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Stay calm: Yelling does not help!

Deepti Thakur
3 to 7 years

Created by Deepti Thakur
Updated on Jun 30, 2017

Stay calm Yelling does not help

My first blog post on yelling received a lot of comments where many moms disagreed with me that it is not possible to stop yelling. So here I am, with my suggestions that I have applied on myself and with my little daughter, and now it is quite rare that I yell on my daughter.

1. Take care of your health: I know it's easy to say but difficult to take care of self, when you have a child to look after. But yes, there's a way. I always pour milk in my glass too when I am pouring it for my daughter. I cut one fruit for myself when I do it for her. I put 2 bananas when we leave for her skating classes. I take her to park early morning with me where we get fresh air and she feels refreshed in the morning. So, I don't have to take out extra time for myself, which is anyway difficult. We can get innovative to combine our healthy food along with theirs. I believe that when I am happy and healthy, I am aware of my actions and I can keep a better check on my yelling.

2. Limiting screen time: When your child is in bed, it's time for you to see whatsapp, facebook, TV etc. We are exhausted in our role as a mom for the whole day, that we really enjoy this free time. My personal experience is that more screen time at night leaves me all the more tired, and I get up exhausted next morning too. Also, I have stopped seeing my mobile first thing in the morning. Green tea and 10 minutes breathing yoga works wonders, if you can try.

3. Limiting the negative activities: I remember a chat with a lady once, who complained about her children, about school, about her household chores, water problem and so on. That day when I came home, I felt vulnerable. "Oh My God!! I have so many problems in my life. My daughter doesn't listen to me, I have to work so much, I get so tired and never get 7 hours of sleep" That's what my mind was saying. So I made a decision to avoid talking to her. Negative activities drain out our energy that we should use for self care,children, and important daily chores.

4. Mutual check: Both my daughter and me keep a check on each other's yelling. Whenever I yell, my daughter response is "I'll listen only if you'll speak softly with me." Whenever she yells or hits someone, I say "Remember we have a promise to talk politely and no hitting, no matter what happens." These mutual checks serve as continuous reminders that work as an excellent tool to keep check on both of us.

5. Stop pleasing everyone: It took me 2 years to understand that no matter how much I do, I am never going to be good enough. So, I chose to get out of that struggle. Now I want to live for myself, and my child. That's it. Pleasing everyone is never going to give us happiness, and it leaves us too tired and exhausted to be present for our child.

6. Pause: Even after keeping checks, we might feel the urge to scream. Those moments require a pause. I say to myself in these situations "There is no emergency". In the beginning, nothing happened when I said this to myself. But gradually, I felt its power. I started seeing the whole situation from much calmer eyes. "Yes there is no emergency" my mind replied. We all can choose a statement that calms us down. Find one for yourself.... All of us are humans, and mistakes happen. That's okay. I have changed so much in my journey of positive parenting, still I yell some times.

Then, I sit quietly and find the reason. Tiredness/hunger/someone else's frustration/negative activities/excess screen time - are the answers. I say sorry to my daughter, and then I move on with a commitment to try again, no matter how many times I make mistakes.

Disclaimer: I am not a parenting expert. I am a stay at home mom. My daughter has brought me to this journey of positive parenting. I love to read books on positive parenting. Whatever methods I share through my blogs are the ones that I have applied with my daughter and seen positive changes in our relationship. I hope these methods give you a stronger mom-kid relationship. All the best to all the lovely moms!!

Did you like these suggestions by Deepti Thakur? Please post your views and feedback in the comments section below we would love to hear from you...In the meantime and always Happy Parenting...

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| Jan 23, 2018

it's v difficult to do it... m still tryg but no use

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| Dec 06, 2017

good. thanks for sharing your experiences

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| Nov 27, 2017

Thank you for sharing

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| Nov 27, 2017

Absolutely right

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| Nov 27, 2017

very nice

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| Nov 27, 2017

Wow, wonderful. Keep on sharing

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| Nov 17, 2017

Nice article... will try to follow

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| Nov 17, 2017

thanks dear will surely try & implement on ur suggestions...

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| Nov 14, 2017

Wow.. it looks tough but i gonna seriously try this Thanku so much ...

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| Nov 14, 2017

Thank u so much mam, this blog is very useful to me ......

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| Nov 14, 2017

Very nice article tysm for sharing!! Me too often yell to my son and than i feel i am doing wrong.

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| Nov 14, 2017

Very nice and helpful article. Thank you very much.

