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What Are 5 Interesting Ways to Ask Your Child 'How was School Today' ?

Ankita A Talwar
3 to 7 years

Created by Ankita A Talwar
Updated on Apr 19, 2019

What Are 5 Interesting Ways to Ask Your Child How was School Today
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Most children seem to become tight-lipped as soon as they are faced with the question – ‘how was school today?’ They just don’t want to talk about school or seem to forget what happened in school! Well, don’t worry—it is not that they are hiding something or that they are suffering from some memory ailment. It is just that the familiar routine at the school, day in day out, seems to blur out specific memories and all days start to look similar to them—well almost! So, how can you get your child to tell you all about their activities in school? Read on to find out!

5 Questions to Ask Instead Of “How Was School Today?”

Here are some quick, snappy questions you can ask them to elicit information out of the little tot, without really seeming nosey and irritating them, or helping them flashback on a particular day.

  1. You want to know: What happened in School today?

    Ask instead: What did you enjoy the most in school today? Reason: Simply asking the child day after day, what happened in school today, will evoke no memories of moments spent in school, but enticing them to share what they enjoyed the most, will make them reflect on the day spent. Chances of them telling you not only what they enjoyed, but also what they didn’t enjoy and in a way summarizing the day for you are higher
  2. You want to know: Did you finish your meal/tiffin in school?

    Ask instead: Did you like the sandwich (or whatever you served in the Tiffin) today? In cases, where the school offers the meal, you can gently tease the child into telling you whether she finished her meal or not by asking, “Did the school again serve you boring parantha-subzi?” (or pick up one item from the school menu that your child particularly dislikes or likes). Reason: Trying to get the child to answer in a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’ fashion after a few days, will make the child feel she is being interrogated and children don’t like that. But asking a vague question will not only make them correct you (“Mumma, I wasn’t served parantha-subzi but was given idli today”) but also prompt them to engage in a conversation with you (“Mumma the idli was very spicy/or I liked the ketchup in the sandwich”). [Read - How To Make Meal Plan Interesting For Your Child?]
  3. You want to know: Did (name) a particular child again bother you today?

    Ask instead: Did anyone get a time-out from the teacher today? Reason: Believe it or not preschoolers have an ego to carry around and sometimes out of ego/scare of being scolded/shame of being pushed around, makes them not willing to talk to you directly. And if you ask them too much, you may end up pushing them further in their shells. But asking them indirectly will make them talk to you if they notice they are not the target of the question. “Oh yes, Mumma, ma’am scolded (name) for pushing me”. Also, in this case, if a particular batch-mate in your child’s class is bothering her too much, through the indirect question you show the child that you stand by her and that the behavior of the other one is not endorsed by you. (But in case it is a question of bullying, please involve the teacher as well and talk gently to the child.)
  4. You want to know: How was school today?

    Ask instead: What did teacher praise you for in school today? Reason: Children evade direct questions, but a teaser like this makes them feel important and they want to tell you the highlights of the day. “Ma’am praised me for finishing my worksheet on time.” So, now you know that 1) not only was a worksheet done in school but apparently, 2) your tiny tot did a decent job of it too. Job well has done!. READ: What Did You Do in School today?
  5. You want to know: Did you not enjoy school today (in case the child is looking a little low when back from school) Ask instead:

    Did the teacher get upset with you for not being able to remember the rhyme (you could name any other activity here)? Reason: Again the idea is to avoid asking questions that sound like an interrogation at the end of which the child dreads there will be a judgment. Also by naming an activity that you know may or may not be the cause of grief, you open a channel for your child to talk, the first step being that he will correct you and say that “Rhymes did not happen today” or “I did my rhymes well, but….”)

And Few More Questions

Here are some more sample questions through which you can engage your child into telling you how the school was without sounding like a policeman -

  • What made you laugh today? (You will get an insight into not only the activities but also the friends the child has
  • Tell me a new word you heard today
  • Who would you like to sit next to in school tomorrow (again will get you the names of the children, your little one is bonding within the class)
  • What all did you use a pencil today for?
  • What was the best part of lunch today?

But at the end of this remember, nothing lasts forever with children and the life of these questions is also limited…so after a few months, you may need to re-think your questions…till then, happy parenting! [Also Read - What Are Essential Food Swaps to Maintain Child’s Weight?]

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| Jul 04, 2016

good one!

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| Jul 04, 2016

This is really a good way to know what happened in the school

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| Jul 04, 2016

its looks really helpful

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| Jul 04, 2016

Very useful...

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| Jul 04, 2016

Nice blog Very useful

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| Jul 04, 2016

nice blog,its really good

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| Jul 05, 2016

Good read

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| Jul 05, 2016

Interesting questions to ask your child. Thank you Ankita!

