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How Mother went from Fat to fit after Baby Delivery ?

Kalyani Pardeshi
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Created by Kalyani Pardeshi
Updated on Mar 26, 2020

How Mother went from Fat to fit after Baby Delivery
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Suddenly the phone rang, giving me a fright. I checked the caller ID, it was a close friend's call. I already knew what this call was about and I was so tempted to let it go to voicemail, I really, really wasn't in the mood to take this call and fake being excited. I went against my better judgment and I took the call.

"Hi Kalyani!" she said, bubbly as always, "We are celebrating my daughter's first birthday this weekend and you are invited to the party! And yes, I want to let you know of the dress code….It's traditional Indian wear! We don't often get to flaunt our fancy Indian wear. You totally have to check out what I bought on my last trip to India." I sighed, inaudibly, and replied, unenthusiastically, "Sure, that'll be great!"

Thoughts sprang into my mind, not very happy or positive ones. With such dismal thoughts, I dragged myself down to the basement to find my suitcase full of beautiful Indian wear, beautiful yes, but they were no longer beautiful for me as I was unable to fit in them. This also meant one thing - sitting with a seam ripper and opening up the stitches on a saree blouse. There was nothing I could fit into! A salwar kurta? Sure the salwar would fit but my arms would look like tree trunks coming out of the now tight sleeves in the kurta while the rest of it would cling to my hips as if it's life depended on it. And don't get me started on those spare tyres.

It was a disheartening feeling. I looked and felt like a whale. This was a battle I was fighting with myself. Each day I was dreading the topic of fitness. It is hard enough being a mom, constantly second guessing what I was doing, if I was doing it right and add to that having countless people telling me how it should be done. Weight loss and fitness were the last things on my mind.

I couldn't climb up a flight of stairs without huffing, puffing and panting. I hated going to shopping malls because everywhere I looked, there was a mirror. In the mirror, there was a huge figure that was ogling back at me and I absolutely despised that look, walking around my own house was torture as we have 8 mirrors in the house, 4 of them, full length mirrors.

Little did I know that focusing on my fitness would help me gain a form of confidence, quiet self-assurance and resolve that no one could shake. It would translate into every other area of my life, it would make me happier, more focused, more energetic and more patient as a wife and as a mother.

How did my mindset change? The one thing I had learnt through my entire weight loss process is that no one can tell you when you are ready, only you know when you are ready. We all have our "aha" moments - moments when things just "click" and we make significant changes in our lives.

I had two of them - the first was experiencing postpartum depression and being refused medical treatment, I had no choice, I had to make positive changes for the sake of my children and the second was my father suffering a mild heart attack which he survived. He has always been my role model, he eats healthy foods and walks every day. For something to happen to him, a person who is so health conscious was a major wake up call for me. Find a reason so strong that no matter what else is going on around you, nothing can derail your train.

One, simple yet fundamental concept hit home: As a mom, in order to take care of those who matter to me, I need to take care of myself first. I need to be at my best, mentally, physically and emotionally.

How do you go from not working out at all to a 30 minute a day fitness routine, 6 days a week? You KISS it - Keep It Simple Sister.

In KISS-ing it, I decided to create simple ways to ensure that my fitness routine was achievable: I started with 10 minutes, 3 days a week (anyone can manage 10 minutes - it was mentally easier to convince myself to work out for 10 minutes vs. 30 minutes).

And thus began my journey to fitness, I started out small and built from there. Think of it this way - is a baby born running? No, they first learn how to roll from their back to their front, then progressing to sitting and crawling, standing, walking and finally running. It is a process and fitness is the same - a journey, not a destination. It is about being stronger than you were yesterday.

Today, I am sharing some of the most effective abs exercises that I did, with. It is important to know, though, that weight loss is around 75% to 80% affected by your nutrition - you cannot exercise out unhealthy nutrition choices and abs are predominantly built in the kitchen not so much in a gym.

In closing I would like to add that I achieved my entire transformation working out at home entirely using minimal equipment (a yoga mat, a barbell with two sets of weight plates, a resistance band, two sets of free weights - dumbbells and workout DVD's). I did not go to a gym to achieve the results that I have today.