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| Nov 07, 2017

THANKS for the nice article. my son (6 yrs) s hyper active but he s very gud in studies. there s no complaints about him at school.. but he s very naughty in the house. sometimes he hurts himself by jumping from the hights. he doesn't understand the consequences.. he always try to do adventurous things. I shout at him every now and then bcos he won't listen to me at all. I sometimes feel that am caring him too much.. I feel very bad for shouting at him after he goes to school. I know it's me who have to be calm first and try to make him calm. but the moment I get angry nothing comes to my mind except shouting. I will try this "statement method" for sure. I think yoga will also help me... any advice is appreciated..

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| Nov 07, 2017

That is a very positive article though a little difficult to implement but surely not impossible. I guess self realization is the solution for the innumerable problems that we have. It is always good to keep learning new things in life and I guess everyone will agree with me that motherhood comes with alot of happiness but definitely problems also. It is our outlook that makes all the difference.

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| Nov 06, 2017

thanks for your suggestions... your 5th point is so true... thnq

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| Nov 06, 2017

You have hit the nail

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| Nov 06, 2017

wow resonates with me completely unlike parenting experts terms.... wow

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| Nov 06, 2017

Thank you deepti for such a useful post,

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| Nov 06, 2017

Waw... Really nice Depti I will all so try

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| Nov 06, 2017

Waw... Really nice Depti I will all so try

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| Nov 06, 2017

A. Super cute way to takle life:-))thnx

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| Nov 06, 2017

I absolutely loved your post. im completely against hitting a child but then can't resist to yell at times. you have perfectly analysed the reasons why we feel like behaving that way. Off late I am counseling myself in this way that I am my daughter's primary caregiver and her support system for life. it is my responsibility to handheld and guide her till a certain age but then she is an individual too and will have a mind of her own. she may be wrong at times,may stumble but then she will rise and learn from her mistakes. And at the end of the day ,it is the only dream of a mother to raise an independent and confident child ready to take on the outside world on her own.

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| Nov 05, 2017

Hi deepti, thanks you so much for your suggestion, even I yell on my kid most of the time but after that when I rethink what happened I feel sorry even though I say myself not to yell most of the time I do the same mistake, I will follow your advice and try it

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| Nov 03, 2017

l shall try this as you say in my style

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| Oct 26, 2017

এই ডাঃ

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| Oct 26, 2017

.Vipul ;

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| Oct 26, 2017

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| Oct 26, 2017

Very well written in talkative language. I found lots of scope to improve myself as a parent! Thanks

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| Oct 25, 2017

This works for sure.. I also tried this... yes we scream on our kids but these small tips have big impact on us and help us in making our relation better with our kids..

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| Oct 25, 2017

Thanks for the write up. It's the one for me at the right time as I kind of lost my voice due to continuous screaming and I still not stopped yelling. In fact after a very bad yelling today morning and with very upset mood I started reading this. I Will practice and once again thanks so much.

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| Oct 25, 2017

This one is nice blog I will apply in my relationship with my daughter

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| Oct 24, 2017

very true information as I face the same trouble

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| Oct 24, 2017

Now my kids also have started yelling and shouting normally specially my elder one and younger one he just doesn't get tired... he is charged up all times... but gets wild physical and it's difficult to control him Can u help me on how to manage it

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| Oct 24, 2017

Now my kids also have started yelling and shouting normally specially my elder one and younger one he just doesn't get tired... he is charged up all times... but gets wild physical and it's difficult to control him Can u help me on how to manage it

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| Oct 23, 2017

I too scream at my 3 years old son almost daily..... After that I take an oath not to scream or beat him... but again I break my promise and repeat the same... I feel very bad. ..now I asked him to say ''don't get mad amma please stop it'' , whenever I'm angry. . It works sometimes... But ur blog is worth reading and good suggestions are given... I would try yoga

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| Oct 23, 2017

I'll try it..

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| Oct 23, 2017

I'll try it..

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| Oct 23, 2017

Very nice article. Thanks for sharing. But I have a query. How you managing, when the kids not listening?? For example, my son is lazy, after completion of his homework, he leaves the books on the table and goes. When I shout he take his books and keeps it in the bag.

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| Oct 23, 2017

i will try my level best to stop yelling at my son...

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| Oct 23, 2017

great blog inspiring thought we should implement it my son is big naughty he does not listen to me at all post like this help a lot

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| Oct 23, 2017

great blog inspiring thought we should implement it my son is big naughty he does not listen to me at all post like this help a lot

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| Oct 23, 2017

Thank u so much still expecting more ideas

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| Oct 23, 2017

Its really a great message... i ll also try to implement this method in my home with my son... I really felt very bad when i often shout at my son... he is such a naughty boy... at times i used to yell and sometimes even beat him... after that i always felt ashamed about myself for behaving in such a rude way... keep posting like this... its really goin to help us...

