What Sadhguru Wants Every Parent to Understand…..

When a child throws a tantrum, talks back, or refuses to listen, the first thought most parents have is:
“What’s wrong with my child?”

But spiritual leader Sadhguru asks us to look in a different direction.
What if the real issue isn’t the child at all but the parent? Instead of trying to fix or control children, he says that parents must first look inward and work on themselves. Only then can they genuinely nurture the next generation.

Children Learn More From What You Do Than What You Say

Parents often tell children:

·       Don’t get angry

·       Be patient

·       Be kind

·       Be disciplined

But Sadhguru reminds us of a simple truth - Children copy behavior, not instructions.

If a parent is always stressed, angry, impatient, or anxious, the child quietly absorbs these emotions, even if the parent keeps giving good advice.

You may tell your child to stay calm, but if you lose your temper every day, that is the lesson your child learns.

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Children Are Not Your Project

Sadhguru reminds us of a truth - Children are not your possessions, your legacy, or your chance to fulfill unfinished dreams.

He says:

• Children come through you but they do not belong to you.
• Trying to shape them into your own image breeds resistance, rebellion, or confusion.
• Treating children like projects to be completed turns love into control.\

In Sadhguru’s view, parenting isn’t about imposing rules — it’s about creating a space where a life can unfold in its uniqueness and intelligence.

Become the Example You Wish to See

Children are like mirrors. They reflect how to speak to others and how you react when things go wrong.

According to Sadhguru, when parents work on their own emotions and habits, children naturally change without being forced, scolded, or corrected all the time.

Instead of constantly instructing children with do this and don’t do that, Sadhguru urges parents to first embody the qualities they wish to inspire.

This is the essence of what he calls “raise yourself before you raise your children.”

Friendship Before Authority

One of Sadhguru’s most striking ideas is that a child needs a friend, not a boss, walking around the house. They need a guide, someone they feel safe opening up to. \

This doesn’t mean there should be no discipline. It means discipline should come from understanding and example, not fear. When children feel respected, they listen more. When they feel controlled, they resist.

The next time your child’s behavior upsets you, don’t rush to correct them.

Because sometimes, your child isn’t the problem.
They’re just showing you where you need to grow.