Child Psychology and Behaviour

Bullying in children: An Underrated harassment (Part-1)

Shikha Batra
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Bullying in children An Underrated harassment Part 1

Bullying, unfortunately, is a reality most children and even young adults are living with. It is an underrated phenomenon with most parents having a tendency to ignore it. But if not dealt with, it can have serious consequences for the growing child. Here is something you should know about bullying.


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Shikha Batra

| Dec 25, 2015

Thanks Sonia Dua for your feedback. I agree completely with u schools,parents,teachers and children should all work in close conjunction with each other to unroot this underrated harassment.

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Sonia dua

| Dec 24, 2015

I always enjoy your column. Your articles helps us realise our critical and crucial problems in our society and how can we solve them in constructive and practical way. Totally agree with you bullying is matter of great concern and makes children experience in school and in general life miserable and at time frightening. Our joint work must be springboard for serious, effective and sustained program of action encouraging children to speak and ask for help.

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 24, 2015

Hey Sireesha! I completely agree with u! Adults including parents when create unnecessary pressure on their children to do well not because they have the calibre to do it but to outperform their cousin /friend/neighborhood child,it does seem insane. They forget each child is unique and born with different set of genes and in a different environment in which again parents have a major role to play. So how unjust we are in comparing two kids and making one outshine other. How right it is to beat children at home and ban corporal punishment in schools? That's again one serious topic for discussion and calls for parents to introspect.

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Sireesha

| Dec 23, 2015

It happens the same with children when adults bully them n comparing them with other kids in family... I don't understand how to say them to stop doing it..

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 23, 2015

Thanks Jyoti Dua! I quite liked the idea of workshops and rolé plays to be done with kids in school. I believe if this is implemented and schools could invite experts or psychologists who could discuss with children what actually has been happening with them is a serious form of harassment, share strategies to deal with bullying and apprise them that it needs to be immediately brought to the notice of concerned authorities. Interestingly ,not only child being bullied suffer in life because of emotional trauma he/she has gone through but the bullies also at a later stage could get into serious trouble and may have criminal track records if not checked at an earlier stage. Thanks again Jyoti for your feedback. I really appreciate it!

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Jyoti Dua

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi shikha Its quite informative. In my teachimg experience,I noticed that most of the kids who get bullied dont even reliase that something can be done to prevent this n this feeling could be due to many factors n lack of support from parents n school. If parents work in conjunction with the school n other people who kids get in touch with more often,then these issues can be dealt in many ways. Like the cases you mentioned here,we do something similar in our classrooms like scenarios n we call them'Role play' and we ask kids questions like how they would react to something like this if they were the one being bullied in that scenario x or what should hv been done here if they were the witness here and we found that we got the best answers from the kids themselves.. such workshops have been very helpful for kids n we encourage parents to do the same with their kids at home only. Not only it helps kids in understanding but also gives them a fair confidence to be able to deal with such situations in real life very well. Also,In my opinion cyberbullying is affecting kids even harder than one can imagine so going thru with kids abt such incidents of bullying with the help of websites like ceop does help. Also,sometimes Just having a casual conversation with kids abt bullying over the meal times can help too as you want to tell them its ok n one can deal with it as sharing of the problem is the key solution to it n half of the battle is won by sharing only and we as parents, as u said we always have to be vigilant of their unusual behaviours. I enjoyed reading your blog shikha and found it very informative as it answers many questions parents may have in their minds. Hope to read many such more

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 22, 2015

Thanks Bipin! I appreciate it! Yes my next blog is in continuation with this one wherein I have gone a step further to describe bullies and why they have become so, Steps to be taken by parents and caregivers and advise for children being bullied. Please go through it and share your thoughts on the same. Thanks for your feedback.

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi Tarun! Thanks for your feedback. Please read my next blog which is live already. You will find some useful tips to be given to your child whom u feel is being targeted. Hope that helps!

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Bipin

| Dec 22, 2015

Shikha I admire d way you present your blogs. The examples given help us connect immediately w/ d topic being dealt with. Hope your next blog will be on similar lines n throw some light on how to deal with bullies. thanks for touching upon such an imp issue.

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tarun

| Dec 22, 2015

Thank you so much dear for this article. I'm mother of 6. 5yr old boy. my child can't reply to children who abuse him,hit him etc. But he wants to play with them. I don't know how do I react to them. I feels hurt for my child. please suggest. THANKS

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 22, 2015

Thanks Anuradha for sharing your thoughts. I completely agree that we should keep a check on our own children as well from their behavior with siblings/cousins/ agemates and ensure they are not bullying them. We should guide them to accept others with their weaknesses and not use these for teasing or hurting them.

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Anuradha H

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi Shikha, very relevant and important topic. As parents, we never think that another child can harm your child. This is something to keep an eye on. In addition to watching out for signs that your child may be bullied, it is equally important to watch out for signs that your child is becoming a bully and nip it in the bud. Looking forward to read your thoughts in the next blog.

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Priya Srinivasan

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi Shikha, thanks for discussing this important topic.. I think every child goes through this kind of abuse in some form or the other.. Pls explain how to make kids to share or discuss things with us and how we as a parents can help.. Waiting for ur blog

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meenakshi koul

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi Shikha.... thanks for discussing this topic through your blog. Looking forward for your next blog about dealing with this mania.

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi Vini! Please wait for my next blog. I am sure u would get your answer. Tkcare

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SARIKA KATARIA

| Dec 22, 2015

Looking forward to read your next blog

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Vini Mishra mitra

| Dec 22, 2015

Yes shikha ths is a very common problem faced by parents these days.. I can c its harmful effects on my son whoz goin to b 5 soon but cant do much for him... feel vry tensed for him... pls help

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 21, 2015

Thanks Ekta for the positive feedback!

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Ekta Malik

| Dec 21, 2015

Thank you SHikha! This does help a lot and I second you when you say incidences of bullying gets ignored or unnoticed by parents or teachers as mostly children do not report the matter to authorities for the fear of being singled out.

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