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| Oct 23, 2017

Something really positive to start the day with ... Hi -time I needed some lessons

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| Oct 23, 2017

It's really a great article. Thank you so much.

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| Oct 22, 2017

Inspiring thoughts and looks realistic.

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| Oct 22, 2017

Inspiring thoughts and looks realistic.

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| Oct 22, 2017

Its very nice blog. Gave me a positive energy. Thank you so much for sharing.. ☺

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| Oct 16, 2017

Best site for parents

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| Aug 21, 2017

Nice blog. I love to read this kind of blogs and apply it on my son.

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| Aug 21, 2017

I surely practice from now, wanted a solution for this from long time

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| Aug 21, 2017

very nice blog... your experience will definitely help us...

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| Aug 21, 2017

nice blog and very practical to apply

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| Aug 21, 2017

Hi very nice blog

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| Aug 21, 2017

really v helpful m meaningful blog... keep updating...

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| Aug 21, 2017

hi, ur blog is one of the best i have ever read... its very impressive n helpful.. great job

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| Aug 21, 2017

hi very nice blog. ur suggestions are good but in practice it's becoming difficult .

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| Aug 21, 2017

hey thanks for your suggestions ..... will definitely try

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| Aug 21, 2017

nice blog! I totally agree with that .

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| Aug 21, 2017

very useful n positive thoughts. And very true....

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| Aug 21, 2017

v true! I totally agree. it is possible not to yell with kids but we have to work on ourselves in this process. that's what is the most difficult task but worth doing it for our kids.

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| Aug 21, 2017

true said Dipti. thanks for sharing this blog. main reason for me to yell on my daughter is my stress and health. I want to finish my task and take some rest but my daughter she do according her mood. I try hard not yell on her as it not going to help me anyway but sometime loose my temper.

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| Aug 21, 2017

Very true

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| Aug 21, 2017

each and every suggestion is so true. I have tried some of them and the results were positive. will work upon others as well.

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| Aug 21, 2017

I do agree to your words and actions .Earlier I also used to yell on my son (6 years old) but I have seen when I say him anything softly he is a good listener. Taking care of our health and good sleep may be less time is essential for us as mothers. Actually I felt that whenever I was under stress I shouted on him and the reaction was same from his side. Meditation is of great use to keep us calm. My son's performance in school and his behaviour has changed a lot since I have taken care of my actions.

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| Aug 21, 2017

awesome solutions. thy are working for me. thanx for ur blog dear.

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| Aug 21, 2017

very very useful tips

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| Aug 21, 2017

Very very useful

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| Aug 21, 2017

thanks a lot mam... i'll surely apply in my daily routine

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| Aug 21, 2017

thanks a lot .these are very useful tips. we ultimately land up in doing those things which we hate to see in our children. we need to change ourselves first before telling our kids to follow us.

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| Aug 21, 2017

Hi, I m quite aggressive mom... although I love my 2 daughters more than anyone... I get fustrated managing them... but I think your experience may be of great help to me..

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| Aug 21, 2017

very true said...... If we are healthy everything wl go smoothly.. first we have to take care of ourself... I liked your information wl definitely implement it...

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| Aug 21, 2017

Perfect...

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| Aug 21, 2017

nice blog... hope after reading this I look forward towards my positive parenting..

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| Aug 14, 2017

It's a perfect article for me

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| Aug 01, 2017

The way you wrote it didnt sound just preaching and dogmatic ... everyone with his her locus of control can do a better job. ..

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| Aug 01, 2017

very nice.. really helpful...

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| Aug 01, 2017

thanks... keep your good work going...

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| Jul 31, 2017

Plz suggest few books abt positive parenting.

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| Jul 30, 2017

It's really help me... i Will definitely try these ...

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| Jul 29, 2017

very practical suggestion... I'm mom of two kids n I use to lose my patience frequently.... ur positive parenting approach is very helpful...

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| Jul 29, 2017

Certainly helpful... keep sharing such blogs..

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| Jul 29, 2017

Thanks Deepti. Certainly Helpful

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| Jul 28, 2017

it was wonderful reading ths pints will surely apply thm n try

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| Jul 28, 2017

Very useful and practical suggestions for avoiding yelling... Though I have already tried some of them but still... Sometimes I lost my patience and yell on my son. But let's hope for the best. Thanks for your guidance.

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| Jul 28, 2017

Very useful information. I exactly needed this information. my baby is only one year n 3 month old bt as we live in join family n due to some frustrations I literally yell very loudly on my baby. And that became an other reason of my disappointment. though I decide to control my anger I do fail every time not to yelling on my so little baby. bt now I have solution by your information. Thank u.

