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Stay at home or working mom?

 Sukanya Banerjee
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Stay at home or working mom

There comes a time when we give our careers a back seat or leave our job to be a stay at home mom. Some of us did it by choice and some of us perhaps did not even have one. I was in between and finally took the decision to stay at home with my son. Sometimes when I see my friends getting a fat salary, I feel I might have been there too. But again, when they say that they missed their child’s first day in school, I then feel vindicated about my choice. A mixed feeling but definitely filled with happiness to the core.


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Shital Prakash Pol

| Dec 28, 2016

very good now I can say proudly that am also taking care of my kids thank u very much ...

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 Sukanya Banerjee

| Dec 09, 2016

Way to go Neelam

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Neelam Singh

| Dec 07, 2016

however busy i am at home and watever people say about staying at home and not earning doesnt bother me cos i am satisfied that i am spending my valuable time with my kids... whole day they r in front of my eyes watching them whole day and taking care of them and off course.... after having joint parentuning it has just boosted my skills to grow and mingle up with children thanks to prentuning and thks to all members here.....

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Arc

| Dec 01, 2016

too good.. i am floating in the same boat.

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 Sukanya Banerjee

| Dec 01, 2016

I got a lot of comments where working moms say that they are doing the same thing. WE appreciate you too. your job is probably more difficult. But then neither is ours. So lets just appreciate each other and stay happy moms. Cheers friends. :)

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Nishita Verma

| Nov 09, 2016

agreed wid u.... tht memories tht v gt r beyond ny thing in dis world.... I also left my career to be wid my kids.... n honestly whn my son came n hug me after his school or ehn my daughter luks for me..... n the smile on her face as soon as she saw me r lke biggest rewards I can ever get

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 Sukanya Banerjee

| Nov 07, 2016

I am sure your time is well spent, Susan. And the kids will have awesome memories.

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Susan Tenny

| Oct 27, 2016

Dear Sukanya i was a software engineer and left my job when my son was born to be wirh him full time. Again started working as teacher when my son was 2 yrs old. Left that job when my twins were born 4 yrs bfr. Nw at home with my kids. What i treasure most is point 4 and 5 you hv written.. am happy that i can be with my kids when they r ill. and i love to see the smile in their eyes when they come bk from school and see me waiting for them in the veranda

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sudipta Mishra

| Oct 22, 2016

Really.... these r v... precious.. n golden... lines i hav ever heard... i m also feel ing... proud.. of being a house wife.

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Veenu

| Oct 22, 2016

Precisely these are d v moments I did not want to miss.. .I am loving rather living each moment..

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 Sukanya Banerjee

| Oct 17, 2016

Thanks Neha and thank you everyone else for going through this blog. I feel that I have more strength to fight the world when I have so many similar friends on my side. Keep going moms. :)

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Neha Gupta Mittal

| Oct 12, 2016

Great blog... being a writer-blogger myself i can so relate to the authenticity of your thoughts and the urge in you to share the same with others... for the sake of empowerment and peace....

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Isha Dixit

| Oct 11, 2016

This is very true as I myself has opted to be my son's side in each of his milestone achieved as..... I as mother has brought him in this world so he is my prime responsibility . of course money matters first .....because two earning members in comparison to one is always better ....it gives u certain liberties , some extravagance ......but on child's account..... I have many memories of small activities of my son which my husband has missed ......he is jealous of course..... It gives me mental satisfaction that I am always with him in his every situation , every pain, every happiness , every tear ... every bite of food .... every nap time...... I feel my self blessed . thank you god. .

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Varsha Pandey

| Oct 07, 2016

You are absolutely right. Being a stay at home mom I have seen both my kids growing slowly and that's the most rewarding feeling. I just love when my daughter says that she have learnt a certain creative thing from me(my husband is sometimes jealous of that). As you said education is never a waste. im using my education and skills in bringing my kids up giving them values .and I take pride being a stay at home mom.

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Vidhi Parekh

| Oct 06, 2016

I was and I am happy with my decision of stay at home mom. But reading this, I can tell with pride that I am a stay at home mom

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Soma Sarkar

| Oct 05, 2016

Thanks for your blog i do the same but i miss my job and think when my son will be grown up then what i will do so i was going to take a decision for a job but your blog changed my opinion.

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nitasha mehta

| Oct 05, 2016

same I'm going through inspirational blog thanks

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Richa Shilankar

| Oct 05, 2016

Very well written n expressed... Loved reading your blog.. I am too a stay at home mom n feel exactly as u do..

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Sridevi Kaligotla

| Oct 05, 2016

Thats a wonderful writeup. Infact I am enjoying all the moments of my child. Exactly like u said I too joined swiming classes to enjoy with him. I am glad many are there who thinkin sane lines. I may join in some job in future when my son grows big. I dont have any regrets being at home.