No one said it would be easy but it is definitely worth it. I sincerely hope that this information was helpful to you, and I invite you to get in touch with me and let me know 

The workouts

Frog crunches: Lift head, neck and shoulders off the floor and angle legs about 45 degrees - crunch upper body and legs in towards each other at the same time, breathe out when crunching in and breathe in when extending legs:

Opposite arm, opposite leg: While lying down, raise head neck and shoulders off the ground, scissor opposite arm to opposite leg, breathe out when leg and arm meet, breathe in when extending the arm and leg:

Side heel drops: While lying down, raise your legs so your knees form a 90 degree angle. While keep that same angle all the time, drop your legs side to side (this works the oblique muscles helping you get rid of that muffin top). Breathe out when dropping legs and breathe in when lifting them. Ensure your elbows stay on the ground all the time:

Opposite knee, opposite elbow: While lying down, bend your knees, place your right ankle on your left knee. Touch your left hand to the side of your head, lift yourself up to try to get your left elbow to meet your right knee - do not move your knee closer but lift your body to achieve maximum results

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| Dec 11, 2015

Truly commendable kalyani. I enjoyed reading your story and it's quite inspiring. All the best.

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| Dec 11, 2015

Thank you Hemlata!

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| Dec 11, 2015

Anyone wishing to connect with me can do so via my website: www. activmommas. com

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| Dec 12, 2015

Well done Kalyani..... I am also a mom of one and a half year of daughter. And my belly fat bothering me..... i am having a same belly fat story that u had..... but ur working out story inspired me.... thanks for sharing.

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| Dec 12, 2015

Priyanka, I am currently running a free private group on Facebook and the women I am working with are showing phenomenal results in a short time. You are welcome to join - connect with me via www. activmommas. com

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| Dec 12, 2015

Hi can u plz provide pictures by step by step or video for exercises to that u had done

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| Dec 12, 2015

Well done Kalyani

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| Dec 12, 2015

Very good kalyani... nd inspiring too.. I m mother two sons.. one is 4yrs nd other is 3 months.. U knw i too tried working on myself a lot many times... but couldn't stay for long on my workout routine... plz share how u keep urself motivated though out

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| Dec 12, 2015

I am a mother of 6yr old girl... I lost all my weight n was more in shape after my daughter...... patience, right diet,I did Shaun t wrkout,walk... all help.... I gained 16kgs in my pregnancy ..ws 44kg bfr.... post delivery didn't lose much... finally II was 46 n much more gud in shape Dan bfr..... now I m expecting my second.... same routine will follow

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| Dec 12, 2015

I a m dietician by profession ...hav a page n group on Facebook in the name of eattoloose..... wats ur Facebook grp

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| Dec 12, 2015

Congratulations on taking that positive step :)

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| Dec 12, 2015

Wonderful. .

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| Dec 12, 2015

Wonderful !! Dear, can u add some diet tips ?

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| Dec 12, 2015

so wonderful

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| Dec 12, 2015

Thanks kalyani to share your story... it's very inspiring. I'm having a Lo 2 month old.. iI have put on lot of weight your exercises iI will follow & try loosing weight getting back into shape...

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| Dec 12, 2015

Supermom. :*

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| Dec 12, 2015

Hi. Ur pre fitness story seems mine right now. It was a big relief to read it as i see sunshine at the end of the tunnel. Thank u v much. I just want to know What changes did u make to ur diet and what exercises did u pull off with the band and dumbells?

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| Dec 12, 2015

Hi, this article is very motivating. You mentioned about working out ten min 3 days a week. At what rate did you increase the work out? Are these the only exercises you did? How long did you take to lose how many kilos? What's the best accompanying diet like? Pls give me details, thumbs up to you!

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| Dec 12, 2015

thank you.

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| Dec 13, 2015

Hi Kalyani, hats off to your determination... the results are amazing... I am also mom of one trying to lose weight... how long did it take for you to reach from photo 1 to photo 2?

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| Dec 13, 2015

Devika, I had provided pictures to the admin of this site when I submitted my guest post, unfortunately, the pictures weren't published.

