohit Soni
Updated on Feb 23, 2018

Hacks To Handle A Stubborn Child

Little Aashish wakes up and see everyone is asleep. He reaches for the drawer and tries to take the packet of gems out from the drawer. His mommy caught him red handed. Though he was scared, he got adamant. He wanted to eat those gems so he just kept on crying in the hope that momma would say yes.

You guessed it right. I'm talking about those stubborn children who just don't give up. Eventually who will give into whom is dependent on how you handle hte situation as parents – tactfully or you resort to anger – leading to disquiet and built-up frustration in you, child and thus in the home as well.

So how do you handle a stubborn child? I am sharing 8 hacks to handle the stubborn child, but before that let’s see what are the common traits of a stubborn or a strong-willed child?

What Are The Traits Of A Stubborn Child?

There are certain characteristic traits of a stubborn child, which may help you as parents to know whether your child is stubborn or not.

  1. A stubborn child is quite strong willed and loves to do things on his or her own pace. So give them freedom to do things on their own while supervising them
  2. He or she has a strong need to be heard or acknowledged, hence will seek your attention quite often
  3. While children love throwing tantrums, a stubborn child will throw tantrums quite often
  4. A stubborn child can be bossy at times as well and likes to command

While these are basic characteristics of a stubborn, these traits don’t necessarily mean that your child is stubborn.

Handling stubborn child

8 Hacks To Handle A Stubborn Child

So now you know the basic traits of a stubborn child, you can follow these tried and tested tips that worked well for me to handle your stubborn child.

Did you like the blog on hacks to handle a stubborn child? Please do share your views and feedback in the comments section below.

  1. Avoid the arguments: While dealing with your stubborn child don’t do the mistake of arguing with him or her, instead listen to what your child has to say. In case the child is crying inconsolably – then tell him or her that you will talk to him or her when he or she is in a better mood. And then move out of that room or that space
  2. Stay calm: When your child is throwing a tantrum practice to stay calm and talk to him or her in a calm soothing voice. Don’t raise your voice, don’t show your embarrassment or your irritation, as your child will be quick enough to catch on it and even capitalise on it
  3. Telling them the reason: If you are strict about something you don't want them to do or buy, then you should give them a valid reason for it. If he or she understands your reason then he or she will definitely be in sync with you. Your reason should not be any threat or something that can make your child fearful. Give him or her logical reason and the child will understand
  4. Divert the attention: If your child gets attached to something that you don’t allow then divert his or her attention by giving something else. If the child wants to buy a supersonic car divert his attention to something better like a book on cars. This will not only give him knowledge but will make him less stubborn
  5. Stories reflect better: Try to tell them stories about stubborn children every day. This is teaching with examples. Tell them how stubborn children are a nuisance. When children will get to know obedience is the virtue they will try to be an obedient child. However, on an occasional basis it is fine if you give in to his or her demands but ensure that it doesn’t become a practice
  6. Be a good role model: A child learns from his or her parents so be a good role model for your child. Let him or her see that how you handle stressful situations without losing your calm. Let him or her see that there are ways to let the emotions out and while it is okay to be angry it is not okay to throw tantrums
  7. Give your child some choices: Give your child choices for the tasks you want to him or her to do. When you offer choices to your child you are letting them know that you value their opinion about the things you want them to do. So whether he or she wants to have soup before dinner or after dinner, let him or her decide
  8. Let there be peace at home: Ensure that there is a peaceful environment at home that helps in raising a child who is calm and composed. Children being children will throw tantrums on and off but if there is a peaceful environment at home, they will learn to handle their emotions in a positive manner

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| Sep 17, 2018

Thank You very much. Very useful information

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| Sep 17, 2018

Thank You very much. Very useful information

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| Aug 10, 2018

very helpful blog... my daughter is also very stubborn.. I hope these tips help me make her a better child... thanks a ton.. would love to get More such tips to better handle my daughter

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| Aug 07, 2018

thank you so much madam..... this blog is very helpful........

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| Jul 18, 2018

thanks

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| Jul 01, 2018

thank you

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| Jun 21, 2018

thanku

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| Jun 18, 2018

Hi.. .thank you for the helpful blog... hope it will bring back my child from being stubborn

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| Jun 18, 2018

Hi.. .thank you for the helpful blog... hope it will bring back my child from being stubborn

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| Jun 08, 2018

thanku so much..

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| May 30, 2018

thanks .. will surely follow .. thanks

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| May 30, 2018

thanks .. will surely follow .. thanks

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| May 30, 2018

thanks .. will surely follow .. thanks

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| May 30, 2018

thanks .. will surely follow .. thanks

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| May 21, 2018

thank you

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| May 21, 2018

Very nice blog for us be we all are having this situation thanks mam.