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Shweta V Rathi

| Oct 05, 2016

That's really a good read.... eco my feelings. It's just that I wonder what happens when they grow up and have a life of their own... would be difficult to keep us occupied then or start afresh... That's something I really ponder on a lot !!

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srikavi angamuthu

| Oct 05, 2016

Thanks for Ur Blog its very inspiration to me. I always says to my hubby I am wasting my life without job .but ur topic changes my idea

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Srijani Chakraborty

| Oct 05, 2016

Hi, Loved to read your blog. Its very inspirational. Actually its true that I had to explain so many times to so many people the reason of my not working. It was my own decision and I love to spend my time with my child. She loves me and the best part is when she shares every detail of her tiny life with me. I love to chat with her regarding so many issues of her little world. My husband has been a constant support to me and whenever I felt depressed as I had a very good academic background he encouraged me in a similar fashion as you have written about your grandma. Its very very true and I am very much proud that I am not selling my education to some big company but trying my best to help my little one grow up. All the best and keep writing. Sometimes we need some motivations.

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Megha

| Oct 04, 2016

hello , ur blog is really motivating. thanks. I love spending time with my daughter .... luv to play with her . Really enjoying each second with her. And feels refresh every time when she sees me and smile...

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Afra Aleem

| Oct 02, 2016

Hello im a doc bit not working for kids i share same thoughts as u im fedup of ppl who ask me where r u working n rhen why r u not working ppl hav made it must that docs should work y dont ppl ask this q to engineers or degree canfidates i want to tell focs fo lov their kids n prefer their kids to job

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 Sukanya Banerjee

| Sep 20, 2016

Thank you all for appreciating this. It feels good to know that there are tons with me in the same boat. Stay happy moms. Because that way your child will be happy. And I think it is all for them and us.

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krati sinha

| Sep 13, 2016

thanks for the blog. such blogs are inspiration and motivation for us so that we can believe in our decisions. to know that there are others also with same view point .... makes me feel great. i just love to be with my son he is my whole world and i don't need to give a dam explanation to anyone for spending my time with him.

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Tejal Singh

| Sep 04, 2016

Hi, nicely written. Just a thought to share, every mother like to spend "precious moments" and every mom has way to make them and baby grow in their way.

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Aparna Taigor

| Sep 01, 2016

Very well written blog Sukanya. I was in IT since 6 years and an IITian. I left the job since 8 years after my first baby. Now I am mom of two kids. Education is never waste. I use my education for handling my house, my kids studies, helping my spouse to grow. I enjoy every bit of each day with my kid. Problem with we so called educated working Indian ladies is we try to relate our education with the money we earn n there we make our lives complex. Time comes when kids become independent that time definitely one can do for themselves.

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Kavitha Jadav

| Aug 30, 2016

New Mommy Arpana I would tell that lady, it's none of her business. but on the other note, these people are there to pull down always. don't let your instincts and spirit come down because of such people. speak with them diplomatically and do what your heart says and enjoy

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Aparna Bhat

| Aug 30, 2016

well written sukanya. I was a working woman And then decided to Stay at home recently to let my hubby n Lo settle in a new place, job and school. had a visitor last night for dinner who said "so you must be watching all the soaps now. start looking out for a job ASAP so that u can get busy. why did you hire a maid already? u r at home na, u can do the chores and then hire when u r about to work. " I didn't know what to say!!

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Madhura Hanchate

| Aug 30, 2016

Very well said Sukanya I was been working since SY of my college after marriage and then till 8 months of pregnancy I have a 3 months of baby I also capture all her growing developments I have also chosen a 2 years break and my husband also Supported my decision Being a full time mom is a loving and satisfactory job

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Vijayalakshmi Kannan

| Aug 29, 2016

Nice article Sukanya. I started working after my college days with no break. After my child, when I left my daughter to my mother in law and went to job, I was totally emotional and crying. Time went, I could not spend quality time with my child. I was running all day. One year back I quitted my job and came to US with my husband and daughter. For the past 1 year I was with her. I was very happy that I could understand my daughter, her talks, growing in front of me. Though there were some battles, still it was good. I can never get this time again. Now I am force to go for work, leaving my child in daycare for first time with heavy hearted.

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Anjali Juyal

| Aug 29, 2016

hi sukanya. very good article and well described. i am a full time mom. n I feel the same way as u do. people make you feel that way so I ignore them. be yourself be happy and do whatever you want to do with your life. i am a teacher initially I joined a school for 2yrs and after that i got pregnant and I decided to leave job n raise my kid. i know job is important but for atleast two years we should concentrate on our kids.

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Richa Singh

| Aug 29, 2016

Thanks for writing such a beautiful article. I am a mother of 16 month old baby, a dentist by profession and a house wife by choice. I also felt the same way many times as u have explained in the article but each and every moment of my motherhood let me overcome this anxiety. So hats off to all the stay at home mother.