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| Jul 27, 2017

Very thoughtful.. But the yelling happens when we are running out of time... Whether it's the school bus.. Or some classes or parties.. znd they are at the same coolest pace... What can one do in such situations..

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| Jul 27, 2017

Very thoughtful.. But the yelling happens when we are running out of time... Whether it's the school bus.. Or some classes or parties.. znd they are at the same coolest pace... What can one do in such situations..

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| Jul 27, 2017

Hii I'm so happy reading your blog I'm a homeopath and was able to help many parents but recently I started facing the same problem and understood it's not right and sat with my daughter and discuss the same and made a deal I'm happy your article has given me a broader view and will follow and help other parents too

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| Jul 26, 2017

Hi dear.. I like ur blog and it's very helpful thnkew.. Plz share sum more..

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| Jul 26, 2017

definitely worth Reading... i tried some of your points... will work on the rest of them. Thanks for sharing such helpful tips

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| Jul 25, 2017

hi deepti.... main hurrat saify jabalpur se hu mere do bache hain hain ek badi daughter hain or dusra boy hain maine akpa blog pada bhut acha laga asa laga jese mere prblem apne apno zabani likdi ho , apke suggestion main zaru try karugi , but still agar baccja bhut ziddi ho toh tab kese handle kare ...or sab se ziyada handdle karna or mushikil hojata hain jab joint family ho... plz reply

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| Jul 25, 2017

thanx deepti ...but when yrchild screems at u... u can't stay calm... when he/she misbehave every time u say anything to them... how can u be cool

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| Jul 24, 2017

We all know positive method but it becomes difficult to apply even if we want why so...

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| Jul 24, 2017

thanks for the valuable tips.... and yes this article is very true, and all your points are so true. very much agree and following so.

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| Jul 22, 2017

Nice pointers. Thanks for the tips.

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| Jul 22, 2017

A very good feed back

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| Jul 19, 2017

Hi I am a working woman work from home I have 5 year old daughter usually my daughter is alone since most of the time I will be engaged in house hold work and office work and my husband usually leaves early in the morning comes only at night, or when he is in the night night shift most of the times he will be busy sleeping in the morning. Since my daughter is alone she feels bored, and no children are there surrounding our house, she will be engaged in watching cartoon, being repeatedly instructing her not to watch so much cartoon continuosly she will never listen and this makes me shout at her many times please provide me some tips to engage my daughter and to avoid spending hours together in front of TV and computer

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| Jul 17, 2017

I agree

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| Jul 17, 2017

Hello , I m a mother to a 8 yr old active boy can u suggest some parenting books as you just mentioned in yr blog above ...thanku

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| Jul 16, 2017

hi there I HV joined just now n I am happy that I could be the part of it.... as of yelling is concerned.. n kids not listen to you means ..at this point of time kid has lost the respect for u n for ur words.. *. try n speak in soft but firm tone .. *even after ur repeated instructions about completing HW...... leave the child ..let him face the consequences in class..... *our problem is that we try to over protect... which ends in this dis respect...

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| Jul 16, 2017

Pause. Think. Go. Times when our kids do not listen to us first Pause and then Think. What is the reason for our anger? Is it really the child or something else? What is the matter in which child is not listening? Should we allow the kid to face the consequences? This generation learns from experiences and we need to let that happen. Parenting is an art and Parental Coaching is a great tool to make parenting a most enjoyable and satisfying experience.

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| Jul 16, 2017

I agree with u because these methods works.... and even I use these with my kids

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| Jul 16, 2017

Good one... Nice thought...

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| Jul 16, 2017

My 5years son can't listen to me. he is not doing his homework as well as extra study. After school he is watching only and only cartoon otherwise go outside for playing with friends. Never listen to me. i am really fed-up with all these things what should I do for my son

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| Jul 16, 2017

Very good I will definitely try all these suggestions

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| Jul 15, 2017

Good one I Will apply this with my son. Thnx

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| Jul 15, 2017

Good one.

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| Jul 15, 2017

superb I will follow this

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| Jul 15, 2017

i am a working mother and gets tired by the end of the day. when my son doesnt listen i try and avoid beating him , even at times i dont yell but still it happens that i shout at him. now i will try and keep more calm. thanks.

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| Jul 14, 2017

you have covered all the points which we generally come across.. I completely agree to your points and would surely like to follow.. Thanks for the advice

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| Jul 14, 2017

Good advice.. I scream many times to avoid beating him.. This time will follow these not to scream as well.

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| Jul 13, 2017

I followed all these with my elder son and we were going smoothly unless my younger one was born with mental and physical disabilities and myself having tons of health issues from the beginning of my labour. I still try to be calm as much as possible but often lose my temper. fortunately my elder son, who is only 5, understands my present condition and I feel these happened only due to me being calm with my son in his early stage. now when I yell, mostly out of frustration, he says' it's OK mom, I can understand. ' and never let's anyone else to point on me for this including his dear father.