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| May 21, 2018

Very nice blog for us be we all are having this situation thanks mam.

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| May 21, 2018

Very nice blog for us be we all are having this situation thanks mam.

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| May 15, 2018

OK thanks I will try it

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| May 15, 2018

OK thanks I will try it

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| May 03, 2018

thanks Aton... I Vl surely follow these n hopes positive that it works out

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| Apr 25, 2018

thank u so much

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| Apr 25, 2018

thank u so much

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| Apr 15, 2018

Thnks.. Wil try all this

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| Apr 15, 2018

Thnks.. Wil try all this

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| Apr 12, 2018

tysm... I m sure this will help

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| Apr 11, 2018

Thank you for the suggestions, I will definitely opt these points.

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| Apr 11, 2018

Thank you for the suggestions, I will definitely opt these points.

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| Apr 11, 2018

Thank you for the suggestions, I will definitely opt these points.

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| Apr 11, 2018

Thank you for the suggestions, I will definitely opt these points.

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| Mar 29, 2018

thanks for giving me your suggestion

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| Mar 29, 2018

thanks for giving me your suggestion

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| Mar 14, 2018

thanks ...will try this

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| Mar 14, 2018

thanks ...will try this

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| Mar 12, 2018

Thankyu

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| Mar 12, 2018

Thankyu

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| Mar 10, 2018

Thanks mam

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| Mar 10, 2018

Thanks mam

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| Mar 09, 2018

what if child is only 3 yr old...

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| Mar 05, 2018

thanks for important guidance..

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| Feb 27, 2018

thanks everyone for liking and supporting my blog.. stay tuned for more

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| Feb 27, 2018

thank you for sharing this information...

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| Feb 24, 2018

I think these tips will work for sure. thank you so much for sharing this with us

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| Feb 23, 2018

Tank u very much it's very useful for me...

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| Feb 08, 2018

thank you so much... I'll follow the tips..

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| Jan 14, 2018

very nice. thank for this blog. very useful for me

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| Jan 14, 2018

very nice. thank for this blog

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| Dec 22, 2017

Thank you so much for your valuable tips.

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| Dec 22, 2017

Thank you so much for your valuable tips.

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| Dec 22, 2017

useful article ... Thank you so much for your valuable tips.

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| Dec 22, 2017

I wil try my level best to adapt these tips. Thank u for ur precious suggestions

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| Dec 05, 2017

Thank you Mam. One thing i would like to tell you that there is no peaceful environment in my home. My in-laws or her grandparents use to fight among themselves always. Please suggest that how to well nurture my daughter, aged 1 year 4 months, at this situation ?

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| Dec 04, 2017

thanks a lot

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| Nov 30, 2017

very useful article.. thank you!!

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| Nov 28, 2017

very useful tips... hpe these will work.. and i will also try to calm at that particular time

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| Nov 28, 2017

very useful tips... hpe these will work.. and i will also try to calm at that particular time

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| Nov 27, 2017

Very useful article... Thanks for sharing

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| Nov 27, 2017

Useful article

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| Nov 27, 2017

Thanks for share.... my son 2 yr 3mn old bt he is damn stuborn... he wants somthng if he will nt get thn he will cry or he will hit on his self or me or he will sleep anywhere nd cry... plz help me...

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| Nov 27, 2017

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| Nov 27, 2017

thanks for the solution... some points... m already following... for some I ll try..

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| Nov 20, 2017

thanku its v useful...

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| Oct 27, 2017

I have twins daughter and one of them is stubborn ( I think so ). I trying all of trick. but my in lows and my husbund never supporting me. they always take her side and disappoints me. so day by day she become more stubborn. what have I do for my both daughters.

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| Oct 27, 2017

thanks i useful article

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| Oct 27, 2017

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| Oct 27, 2017

so good and relaxing to hear .. will surely try and let u know the rresult also

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| Oct 27, 2017

thank u so much..... very very useful article.

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| Oct 27, 2017

thanks a lot.... very useful tips for me..

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| Oct 27, 2017

thanks a lot for your suggestions

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| Oct 27, 2017

none of the above methods work for my 2y old lo

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| Oct 25, 2017

but my baby is only 2years n 5 months how can i make him understand n he never forget his demabd

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| Oct 25, 2017

thanks for such valuable suggestions...

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| Oct 25, 2017

quite a useful blog with handy tips on how to control a stubborn child. thanks for sharing.

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| Oct 25, 2017

It is really nice would really help. If we ourself loose patience then children would also reflex same impatience and anger

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| Oct 24, 2017

very nice guidelines... thank you so much

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