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Hiral Dashputre

| Aug 29, 2016

I loved this article. It was great to read all my thoughts and feelings nicely expressed by a fellow stay-at-home mom.. I too have faced those "what you do whole day" questions.. I appreciate your stand and totally agree with everything you said here...

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Kavitha Jadav

| Aug 28, 2016

thanks sukanya. good to know there some people who understand and respect our God created profession. but I am happy though. my husband respects and helps me emotionally, that's all what matters me. with outsiders it was just a momentary feeling. I am happy to share my thoughts with the similar ladies. thanks parentune

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yamini joshi

| Aug 28, 2016

had a wonderful experience reading ur sukanya u r the voice of every home maker n me too

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 Sukanya Banerjee

| Aug 28, 2016

Thanks Fathima. We are all good.

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 Sukanya Banerjee

| Aug 28, 2016

Thank you all for your support. And Kavitha Yadav, do not feel bad that a conversation ended that way. There was a time when I was being introduced to a friend's wife, and she said "Seriously, you are a housewife?" And I was expecting what do you do all day? But instead she said, "How do you do that? Hats off". So I guess only those who have stayed at home will understand. So do not feel bad. Start blogging. It is a good way to express your feelings :)

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Arpana B Singh

| Aug 28, 2016

very motivating article. I am also a stay at home mom. I am living my child's childhood with him. but it really feels depressing when such questions come my way and no credit is given for what v do. but being there with my child when he wakes up and whenever he needs me, being a witness to all his first times and being able to tell him stories about his infant years n see those beautiful expressions on his face makes me forget everything.

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Fathima Azhar

| Aug 28, 2016

Wonderfully explained it di!!! Even I don't feel guilty of not opting a job, I'm always happy looking at my kidsn watching them grow and learn every new thing . And very much happier about me being a part of their happy moments, I love those moments totally. How would it b like someone telling u about ur kids first step, first jump, first Tantrum and u just listening to them and feeling I wish I was there at that time. I feel I'm proud to b a stay at home mom of 2 most adorable kids. I love my life Alhumdulillah. Keep posting di. Howz my hero. He must have been grown up hansum and intelligent. Good going do. All d very best with ur blog and postings, waiting for more of it.

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Irfana Haris AC

| Aug 28, 2016

really motivational.. me too a homeworking mom.

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Kavitha

| Aug 27, 2016

enjoyed reading your write up. facing same situation.. completed MCA with good results. faced recision. god job very hard. married. in-laws expected me to become mom very early. after my daughter was born ,left with no other option except to take care of her. nobody gave me any support. but I faced dis respect for not earning. people ask me what you do at home all day. but I am not having enough sleep even. I don't have maids. I think of doing all works myself clean and neat. as well exercise to body even. still people think am resting. happy that I give lot of time to my daughter. thanks for giving me a chance to open up.

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Jani Khyati

| Aug 26, 2016

yupp very glad to go through your understanding regarding stay at home mommy. Yes I am really happy to share with you that I really enjoy the precious and special time I share with my cutest kiddo, and always feel extremely fortunate to be with him in every stages of his formative years of development from his initial phases of learning alphabets, understanding different languages, cultures to his very minute intrinsic aptitude towards the worldly affairs. to mention here although sometime getting puff off with his throwing tantrums and again rejuvenated with his awesome smile and wonderful hug. End of the day it's only him without whom every enjoyment or entertainment comes to nought. I really hearty love to be a very special part of my soul's eye that's my champ's journey through playful childhood who gave me the awesome privilege to enter into the lovely world of motherhood! !

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Kavitha Jadav

| Aug 26, 2016

very well said. everyone is right in their comments. but have you all noticed the kind of respect you were getting while you were a working women compared to now when you are not. for instance, my relative asked me what do you now kavitha, where are you working. I said I am at home to do things. after that she just said oh! that's it, our conversation ended and she started talking with my sister who is a working mom. can you just imagine how hurting it is. and not to forget the lady who asked me was herself a homemaker. I don't have anything against being a homemaker or a full time mom. what I mean to say is, even society is changing and they want women's to run around everywhere. if she wants to work, then she has to maintain both. isn't it ridiculous. men can choose being working and enjoy the maintained home, but women can't do so!!!!

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ammu bavee

| Aug 26, 2016

good writeup....

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Manisha Arora

| Aug 26, 2016

I am having the same experience..... thanks a lot for motivating me..... now I came out of the same guilt

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Kinjal Prajapati

| Aug 26, 2016

I m Also happy with my two kids and as a stay at home mother. enjoying little little things .......

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Liju Ajai

| Aug 26, 2016

I too experiencing the same..... As you said knowledge is always a gain in once life. Sitting in home is not a waste and we can take full care of or child mentally,physically n emotionally. Even we can give a good care for his daily diet.

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Deboshree Maity

| Aug 26, 2016

i am also enjoying myself with my daughter.... each and every moment i am with her.... i did not miss anything which she did till now..... i am happy too

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