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| Jul 13, 2017

good advice we can try thanks

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| Jul 13, 2017

Hi dear, I agree with all your points and behavioral pattern you have mentioned. Wat I believe every parent is different, every child is different.. with sharing each other experiences.. we mom's can make the life easy for ourselves and for our kids too. Thanks

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| Jul 13, 2017

Good advice will surely try...

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| Jul 13, 2017

nice but my son is 3yr old never listen to me

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| Jul 12, 2017

Thanks Ma'am,i shall try out your trips.

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| Jul 12, 2017

Nice and useful article

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| Jul 12, 2017

yà it's very useful thanks alot you have solved my problem

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| Jul 12, 2017

Thanks mam , for providing a solution to my biggest problem. I will definitely give it a try.

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| Jul 12, 2017

My daughter do the same... it will help me a lot. thanku so much

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| Jul 11, 2017

very nicely written article... infact it depends on the age of the child. My son used to be very aggressive child 2 yrs back.... he will. soon turn 4. He used to bite anywhere anyone anytime... almost everyday i had complaints from school.... so. much that they made him sit seperately... Then my doc gave me few tips... Never shout or punish a child, how ever angry you are... just dont speak or move away somethung ti divert ourselves. we have to do our own anger management only then we can mend our children. Give small little gifts when they do good and take back the gift if they repeat the bad thing again... instead of shouting at kid... explain the consequences of their bad as well as good behaviour. These are few imp tips.... not very difficult to follow but these really helped me and now my son is more matured and his understanding of things is much more than his peers and his communication is excellent.

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| Jul 11, 2017

very well written n easily understandable n more so can be atleast tried

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| Jul 11, 2017

Well compiled... and realistic enough to give a try. Thanx...

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| Jul 11, 2017

yes madadm, the main point is stop pleasing other ..I also realised this few weeks back so m only there for my 2 kids... sometimes I do pending kitchen work later and start palying ball ball activity at home,.. so kids get happiness n me too

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| Jul 11, 2017

nicely written i'll try this on my son but he ignores me n starts playing what to do

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| Jul 11, 2017

Nicely written and thanks for those helpful tips. G. Patil one thing I can say please check the sleeping time of your kid. same thing happened to me I just increased his sleep time, and that worked like magic. Try it once.

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| Jul 10, 2017

Great points. Thanks for this article. Its the need of this our in my case

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| Jul 10, 2017

Nicely written. But I am sorry to say that I have applied this no yelling technique many times but haven't worked for me. Most of the yelling is in morning while waking up and getting ready to school. I can't say it's not an emergency bcoz it is indeed. Me and my husband are tired of this routine. Also my experience says that it's easy to control daughters than some. Any suggestions you would like to make?

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| Jul 10, 2017

very practical loved d write up... will do that

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| Jul 10, 2017

nice blog... usually I face these situations...

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| Jul 10, 2017

Good read and simple solutions. Bingo!

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| Jul 10, 2017

very article . was worth reading

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| Jul 10, 2017

Very nice one Deepti !

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| Jul 09, 2017

yes I do this very often... after which I feel terrible.. though i feel sorry n say so.. sometimes I feel the damage has already been done... what kind of example am I setting

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| Jul 09, 2017

Really practical and I can relate this very well to me. Thank you for sharing your views. Useful one.

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| Jul 09, 2017

Thank you for sharing a nice blog.

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| Jul 09, 2017

ya it's tough to do but it's very very good Thankyou for share

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| Jul 09, 2017

this is really nice and I felt you have actually put in the pints that we go thru and these tips are really helpful

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| Jul 08, 2017

Thank u so much Dipti

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| Jul 08, 2017

hi Deepti.... it's really very nice information... this happens with me when my kids don't listen to me. will try my best to implement it!!!!

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| Jul 08, 2017

Hii deepti. It's really useful information you have shared with us. That's true that not all the points work for everyone but they are important For happy parenting.

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| Jul 08, 2017

the way you have written express the feeling of each mom.... i would like to adopt some of your views in my daily routine.... Thank u so much for sharing

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| Jul 08, 2017

I don't liked it.. I loved your suggestions mam.. every bit of ur sentence was like.. it had written only for me.. thanx a lott mam.. I'll also try harder to b positive. . thanx a lott mam thanx a lott..

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| Jul 08, 2017

Very nice suggestion.. i will try to implement it.. thank u...

