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Growing Up Rich Wasn’t Easy — Bill Gates’ Daughter Reveals the Hidden Pressure Behind the Fortune
Published: 04/12/25
Updated: 04/12/25
When you think of the children of billionaires, you might picture a life of ease. But for 22-year-old Phoebe Gates, being the daughter of one of the world’s richest - Bill Gates, came with a different burden.
In a recent interview on the podcast The Burnouts, Phoebe spoke candidly about her upbringing under the global spotlight. She described it as privileged but tough, admitting the advantages were real but so were the emotional and social costs.
She recalled that growing up as a Gates kid meant constant awareness of who she was and what the family name carried. She acknowledged that while she was lucky to have access to everything many could only dream of, she was often under pressure to prove herself: “I had so much insecurity and such a desire to prove myself,” She mentioned.
No Special Treatment
Unlike what many assume about children born into extreme wealth, Phoebe and her siblings didn’t get to coast on their family name. In fact, during their early years, the children didn’t even use ‘Gates’ as their last name. Instead they went by their mother’s surname ‘French.’ This was intentional. Their parents wanted them to build friendships and identities without the weight of a billionaire name.
By the time Phoebe went to college at Stanford University, she knew people would see her differently. In interviews she admitted that navigating college life with the nepo-baby label added stress and self-doubt.
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Carving Out Her Own Path
Phoebe didn’t shy away from the challenge of forging an identity separate from her family’s legacy. After graduation, she co-founded a business. Her parents required that she finish college first. Ironically, this was different from her father’s story where Bill dropped out of Harvard to found Microsoft.
Her startup and ventures are proof she’s striving to build something on her own.
Money ≠ Peace of Mind
Phoebe’s story shows that enormous wealth and privilege don’t guarantee emotional ease. She said the sense of being constantly observed, judged, and compared - whether by peers or by public expectations was a heavy load to carry.
Growing up rich and famous meant not just opportunities, but also isolation, identity questions, and a persistent need to prove that she was more than just the daughter of Bill Gates.
Wealth and privilege don’t protect against inner doubt, social pressure and identity struggles.
Phoebe is proof that even in gilded environments, what matters most is who you become, not what you inherit.
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