Socio Economic Development In Your Children
Created by Swapna Nair Updated on Jul 27, 2018
Once the terrible twos or the terrific twos are over parents heave a sigh. Tantrums come down and toddlers enter into the early childhood stage. But do note that the changes do not happen overnight. Change happens slowly and gradually.
At the age of three children are ready for school in our country. Let us look at the socio-emotional development during the phase 3-7 years.
- Social learning happens through identification with adults around the child and especially with the primary caregivers/parents.
- Bonding increases between parents and children as they begin to understand each other better. This is because communication improves. The parent can have a proper conversation, ask questions and receive answers too. How parents wait for this phase!
- Children observe, imitate and absorb a lot during this phase. They are like sponges. This stage is hence very crucial for laying the foundation of values, habits and character.
- Children like to play in a mixed group, often tailing an older child. It is common to see them playing ‘family’ among themselves. It is interesting to note how they use certain words or phrases while playing pretend games.
- This is also a stage where children are very upright and yearn to be in your good books and that of the teacher. They like to be praised/appreciated as ‘good’ children. Your approval essential. It is the bedrock of esteem. Your patience and motivation is required to boost their confidence and self-esteem. This is also an important phase where you can express disapproval of certain behaviours so that they pick up the right ones.
- Shy and sensitive children may take time to make friends. They may have fewer but form deeper friendships. Give them the space to do so. Do not force your shy child to be an extrovert. They would blossom later. Not all can be public speakers and drama artists.
- Give exposure to various kinds of food and table manners. Proper manners and exposure to various foods makes for a least fussy child. Food plays a vital role as children grow in height and weight. Make sure you have family meals at least once a day or during the weekends. Family meals is a crucial bonding time.
- Children move towards being independent. They like to button their shirts or wear their shoes. The progress would be slow. So do not be impatient rather make it easier for them. Keep their things at easy reach. They are also particular about their privacy. Most Indian parents like to show off their child reciting a poem or singing in front of guests. Most children excepting for extroverts do not like this.
- Who does not like to make their own decisions? Making decisions is part of growing up, part of exerting their independence and identity. Your child needs freedom to choose but do not leave it entirely to him/her. Make them feel good by limiting the choices. For example bath time now or after ten minutes; this dish or that for dinner. Children are very very picky about their dressing up during this phase. Don’t get stressed if your child wants to wear the same t shirt or dress every time you have to go out. It is a temporary and a passing phase.
- The ability to cope increases during this phase. Please remember that the basic personality he/she had during the toddler phase would not change. A sensitive child would remain so but would know to cope better because he/she can now use more words. The child understands situations better too. Talk to your child a lot.
- Social skills and cooperative play begins now. But children are not to be left by themselves from 3-4 years specially. They have to be supervised and guided. This will avoid bullying. It will help you to teach sportsmanship, sharing and caring among children. All you have to do is be nearby while your child is playing. Safety of the child is also taken care of. Aside from outdoor play, pretend play, indoor games are equally important.
- Anger and aggression are common ways of expressing emotions. Here the parent requires to be calm and handle the child properly. By being equally aggressive, hitting your child will send confused signals. How can you teach your child aggression is wrong if you hit your child? Be cautious of the language you use.
- Separation anxiety is common. They like their comfort zone. Children may not enjoy a long vacation like adults. They may get cranky and say they want to go home. Similarly they exhibit pangs of anxiety when they begin school new or after a vacation.
- Nightmares, bed wetting sleep talk are also common. Do not mock them or nag them. They will outgrow these.
- Providing a safe, emotionally stable environment is very important for your child to grow up as a balanced, healthy individual.
| Aug 01, 2018
very good article... very useful too
| Jul 28, 2018
| Jul 28, 2018
precisely written about this phase of kids.. very good writeup..
| Jul 28, 2018
Thanks for such a valuable information
| Jul 28, 2018