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| Dec 13, 2015

Thank you Mahnaz

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| Dec 13, 2015

Pooja, thank you for the lovely compliments. How did I stay motivated? I called it finding my "why" - my deep rooted reason for doing this. Every time I felt demotivated, I would revisit my goals and my "why". I posted this in my private group: When you are tired and your child asks you to cook one of their favourite dishes which would take you an hour to prepare, do you make an excuse or do you take that hour to make that favourite dish for your child? Why do you do it? Why doesn't laziness take over in that situation? It is your love for your child that makes you overcome that laziness, the joy that child expresses when he/she takes that first bite of the meal you make. You do it for the joy of your child, correct? Now tell me, don't you, the soul that resides within you, deserve the same love and effort? If not, why not? What is holding you back from loving yourself as unconditionally as you love your child?Why do you feel that you aren't special enough to be taken care of? You should have that same love for yourself that you have for your child. You are SO WORTH IT!

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| Dec 13, 2015

Well done Richa! A dear friend of mine just delivered her 3rd baby and she did Shaun T's Insanity Max 30 right until she delivered, yes burpees too and she has the calmest baby I have ever seen, sleeps 7 hours at night already! All the best for your pregnancy! I have shared my website in the earlier comments.

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| Dec 13, 2015

Thank you Smita and Catherine!

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| Dec 13, 2015

Niketa, thank you! I don't believe in dieting as it is temporary. I made lifestyle changes: no processed food, cut back on carbs, increased proteins and green vegetables and fruit. Portion managing my meals. Eating 3 portion managed meals a day and two snacks, ensuring half of my breakfast has proteins, no carbs or fruit after 6pm.

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| Dec 13, 2015

Thank you Valli. Kavitha, weight loss is 80% nutrition and only 20% exercise, you cannot out exercise unhealthy nutrition choices. I have shared my website details in the comments, please go through it and you can reach me.

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| Dec 13, 2015

Thank you Misti! Afaf, I understand the frustration you feel as I have been there. I don't believe in dieting as it is temporary. I made lifestyle changes: no processed food, cut back on carbs, increased proteins and green vegetables and fruit. Portion managing my meals. Eating 3 portion managed meals a day and two snacks, ensuring half of my breakfast has proteins, no carbs or fruit after 6pm. Exercises are plenty with both dumbbells and a resistance band, in fact, I am in the process of creating a fitness program for moms to do at home. You can do squats, lunges, bicep curls, tricep kickbacks, overhead extensions, shoulder presses etc.

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| Dec 13, 2015

Pratibha, thank you for the compliments. When I felt comfortable, I added more time and increased the days of my workouts, it was about getting into the habit first before I could challenge myself. No these are not the only exercises I did, I changed things up as I got stronger. I lost 28kgs over a long time simply because I hadn't learnt the basics - weight loss is 80% nutrition and only 20% exercise, you cannot out exercise unhealthy nutrition choices. Once I internalised that, I lost 11kgs in 8 months. I don't believe in dieting as it is temporary. I made lifestyle changes: no processed food, cut back on carbs, increased proteins and green vegetables and fruit. Portion managing my meals. Eating 3 portion managed meals a day and two snacks, ensuring half of my breakfast has proteins, no carbs or fruit after 6pm.

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| Dec 13, 2015

You are welcome Lavanya. I find it so interesting that everyone wants to know how long it took me. Fact is it took me a very long time to learn the basics, I didn't even know the basics and I didn't even try to seriously lose weight. I lost 28kgs over a long time simply because I hadn't learnt the basics - weight loss is 80% nutrition and only 20% exercise, you cannot out exercise unhealthy nutrition choices. Once I internalised that, I lost 11kgs in 8 months.

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| Dec 13, 2015

Which DVD you had

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| Dec 13, 2015

Awesome dear.. can you please share your DVD and diet... I m a new mum and dying to loose

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| Dec 13, 2015

Ipshita - I used workouts from Beachbody which is only available in US and Canada. Monika, I have shared some nutritional information in the other comments, please do take a look, for further help, you can subscribe to my website - the link to which I have provided in the bottom two comments.