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| Jul 08, 2017

great idea to deal with kids . but my only problem is that when i asked them to do any work they just ignore listening .what to do in this case

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| Jul 08, 2017

Really nice article & very practical too . It shows real problem & real solutions. Very inspiring.

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| Jul 07, 2017

Very well deception than for suggesting I ll implement it

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| Jul 07, 2017

I like her positive thought process and yes I can definitely try these points because they are try to the core.....

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| Jul 07, 2017

I agree frm Ur words mam..... But my husband doesn't understand this...... wat to do wen my husband shouts to my daughter......

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| Jul 07, 2017

very nice... im also short tempered... shout on my son.. but gradually in realising that I'm wrong... now I will change myself...

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| Jul 07, 2017

Thanks Deepti this is amazing post

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| Jul 07, 2017

Thanks Deepti for this wonderful post!!your tips of Mutual check and pause statements are interesting. Will definitely try to apply on me, to stop yelling on my lovely twin daughters... who are just 18 months. Knowing the fact that they are very small to even understand what we say, most of the times I end up shouting to keep them calm.

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| Jul 07, 2017

really helpful... i myself hv realised my mistake

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| Jul 07, 2017

Really helpful suggestions... thnx Deepti..

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| Jul 07, 2017

very informative thank u deepti for such a good article

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| Jul 07, 2017

Hi Deepti... Loved ur article.

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| Jul 07, 2017

So cool yaar, really helpful tips. I also find myself in situations when I don't want to yell but end up shouting even on small things n my son do not listen to me at all even if I shout or even slap. I m a working mother of two, 3. 5yrs n 7 months. Frustration is everywhere at home, in-laws, office, relationships, n parenting. I will try your methods to help me be a good mother. I do a lot for my children but nobody understands, n I feel more negative in myself that I m not able to play my roles well, but Ur right dear I m here not to please everyone but are for my children n my work responsibilities. I have to make them good human being. I love my children n my work, have to have a good balance between two. Please write about working mother struggles n how to stay calm n positive..

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| Jul 07, 2017

So cool yaar, really helpful tips. I also find myself in situations when I don't want to yell but end up shouting even on small things n my son do not listen to me at all even if I shout or even slap. I m a working mother of two, 3. 5yrs n 7 months. Frustration is everywhere at home, in-laws, office, relationships, n parenting. I will try your methods to help me be a good mother. I do a lot for my children but nobody understands, n I feel more negative in myself that I m not able to play my roles well, but Ur right dear I m here not to please everyone but are for my children n my work responsibilities. I have to make them good human being. I love my children n my work, have to have a good balance between two. Please write about working mother struggles n how to stay calm n positive..

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| Jul 07, 2017

Love it... like me... got a boost up... was guilty of being bad mother... but I understand all hav same wavelength

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| Jul 07, 2017

Very nice! Can relate to every bit of it.

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| Jul 07, 2017

Thnx for ur parenting tips.

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| Jul 07, 2017

Hey Deepti.. Nice post.. honestly, I could completely relate it to my life and day to day chores. Thanks for sharing this insight, it realises me that yes we should try till we succeed... Afterall upbringing kids to nice human beings is a big task for all moms and our main priority.. Thanks once again for this wonderful post.

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| Jul 06, 2017

Nice msg....

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| Jul 06, 2017

yes I liked them. will apply them as well. thank you.

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| Jul 06, 2017

thanks for simple but really wonderful tips, do keep sharing

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| Jul 06, 2017

Truly inspiring Deepti. Just what I need.

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| Jul 06, 2017

when we pursue something our child a reason to follow it.

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| Jul 06, 2017

Good one.. I'll try for it.

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| Jul 06, 2017

very nice idea. .thanks for sharing. .

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| Jul 06, 2017

Very nice..... this is so useful for me

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| Jul 06, 2017

really good... will try for sure...

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| Jul 06, 2017

Very nice... Thank you so much for sharing

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| Jul 06, 2017

thank you so much I really needed for myself and my daughter.

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| Jul 06, 2017

very nice blog :)

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| Jul 06, 2017

good one... self check of ur actions and dialogue was mass

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| Jul 06, 2017

Nicely put. Really helpful. Thanks for remiding all the moms to take care of them as well, along with the child.

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| Jul 06, 2017

nicely penned,can corelate ...i do repent evrytime I yell at my son... this is goin to help a lot... thanx...

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| Jul 06, 2017

I think I really needed something like this to read. I feel relaxed now. I ll try to follow this.

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| Jul 06, 2017

I think I really needed something like this to read. I feel relaxed now. I ll try to follow this.

