My son is 6 years old, in 2020, he was 3. 5 when pandemic had stricken and he was socially disconnected for the next 2 years, TV (YouTube) became his entertainment, I was working mom till 2020. In 2021, my father passed away, next day my mom got hospitalized, for the next 8 months I had to take care of mom, son and the house, that year I couldn't take care of his studies . In Feb 2022, we started getting complaints from school. Till June 2022, he wasn't good at writing or learning, In July 2022, I attended phonics and he learnt 12 letters in 18 days now he reads phrases but still he is behind his peers. Being working mom and family demise, I could not take care of his studies prior but now I have been teaching him English through Phonics. We put him in another school. But, complaints like he can sit for one hour only, then he starts to move in the classroom, inattentive and also does not allow others to pay attention, taps on classmates, throw things at them or on floor, if aggressive, he bites teachers and students, throws things, pushes bench, runs outside the class. And, after one hour, he constantly has the need to move or run. He plays with children peacefully but in school, he is quite different. He started speaking after my father's demise in 2021, earlier he wasn't communicative verbally much but non-verbally more he used. He is intelligent, bright but just that learns things differently, rote learning method has never worked for him. People have labelled him Autistic or ADHD (there is not much studies that confirm the right diagnosis and just looking at symptoms, wrongly diagnosis has been done in the past). What is it that you will want me to do in his case?
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Updated on Aug 26, 2022
| Aug 26, 2022
Jessie Velusamy i understand your concern. As i gone through your query, it is clear that Your child is very interested in learning new things, and these types of children are not fond of monotony. they gets bored of doing same thing or sitting at same place.. And these types of childrens will be more intelligent indeed. They just wants to discover new things. Just relax, will share you one blog, hope that will help you in this situvation.
| Aug 26, 2022
Jessie Velusamy Hey! I find this parent blog really interesting. I suggest you have a look too: How to stop a child from hitting & hurting others https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/how-to-stop-a-child-from-hitting-hurting-others/5898?ptref=sa0l0026n9804ju
| Aug 26, 2022
Blogs- https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/how-to-raise-an-assertive-child/571 Jessie Velusamy this blog will help you.
| Aug 26, 2022
Jessie Velusamy I can completely understand your concern and I am sorry that you had to go through this. Kudos to you dear for staying strong all throughout and dealing with it head on. Clearly there has been inability of the child to express clearly through words so he is using other non verbal ways to communicate his frustration such as throwing away things and hitting others. So Number one : even if the diagnosis is Not clear, we need to work towards speech development of the child so that he feels able to communicate himself through words. Two: I can clearly see that child can't stay put at a place for long so definitely hyperactivity is there and child needs sensory strategies or intervention to deal with it. So we need to focus on that part as well. Third, there is a developmental lag, so probably at the chronological age of 6 years he is behaving like a 4 year old or so. That's what tests would be able to suggest clearly i. e. the developmental lag and the IQ.
| Aug 26, 2022
Fourth: I beleive we need to focus on the minutest details to rule out autism such as his eating habits, anything worrisome about bodily movements, eye contact, understanding of instructions, behaviour while solo play or in a group setting, or in an unstructured schedule, is there stimming or anything unusual about his behaviour that you have noticed.