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| Dec 14, 2015

Truly inspiring... I have a 7 month old daughter. I have just started my exercise and yoga now... will sure add the exercises u mentioned too... I had a c section so I took time to start my exercise.

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| Dec 14, 2015

Hi congrats dear, I am kamini I am a teacher and day by day I am gaining weight, I am worried about it , please tell me what should I do to loose my weight

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| Dec 14, 2015

Thanks Bhavna, please note that weight loss is 80% nutrition and only 20% exercise so don't focus only on exercise. Find me on FB, I can provide further help.

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| Dec 14, 2015

Hi Kamini, could you please connect with me via Facebook, I can provide further help via my private group.

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| Dec 15, 2015

I am on the same boat. Can you help me out to shred that extra weight n stiffness which I have gained during pregnancy. I can't do dieting n once tried to do exercise bt had so much body pain so not tried again.

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| Dec 15, 2015

Hi kalyani. m Mamta here can u provide ur contact details. I want to loose post pregnenolone weight.

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| Dec 15, 2015

Hi Adi and Mamta, if you go through the earlier comments I have posted on this thread, I have shared my website, I am not allowed to share it again so please go through the comments to find it and you can connect with me via my website. Thank you!

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| Dec 16, 2015

Hi Kalyani, i have stomach pouch after the delivery, i looks like i am carrying again.

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| Dec 16, 2015

Thanks for reply, what is your fb ID

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| Dec 16, 2015

nimmisahu

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| Dec 16, 2015

Nirmala and Kamini, my FB ID is the same as my name on this article: Kalyani Pardeshi, my profile picture is of me lifting a barbell

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| Dec 18, 2015

Hi Kalyani, Your article is really inspiring and motivating... I'm sure its going to help me...

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| Dec 18, 2015

How long did it take.. How many kgs were you able to lose.

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| Dec 18, 2015

Hi, kalyani it's awesome article, and definitely you will be role model for all mothers who suffer same like you. And of course u inspired me too thanks for wonderful article

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| Dec 18, 2015

dear friend can u post the videos of ur workouts

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| Dec 19, 2015

Thanks Medhavika and Trushali. Megha, I lost a total of 28kgs over 3 years but the last 11kgs came off quickly once I understood how important nutrition is in the process and paid more attention to it.

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| Dec 19, 2015

Thank you Sneha, I have chosen to work with a group of women because I want to help them and it is going really well, thank you for the kind wishes. Jeny, I can't post videos here as it is not my website, however, I post a video almost every week on my personal FB account and it is always a public post so anyone can view it.

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| Dec 19, 2015

Hi Kalyani... Thanks a lot for your article, my son is 6 mnths old.. Though i lost fatness due to exclusive breast feeding for first 6 mnths, i have a pouch like stomach.. I have started doing the yoga postures you mentioned here.. Will start follow you in fb to learn more.. I have a question.. What is Shaun T's Insanity Max 30? Is it some kind of exercise to be done during pregnancy?

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| Dec 19, 2015

Hi dear.... evn i wan to request u for d video...

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| Dec 19, 2015

Hi kalyaniji, can you please send a vedio of how to do all workouts.. or send a related links...

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| Dec 19, 2015

Hi Kalyani Plzz send me videos of workout u mentioned as early as possibles in my mail jainshilpa199@gmail. com I m waiting for ur mail

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| Dec 20, 2015

Hi... this is totally inspiring... can you please share some more information and videos if possible... My email ID is Shwetha. shashi@gmail. com

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| Dec 20, 2015

Madhuparna, Insanity Max30 isn't recommended for pregnant women, it is a very high impact exercise however, I have had a pregnant friend do it because she was already 3 years into her fitness journey. Abs are built in the kitchen not in a gym, so focus on portion managed clean eating.

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| Dec 20, 2015

Shweta, Shilpa, Roopa and Niti, it is practically impossible for me to send videos individually. I do have a website where you can subscribe, please check earlier comments for it.

