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Child Psychology and Behaviour

Bullying in children: How can you help your child!

Shikha Batra
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Bullying in children How can you help your child

Continuing with part 1 of the blog on bullying, this blog shares insights on how as a parent you can control and situation and prepare your child to deal with it as well.


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Shikha Batra

| Apr 01, 2016

Very well said Himani khanna! Thanks for your feedback!

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 Dr Himani Khanna

| Mar 12, 2016

We all need stand against bullying by taking measures at home in school and at community level . Well written article.

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 29, 2015

Hi kavitha! Thanks for yr feedback. I would advise you to please confirm from his classmate/neighborhood friend/ close friend whether that has been the case. Please ensure when u ask this child it's neither sounds like a complaint nor a doubt. Just a casual discussion without revealing what your child is going through as it could pass on some hints about yr child that all is not well. Secondly , once yr doubt is clarified and you are sure that he is actually being bullied u could try steps given in the blog. If that's not the case and it's yr child's own assumption that it's him versus whole class,then please talk it out and help him make friends and clarify his doubts by letting him know that it's not as bad as it seems to him. Hope this works!

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Kavitha

| Dec 29, 2015

Very much informative blog Shikha... My son is 6years old. He does not mingle with anyone. He just wants to be at home. He is complaining of getting hit by someone or the other every day. How do I handle this situation? Please help me.

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Ekta Malik

| Dec 27, 2015

Thanq so meh Shikha. I will do as u have advised. I will ask my husband to do man to man talk with him and figure out what is bothering him. God bless u!

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 26, 2015

Well said Dr. Deepak! Compeletely agree with u on this. A child who retaliates or who is taught to do so with fists and punches is no better than the person bullying them. We should teach our children non-violent dispute resolution techniques which involve use of words, or walking away,bringing the incident to the knowledge of an adult to involving school authorities. Thanks for your feedback Dr. Deepak. I appreciate it!

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Dr Deepak Solanki

| Dec 25, 2015

Well addressed issue indeed ,shikha .This is a worldwide illness that plagues educational institutes right from playschool till higher classes and sometimes even in professional colleges too. I hope parents (selected few) who teach their kids to hit the other kids and praise them for being "brave" by doing so , do learn something from this informative blog. These people should remember being a bully is never a sign of strength ,it's a sign of weakness .

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 23, 2015

Thanks Carol for sharing your personal experiences. I am sure that would help others to understand how sensitive the issue is and any wrong step taken by school or parents could affect the child by having impact on his psyche. The bully or the victim might undergo depression or have low self-esteem and in extreme cases might have suicidal tendencies.. if the matter is not dealt with sensitively. THe steps taken by your child's school were apt and corrective in nature too. It resulted in children having no hard feelings against each other and also take the message back home that it is not good to target someone by attacking on their weakness. As I mentioned in my blog as well, the motive is to deal with the problem practically rather than retaliating against bully or holding grudges against him or his family members. Thanks again for your feedback.

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Carol

| Dec 23, 2015

Shikha, Rightly said as "Underrated Harassment". Most of the time, children get bullied in school as they spend a lot of time there. But Some schools don't take it very seriously and they are not ready to take the responsibility of dealing with the situation. I think one of the important questions we all must ask the management before we take admission in schools is how they handle bullying. In my case, school's guidance counselor and class teacher helped me to a great extent. They handled the situation in an amicable way. This incident happened when my little one was in preschool. In the bus, 2 siblings one in gr 3 and another in gr5 had been calling names and abusing my little one. My son was neither emotionally nor physically hurt as he was too small to understand. But he only sensed that they were ridiculing him. since my son always tells me everything that happens in school, he came and told me the incident and asked for some bad words to call them back which made me realize that even if the child is bold enough to face the bully, there is another major risk i. e he himself can turn into a bully. we were quiet confused whether to approach the parents or the management. The parents can turn defensive or if the management is strict with the bullies, the situation can get worse for my son as he had to travel with them everyday. For the time being my son and I role played and had some dialogues practiced to tell them to stop and also to ignore them. It went well. But still I approached the guidance counselor and the class teacher for help. They spoke to all 3 children at the same time and they mainly focused on the feelings of my son how it would hurt him. They made all 3 to spend sometime together for the next 3 days in the counselor's office reading corner during recess where they read to each other, drew pictures together, on the last day they gave cards to each other. I liked the way they handled the situation as the kids didn't have hard feelings at the end of the day. In the guidance class they discuss the strategies, read books, and do role play different scenario regularly. in fact the scenario is given to groups of children and children themselves plan and act how to react to the situation.. The counselor gives her feedback. This helps the children to make the right choice. As you said, if the behavior is nipped at the beginning itself, every one will have a safe environment. I think we must also explain the children the role of the bystander - how one should stand up for protecting any child when he gets bullied.

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 23, 2015

Thanks Ekta! Well I believe u need to follow your inner voice and talk to your son. Take him for a movie or a long drive and discuss these issues without being judgemental. please don't react when he tries to open up as that can make him avoid sharing his heart out and not divulge what he is going through. You could even ask his father to have a talk with him or talk to his close buddies to clarify your doubts. Hope this helps!

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 23, 2015

Thanks Bipin! I am glad u found it useful!

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Ekta Malik

| Dec 23, 2015

Thank you so mch shikha for this blog. My 10 year son does not share easily whether he has some issues or problems at school but I have this feeling that he is not happy with his friends circle. What should my role be as a parent to help him open up and then solve his problem . Please guide me on this.

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Bipin

| Dec 23, 2015

Hey shikha it was worth waiting for it. Replies most of our doubts. Thank u again. keep writing!

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