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| Jul 06, 2017

Very nice article

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| Jul 06, 2017

It's good n inspiring n positive

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| Jul 06, 2017

this is really help full.... all the points u have mentioned , I experiencing too. negative talks, in free time at night and morning, phone, pleasing everyone at home, not talking care of my self...... becoming difficult for me to give my self and and even to my daughter proper time..... and sometimes even after controlling I yelled at her or give her a slap (that is worse , I know) but couldn't control myself.....

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| Jul 06, 2017

it's really good

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| Jul 06, 2017

Aftr reading this, I realised I was going to same situation and was harsh on my 11 month old son, will try to follow "no more yelling" frm today itself.

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| Jul 05, 2017

Very nice article

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| Jul 05, 2017

Very nice.

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| Jul 05, 2017

hi

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| Jul 05, 2017

mee too facing this prblm wd my 4 yrs daughter Nd I hope this will wrk. if u feel there is an other way to control this yelling plz share as my daughter really get angry very soon Nd hits everyone

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| Jul 05, 2017

nice one.

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| Jul 05, 2017

yup I agree vth u I too yell on my little daughter nw n dn which results into she is so scared of me... for yelling of small issue there r rsn such as triedness I feel more as u said... cz after long day when I think there is no such strong reasons for y I yell on her... vil try as per ur blog

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| Jul 05, 2017

useful information for every mom.

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| Jul 05, 2017

very nice and useful information.

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| Jul 05, 2017

very effective.... but what to do.... when child doesnot do most of d chores by themselves... which can b done by them

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| Jul 05, 2017

Thank you so much for this blog. It's pretttttttty amazing! Lovely lil do its! Thanks!

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| Jul 05, 2017

This is helpful to some extent but what if you said something 10 times to your daughter and she still don't listen to it. What if she irritates every time when i asked her to give me water. There are many things which can't be solved by staying calm. And each and every thing u cannot write or make understand in a blog. I had tried many things it does affect but does not change the situation. Either u have to do with her own way or scolding remains the only option.

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| Jul 05, 2017

I loved this blog.. all points have their own logic..... I knew some theory before but now I m more clear about how to do ....I loved 4 th one mutual check and 5 th one the most..

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| Jul 05, 2017

thanq so much madam for your valuable information

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| Jul 05, 2017

Very nice blog Dipti. I felt as if I'm reading what I'm going through. I totally agree to this and I'm sure by keeping a check on myself I'm becoming a very strong person from inside as well as we create healthy relationships.

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| Jul 05, 2017

Nice blog deepti.. This will help me n my daughter

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| Jul 05, 2017

Thanks. I m definitely try this.

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| Jul 05, 2017

Hi Deepti. I read your suggestions & simply loved them, as they are very simple & logical to follow. Would surely try them , as I too have started yelling at my son, which is very wrong. Thanks Deepti.

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| Jul 05, 2017

Nice one.... would definetly try this out. . Thank u☺

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| Jul 05, 2017

There was no suggestuin about how to make ur child listen without yelling as claimed by the heading of the article... sorry not useful

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| Jul 05, 2017

Thanks a ton for writing this article..... I am pouring out all my warm good motherly wishes on you...... this article is come exactly at the time when I am facing a same situation as has happened with u..... U have penned down everything marvelously and have made it seem that it is achievable.... love u with all m y heart

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| Jul 05, 2017

superb nd thanks for sharing , l m going to trythis

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| Jul 04, 2017

Very useful tips, it needs much more patience. I will definetely try. Thank u.

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| Jul 04, 2017

Very useful tips.. I will try to follow these

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| Jul 04, 2017

Nice suggestions. ....Vl try to implement

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| Jul 04, 2017

Very well written.

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| Jul 04, 2017

No yelling BT how.. :( after telling my 4. 5 yr old daughter not to play wid water ..she ignored me n fill the polybag wid water n put the lots of stuff along wide AC remote in it.. n of course, I yelled at her.. :(

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| Jul 04, 2017

Really a nice one.... vl surely try my bestto get a gud result

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| Jul 04, 2017

Very nice article.... will surely try.

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| Jul 04, 2017

Gd suggestion.. will definately try...

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| Jul 04, 2017

Nice article... seems true with me and my son.. Will try

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| Jul 04, 2017

Good article

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| Jul 04, 2017

really nice to read positive thing. positiveness helps a lot..

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| Jul 03, 2017

Gud suggestions wil definately try

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| Jul 03, 2017

nice

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| Jul 03, 2017

mast

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| Jul 03, 2017

nice suggestions..