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| Dec 20, 2015

Amazing dear congratulations on ur achievement. I too weighed 89 kgs after a year of delivery n then diabetes hit me the cause being my weight n then I got serious about my health more like what u felt when ur dad suffered a minor heart attack, if ur healthy u can take care of ur family too so I started with yoga n walking and I have lost 15 kgs I have to lose more my aim is weighing 55 kgs I'm 74 now. Your story inspired me. Thank you for sharing

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| Dec 20, 2015

Hi how long it took for u to reduce and after how many days u can c d difference

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| Dec 20, 2015

hi kalyani i have 6month old baby. . I tried many ways to reduce my weight but I can't pls give me any tips. . acrdg to my height my weight should b 55 but mine s 75 rite now

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| Dec 20, 2015

Hi liked your story my second son is 8 months old i was 65 after delivery now 52 i ddnt work out but gradually loss weight. But the fab around belly is still there i will try your work out its possible to get flat tummy with those exercises.. i tried some exercises before. ..but xtreme body pain so i left what shoul i d

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| Dec 20, 2015

Hi... can i kno ur website so dat i can check d videos..

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| Dec 21, 2015

Thank you Shirley, congrats on your weight loss, so proud of you! Glory, every person responds differently to clean eating and exercise. It took me 8 months to lose 11kgs. While over 2 years to lose a total of 28kgs because I didn't focus on clean eating.

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| Dec 21, 2015

Hi Nithiyaa, I share a lot of this in my private group, please check the earlier comments for my website - I do all of this for free, I am not allowed to share my website repeatedly so please do check the comments. Mohammadi and Harini, please check the earlier comments in this thread, I cannot keep sharing it. Alternatively, look me up on Facebook, my profile picture is of me lifting a barbell.

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| Dec 21, 2015

Hi Kalyani,I was able to lose only 5 kgs in 8 months I did 1/2 hour exercise and used to eat oats diet only

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| Dec 21, 2015

I was rigourous in following diet and 1/2 hour exercise,but my body was too slow to respond My visceral fat according to fat machine is 6. 5%

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| Dec 22, 2015

Its an eye opener. Your journey from fat to fit gives me the inspiration to get fit. My baby is 6months old now. I was waiting to start solids for her and then focus on my fitness. Thanks for the fitness tips

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| Dec 22, 2015

U should hve put the pictures of the exercise

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| Dec 22, 2015

Hats off to u lady!!! Reading yr post, for a moment I felt as if its me as I am currently going through the same phase after delivery. I had started with slight healthy food n 15 mins exercise thrice a week after my 5th month. It's been 14 months and I've managed to shed my pregnancy weight of 12 kgs though cant get rid completely of bulgy tummy. I would definitely try the exercises mentioned in yr post. Thanks for being such an inspiration. Thank you!

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| Dec 23, 2015

Priti, thanks for the lovely compliments and congrats on your weight loss, I know it isn't easy. Abs are built in the kitchen not in a gym, I can definitely help you with that - I have shared my website in the earlier comments, or find me on Facebook and message me, I will provide the link to you. I am currently working with a private group of over 500 women and teaching them what I have learnt, for free. I hope to see you in my group!

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| Dec 23, 2015

Deepika, I had submitted photos of the exercises to be uploaded but it was not done by the admin of the website. That said, I am working with a group of 500 women and I have shared short 15 second videos of these moves in my group. My website has been shared in earlier comments (the first one or two from me), I am not allowed to share it again so please look for it and I hope to see you in my group!

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| Dec 23, 2015

You are very welcome Radhika, weight loss is 80% nutrition and only 20% exercise so focus more on portion managed clean eating and you will see results faster than you think. You are welcome to contact me on Facebook and we can chat further.

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| Dec 23, 2015

Vidya, please contact me on Facebook - eating oats only will deprive your body of necessary nutrients and your body's metabolism will slow down so no matter how little you eat, you won't burnt it off. I hope to hear from you!

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| Dec 23, 2015

What is your facebook id

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| Dec 24, 2015

Hi I'm currently breastfeeding my 4 month old son and while I want to loose those extra pounds don't want to deprive him of milk also.. plz advise about a healthy diet for ms.. thnx

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