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| Jul 05, 2016

Really appreciate your efforts...... very useful..... keep up the good work

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| Jul 07, 2016

Very well written.. will surely try

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| Jul 08, 2016

we see todlers always wants to be praised,unknowingly they might tend to tell something just to get praises or some bad incident like pushed/hurted by friend few days ago but telling the same incident again and again ...in such cases how will we be able to realise wether it happned or not. coz kids are too small to remember when tht incident happened for us to actually know

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| Jul 19, 2016

Well said!! Thank s alot.... i always used to ask lik these qus oly.... so m dng good...

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| Jul 21, 2016

Very nice blog.

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| Aug 02, 2016

well said

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| Aug 02, 2016

Very well written and very helpful.

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| Aug 02, 2016

Well written. Will definitely keep in mind when required. Thank you.

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| Aug 03, 2016

well, really helpful

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| Aug 04, 2016

The way of questions u tell us are very nice. generally we are asking to our children like that and they are not answering properly... but your way of asking is really good and effective. thank u.

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| Aug 05, 2016

well said

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| Aug 10, 2016

Good insight.. I agree.

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| Aug 31, 2016

Nice one n it worked for me thanks alot

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| Sep 15, 2016

Nice

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| Sep 15, 2016

My kid also doesn't respond to straight way questions, and I really get worried for this. I will even try out your way of asking. Appreciate it. Nice blog

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| Sep 16, 2016

nice

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| Oct 27, 2016

Good one. My daughter started speaking words n still don't frame sentences. Could you please advise some ways to get these answers.

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| Nov 12, 2016

good post. .thanks for sharing

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| Nov 15, 2016

nice and helpful blog

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| Dec 03, 2016

very helpful for conversation with kids

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| Dec 03, 2016

good

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| Dec 03, 2016

Good article.

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| Dec 03, 2016

thank you so much foe such great inputs!!

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| Dec 04, 2016

thanks for such a great tips

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| Dec 04, 2016

very nice

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| Dec 04, 2016

thanks for the nice tips...

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| Dec 04, 2016

good vay of asking

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| Dec 05, 2016

thanks for sharing.. I was facing Same problem.. but i wil implement dis point in me.

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| Dec 05, 2016

Thanks for sharing. It will certainly help me.

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| Dec 05, 2016

Believe me.. Today itself I was thinking to ask same question for my baby.... She also doesn't tell me anything abt school.. Bt now I will try d same way as described in d blog.. Thank u thank u so much...

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| Dec 05, 2016

Gud suggestions

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| Dec 06, 2016

Excellent suggestions.. Thank you for sharing..

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| Dec 06, 2016

Nice thanks for the suggestions

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| Dec 07, 2016

Very nice thanks

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| Dec 07, 2016

very helpful. Thank you

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| Dec 08, 2016

Interesting method

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| Dec 08, 2016

Very useful. Thankyou. Most parents face such a situation.

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| Dec 08, 2016

Nice

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| Dec 08, 2016

Thank u. Its very much useful to know your kid.

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| Dec 09, 2016

very good

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| Dec 10, 2016

thanks will try today

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| Dec 11, 2016

Thts really cool... thx a ton

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| Dec 13, 2016

very useful... thanks a lot

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| Dec 13, 2016

very helpful. ...thanx

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| Dec 13, 2016

that is really a easy way to talk our little one...... thnks

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| Dec 13, 2016

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| Dec 14, 2016

good one... quite helpful tips

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| Dec 16, 2016

hope dis ll help me... good

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| Dec 22, 2016

really helpful

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| Jan 02, 2017

very informative... nicely explained

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| Jan 06, 2017

really asking questions that would prove responses is a good idea to get out the child plus keeps the parents updated with the activities and stuff that happen in the school..

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| Jan 06, 2017

Really nice

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| Jan 06, 2017

Really nice

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| Jan 07, 2017

Too good

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| Jan 09, 2017

Too Good

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| Jan 09, 2017

Good points thanks

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| Jan 09, 2017

Points to be noted!! Very useful!!!!

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| Jan 09, 2017

Indeed ....goody questions

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| Jan 10, 2017

Useful Points.. Thank you

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| Jan 10, 2017

nice

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| Jan 10, 2017

very useful thank you

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| Jan 10, 2017

HOPE IT WILL HELP ME THANKS

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| Jan 10, 2017

Useful information

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| Jan 11, 2017

nice...

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| Jan 11, 2017

useful points. Hope it will work

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| Jan 11, 2017

Nice explanation

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| Jan 11, 2017

nice

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| Jan 11, 2017

Found it very useful.

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