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| Jul 02, 2017

will try the next time when my kid is cranky

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| Jul 02, 2017

very nice we all must try

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| Jul 02, 2017

nice article.. surely wil try :)

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| Jul 02, 2017

Good one... Thanks for sharing.. I wil surely try this

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| Jul 02, 2017

Good one

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| Jul 02, 2017

Thanks for sharing

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| Jul 02, 2017

Very helpful and good suggestion

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| Jul 01, 2017

nice suggestions.... will definitely try

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| Jul 01, 2017

Nice article Deepthi

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| Jul 01, 2017

Great article... Really motivating.... Will try to implement

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| Jul 01, 2017

nice im gona try this. hope this works

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| Jul 01, 2017

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| Jul 01, 2017

it's really good... i 'll try it too

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| Jul 01, 2017

i will try these methods wid my children... liked it

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| Jul 01, 2017

Very well articulated Deepti.... and yes when we go back to think that why did we yell or screamed the answers are frustration,tiredness, negativity ... and the child's actions were not so big that we had to yell...... One thing more ... a professional would write and suggest as a professional while a mother would write what she actually practiced.. good write

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| Jul 01, 2017

Nice ones let me also try

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| Jul 01, 2017

really good ways to teach ourselves

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| Jul 01, 2017

nice suggestion. I will try.

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| Jul 01, 2017

nice suggestions ... I don't yell at my child frequently but still I do. So I wld luv to implement it in ma lyf... thanks...

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| Jul 01, 2017

very nice suggetions

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| Jul 01, 2017

nice one

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| Jul 01, 2017

Excellent ideas... I really liked all the tips in the blog.

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| Jul 01, 2017

excellent blog

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| Jul 01, 2017

loved all your ideas... will surely gonna implement wid my kid... thanks for sharing... you gonna be a great contribution to my parenting journey

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| Jul 01, 2017

superb blog.... practical approach to control the anger... n agreed dat v also have to take care of our selves as a happy n healthy mom grows a happy n healthy child

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| Jul 01, 2017

well said.. but i m wrkng mim.. its been difficult fir me to calm myself.. what to do?

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| Jul 01, 2017

well suggested.... though I m following some of them on my own n now I'll try to follow rest of them.... wen u feel low during the course blogs like this motivate u to restart again with full energy... thank u for sharing ur experiences..

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| Jul 01, 2017

superbbbbb , I m gonna follow some of them now as I already applied some at my own. thanku for such a practical approach u shared here.

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| Jul 01, 2017

very well written. mutual check point is superb

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| Jul 01, 2017

nice and agreed

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| Jul 01, 2017

Very positive approach of parenting n hw to control our yelling.

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| Jul 01, 2017

thnx for sharing.. I'm sure its gonna help

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| Jul 01, 2017

I completely agree with point 3 as i too realised the fact with few people and started avoiding those people who makes us feel,that we aren't worthy enough. All other points are clearly penned and very much valid to follow.

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| Jul 01, 2017

all points mentioned are too good.. thanks for sharing

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| Jul 01, 2017

very true and positive too

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| Jul 01, 2017

Very nice n useful blog..

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| Jul 01, 2017

Excellent points and I completely agree with you. I'm going to try this myself with my son.

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| Jun 30, 2017

very well written... all the suggestions are so true , thanks a lot for sharing it

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| Jun 30, 2017

Too good a blog . ... all the points mentioned are so so true.... After reading , I sat for a minute and recalled few occasions where I yelled unnecessary on my lil princess... Thanks a ton for sharing.

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| Jun 30, 2017

thanks deepti thakur

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| Jun 30, 2017

I will try to do as much as I can..

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| Jun 30, 2017

The techniques are very helpful. I will read this blog over and over again to reduce yelling at my daughter. Thanks a lot for a very useful blog.

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| Jun 30, 2017

Very well written.. n you are absolutely right. we yells at our kids mostly due to frustration n tiredness. Such blogs fill positive energy in me n help me to inculcating gentle touch in parenting.

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| Jun 30, 2017

Yes deepti. I am extremely agree with ur article that angerness and frustration is not a solution with children's. Childs became stubborn with anger. NYC articles by u. It heps so many moms...

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| Jun 30, 2017

thanks a lot i will try my best to follow your precious suggestion no matter how many times i failed.

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| Jun 30, 2017

Thanks for the timely blog Deepti...

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| Jun 30, 2017

oh God is have written an awesome article I m feeling much better now thanks a ton

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| Jun 30, 2017

thank u for ur timely article .I loose cool often on my daughter then feel bad as she is mischievous and I m exhausted .I feel bad after yelling .thanks again

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| Jun 30, 2017

Hi Deepthi! I really liked Ur article. it is also my personal experience that yelling is not at all an effective tool especially for girls. as a mother of two daughters I have learned a lot to calm down myself. actually the truth is we yell as we are very tired of doing things and have no rest throughout the day. yelling creates fear initially but later it may not do any good. patience and tolerance is the only key for parenting

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